They Mocked Me, and Then They Copied Me
By Raine38
@Raine38 (12389)
United States
November 16, 2020 12:28pm CST
I am not very popular, but I would like to say that I can get by in any social setting enough to enjoy myself even if I have few friends in attendance, or there were only a few people there that I know. There is this group of women, whom I call the "Adult Mean Girls" who seem to thrive in making backhanded compliments or underhanded criticisms.
For instance, I bought a silver necklace from Nordstrom Rack during their anniversary sale. It is a necklace with a letter M as a sort of link instead of an actual pendant. It's dainty and cute, and M stands for the first letter of my husband's name. I could have chosen my own initial, but I simply chose not to because that's not what I want. When they saw me wearing that necklace, and after explaining to them how it came to be, they made comments about how they think it's tacky, or how it seems like I am branding myself. I have to admit that it irritated me a bit, but I just shrugged it off and said that it's not for everyone, but I love it. Fast forward to 2 months, and the husband of one of those ladies is wearing a similar necklace but with her first name initial instead of his.
Then there is another instance when I attended last year's Christmas party. We also received our bonus from work and I have some extra money so I bought a designer purse. I used it to that party, then the Adult Mean Girls asked me about it. Then proceeded to say how it could have fed a family, how it could have been put to a house payment, etc. I just smiled and nodded and moved away. Fast forward to today, and I was scrolling my Facebook when I saw 2 of the ladies' picture with their new purses from the same designer as mine. But the design looks off, so I zoomed and I confirmed that the purses are knockoffs. I thought about messaging them and saying how illegal piracy is, but I thought that I'll just move on and write a myLot post about it.
Funny how people try to put you down, but end up emulating some miniscule details of your life. No I don't feel like I'm better than them, gosh no. I just do not understand the need to be mean. If they want to get the same stuff as I do, good for them. No need to be mean to me about it.
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@thelme55 (77164)
• Germany
16 Nov 20
Are they Pinays? I have noticed something like this in Pinay groups in Germany where I used to be invited. I didn´t like that kind of behavior and so I didn´t go to their group anymore. I keep away from them. When they see me in the city, they talked to me but mostly about others. It is better to keep away from those mean women, Pinays or not.
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@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
16 Nov 20
You nailed it! Yes, unfortunately these people who try to make me feel bad about my choices are also from the Philippines. They have been here for decades, and like I mentioned I've only been here a little over 5 years, so I guess they feel like I should defer to them since they know what they are talking about.
I did start to distance myself from these ladies, and from others who exhibited some similar toxic behavior. I tried to do it discreetly but they also caught on that I am no longer hanging out with them as much as I used to, even prior to the pandemic. Some even tried to sensationalize my decision by asking me if I made enemies with the group, but I just shrugged off the questions because I can tell them the truth yet they will still believe what they want to believe.
It's been a long time since I last saw them. They still keep to hanging out, without inviting me anymore, not that it bothers me to be honest. Then from these group's constant hanging out they contracted the virus and their families have to quarantine. Then last I heard is that they all ended up fighting over money. I know this because they like to take their arguments on Facebook for everyone to see. I swear it is so embarrassing, I hope other people will not think that we're all like that.
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@thelme55 (77164)
• Germany
16 Nov 20
@Raine38 It is similar to what is happening here. I live in Germany for almost 4 decades longer than the others in the city where I live. I only have few Pinay friends here and only those who are not mean to others. Like me, they were also keeping away from those toxic fellow countrywomen. We have our own group where we can only laugh with each other and being respectful and kind to each other.
I can only advise you to keep away from them as they will always find something to "tsismis" about you negatively.
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@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
7 Dec 20
hmm. better for you because yours are original and theirs are not orig , and fake. haha
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@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
8 Dec 20
I think so too, but now my preference has again changed. I don’t like the tacky and designer name bags splashed with logos anymore. Honestly at first I enjoyed them, but now, it’s like it’s just as good as the other purse from a lesser known brand without the hefty price tag, sometimes even better. So while they start to one-up each other on who’s got the most and best designer purses, I am just content with what I have and those from cheaper brands. Everyone and their mothers are now practically carrying the same stuff it’s ridiculous 
@MarieCoyle (38735)
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22 Nov 20
In plain words, they are bullies. And they are enjoying putting you down to make themselves feel important. This is sick behaviour, and I am sorry they are doing this to you. You deserve better. Some people are small and petty. You will find other people to be with that are better than that. I am so sorry that happened to you.
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