My Decision
By jaishankar
@Shivram59 (36466)
India
November 24, 2020 5:40am CST
My friend's younger brother is going to be married.The venue is in New Delhi, hundreds of kms from here.It's a place where corona is spreading fast.It is the third wave of corona there.
A very limited number of people will attend the ceremony.My friend is insisting me to attend the marriage, but I'm helpless.In fact,I'm unwilling to go a hotplace of the pandemic.I don't want to take the slightest of risk.
Secondly,if I decide in favour of attending the marriage, I would have to take permission from my boss and after returning from there would have to remain in quarantine for 15 days.This is the policy of my office.
I have very politely explained it to my friend.He has understood my problem.But he is sad.He wants to enjoy the occasion with me.Situation is such that the marriage can't be postponed.
What do you think,friends?? Did I take the right decision??
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13 responses
@rakski (126043)
• Philippines
24 Nov 20
@Shivram59 this will pass, I am sure your friend will understand the situation. You will all be at risk
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@rakski Thanks,my friend.I have explained everything to my friend, and he is agree with me.I'm sad though,because I could not help disappointing my friend.We have been closest friends since our childhood and join each other on every occasion,but the time is different now. I'm worried about my friend's and his family's safety.....Thanks again.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
24 Nov 20
@Shivram59
If you do not feel comfortable going there and that you would have to go into quarantine was the right thing to do by telling your friend how you feel. You have to take care of yourself. I know your friend wanted you there with him, but, I hope he will understand why it is hard for you to go there.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
25 Nov 20
@Shivram59
I am sorry I cannot tell you what he should or should not do. It is his family so he probably feels an obligation, but, if he feels like he is very afraid to go maybe he should not and try and explain to them and if they do not understand it is that is their problem then.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
25 Nov 20
@Hannihar No,he will have to go and attend the wedding.The function is in his family.If he decides not to go, it would be very very embarrassing for his family and adversely affect his relations with his family members.I have warned him against carelessness and to follow all coving 19 guidelines.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@Hannihar Thanks for responding,my friend.I have explained everything to my friend and he has understood it.But now he is scared of going there
and I'm helpless..I can't insist him to go and attend the wedding,nor can I dissuade him from going there.Tell me,please,what I should do.
and I'm helpless..I can't insist him to go and attend the wedding,nor can I dissuade him from going there.Tell me,please,what I should do.1 person likes this
@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
24 Nov 20
I think you are right in your decision not to go my friend.
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@RebeccasFarm (90464)
• Arvada, Colorado
24 Nov 20
@Shivram59 Yes it is very good that he is an understanding friend. Better to be safe than sorry, however congratulations to your friend.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@RebeccasFarm Thanks for responding. I have very politely explained my point to my friend,and my friend has understood my problem.There is no point in going to a pandemic hotshot and invite the Chinese virus home.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@RebeccasFarm Thanks,my problem.But a new problem has arisen.Now my friend has got scared. Would you please tell me what to do?? What should I say to him??
Would you please tell me what to do?? What should I say to him??1 person likes this
@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
28 Nov 20
@sarik1 Thanks,my friend.Many many thanks.
I know my friend wants me to join him in the wedding, but it's very risky.
I know my friend wants me to join him in the wedding, but it's very risky.1 person likes this
@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
25 Nov 20
@jdbces Actually my friend's father requested the girl's parents to postpone the marriage for at least two or three months,but they refused.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@jdbces Thanks for responding, my friend.You wk be glad to know I have convinced my friend.I know he will enjoy with his family,but I'm worried.I'm worried for him and his family.Imagine,they will enjoy in a city that is now the hotshot of the pandemic.
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@jdbces (1845)
• Philippines
25 Nov 20
@Shivram59 I understand how concern you are to their family. I guess they're somehow taking the situation lightly. I wish for their safety.
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@Treborika (17853)
• Mombasa, Kenya
25 Jan 23
You don't go to the wedding ceremony. This is because you can contract the virus down there.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
26 Jan 23
@Treborika Yes.Most of the people who went there got infected.What else could I do??
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@Treborika (17853)
• Mombasa, Kenya
26 Jan 23
@Shivram59 You made the right decision
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
26 Jan 23
@Treborika Thanks.if you had been in my place;you too would have taken the same decision.
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 20
I had to choose not to attend multiple weddings here. Cases might low but chances it still around. I prefer not to take risk. It's a different story if I am living alone but there are still have others in this house. I refuse to bring danger to them.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@prinzcy Thanks for responding.That's what I think.Corona will not come to me unless and until I go to it.My friend's family will go there .Others who will be present there are from New Delhi,the hotshot of corona.They all will come in contact with each other.Consequences may be scary.That's why I declined his invitation.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@msdivkar You are right, but the girls parents are not ready for.it.They want the marriage to be conducted at their forefathers' house..I'm extremely.worried for my friend and all his family and also for those who wlike attend the ceremony.My.
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@msdivkar (23359)
• India
24 Nov 20
@Shivram59 We can't change people's sentiments.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@msdivkar Exactly.My friend's father tried to make the girl's family to postpone the marriage for at least two months, but the later refused.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
25 Nov 20
@JWMILLER Thanks for responding.My friend has also understood my point.But now I'm worried about him and his family.
@saumitra1 (404)
•
26 Nov 20
Yes you have taken the right decision..Your friend also will understand about this..
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
26 Nov 20
@saumitra1 Thanks.My friend has understood my point.But now I'm worried about him.
@saumitra1 (404)
•
12 Jan 21
@Shivram59 And if your friend understood your point why are you worried..
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@Nevena83 I have explained my point to my friend and he has understood why I don't want to go there.But the problem is that now he is scared.Tell me what to do.
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@Nevena83 Many wedding ceremonies are taking place in our country.
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
24 Nov 20
@Shivram59 I don't understand why he had to have a wedding now?
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@GodServantme (1541)
•
26 Nov 20
It's a thought decision my friend hope the one who Invited u to attend the wedding is Not mad Angry at u
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
26 Nov 20
@GodServantme No,dear,he is one of my best friends.And he is neither mad,nor angry.He was just overexcited.Now he has understood my point.
No,dear,he is one of my best friends.And he is neither mad,nor angry.He was just overexcited.Now he has understood my point.
@dinosponge (35)
• Malaysia
24 Nov 20
your decision is good, its prepare the best for the worst. Hope you, your friend and his family happy, and healthy of course
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@Shivram59 (36466)
• India
24 Nov 20
@dinosponge Thanks for responding.I'm glad you supported my decision. I am worried about my friend and his family.They are going to a city where corona is spreading fast.There some of those may be corona carriers.They will come in contact with each other.They all will be in my prayers.
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