Am Confused

i think yes, a father should manage his time so that he can spend time with his children

Some cultures are different than mine so I can't speak to that. But what I can tell you is that if two people love each other and work together it doesn't matter who spends the most time with the kids. If either parent has a sucky attitude toward the other parent the kids will see and feel that. Life is not always equal or even or fair but if you stop thinking about in that light it is doable. In my personal opinion a child is best off with a single loving parent than a two parent disaster. However for couple who ARE together raising their families - RESPECT - is required and as even a playing field as possible. Moms and dads both are highly important to a child, boy or girl.

Since it takes two to make a child, both need to be responsible. Don't shift a responsibility to one parent only, even though both of you have divorce. No longer together doesn't mean stop being a parent. If a parent didn't even bother, even though that person has no problem at all, then that person is a problem.

I can speak for myself only. I always ask my husband to have time with our kids. We cannot turn back time when one will say 'why didn't I do this or that before?' Every Saturday, we watch some movies or stay in one room even if we are doing different things.

Both of them should take care of their child upbringing. In my opinion it isn't just a thing that has to be left to mothers only.