A family situation
By Akke Ladye
@Mga_715 (89)
Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
December 12, 2020 9:00pm CST
2 days ago, we decided to visit relatives (they are husband and wife) who I used to live with for a few months when I was still in college. It was long ago the last time I saw them due to the pandemic and I decided that they might be thrilled to see my kids because it was quite sometime now the last time they saw my eldest and it would be the first time to see my second child. I decided to message my aunt that we are coming over for dinner and just don't worry about the food as we are gonna bring some for all of us to share. It was a great night, they were both happy to see everyone most especially my 4month old child as it was their first time to see her. When we were about to go get ready to go home, I mentioned to them that there are still food on the table, maybe they care to have some more and to have desserts. I was shocked and stunned when my uncle answered and he was not in a good mood (I think and I don't know why), telling me why do I have to bring so much food, one type of food would be enough for all of us and he was also talking about how we waste money on food that we could not finish in one sitting. I understand what he meant but I was hurt as we ordered everything thinking they would just be happy that we are eating together after a long time of not seeing each other. I also have this thought of not to be thrifty when it comes to food as it is a need. I also think that left overs can still be reheated so nothing can be put to waste. I just feel the need to write how I feel after few days of that situation because it bothers me and i just could not believe it.
Thank you for reading and let me know what you think.
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6 responses
@Mike197602 (15512)
• United Kingdom
13 Dec 20
I think you've done absolutely nothing wrong.
I think your Uncle was actually quite rude.
You've gone to visit them for a family dinner and have bought all the food and he's basically complaining there is too much.
Possibly it could have to do with their financial situation or their situation in the past?
Maybe he couldn't have afforded to provide the amount of food that you did and his pride was hurt?
I don't know, but his reaction to me says there's some issue there.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
i would appreciate it since it means not cooking for a while.
just keep them in the fridge.
did they have a bite of everything? i mean i assume you didn't order anything too unusual/exotic for them,, just the usually filipino dishes?
is it only the two of them at home? no other family members?
they could also share some with relatives or neighbors that live nearby so it's not wasted.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
@Mga_715 i see. they can just give some to the neighbors so it's not wasted. and i guess just bring smaller quantities next time. are they seniors? did they lose their income due to the pandemic?
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@Mga_715 (89)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
13 Dec 20
@hereandthere yes definitely a lesson learned. Yes, somehow their income was affected due to the pandemic.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
13 Dec 20
Don't mind your uncle.
It will pass. You've done nothing wrong.
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 20
You did nothing wrong. He didn't have to be rude about it. A guess that brought food over is a blessing. As a host, we should be grateful. Leftovers can be keep in a fridge, it won't be a waste.
That's really uncalled for. I won't hold grudges but I won't be visiting such relative for a very long time.
