Being Grateful doesn't need money to be involve at all
By Metatronik
@Metatronik (6199)
Pasay, Philippines
January 15, 2021 10:37pm CST
I've been reading about the situation of being grateful and the way of giving back especially to our parents. Here in the Philippines it is culture already that the children way of giving back to their parents is by giving money and even giving monthly allowance. Some are giving it by initiating it but some are just being obliged just because of lacking the finances. The sad part of it is that it affects already the marriage life it is because it wasn't discuss as early as possible before marriage and did not even bother to take it seriously. So there the conflict is waving.
On the other hand in my opinion giving back or being grateful to parents doesn't necessarily meaning you really need to give money at all or even giving gifts. I believe being obedient, helpful to them in some works, studying very hard, respecting them as your parents is already ENOUGH as a reward or being grateful.
I just even hate the idea that if you give money you will be having more blessings it is like the money is the measurement of the blessings or being grateful to them. I hate the idea too just because you don't give money then you are ungrateful child already.
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
17 Jan 21
I agree, helping or giving back to the parents or family should not put your own family now at a disadvantage. Unfortunately for our culture, you are not a good son/daughter if you failed to give whatever your parents ask of you, which, usually is monetary. I hate that the parents' reason for having kids is to have someone to take care of them when they get old. That is not a good reason for having kids. My parents still work, even though they can retire already as all of us have finished our studies. But they said they feel like they will start to regress if they stopped working, since they are still healthy and able. Our parents did not raise us with the expectation that we are their retirement plan. Still I give them something every now and then, but they never oblige.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Jan 21
That is really good, it feels really so good to give them without an ask of obligation. It turns me off to give if they are asking for it and with the content of guilt tripping.
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@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
17 Jan 21
@Metatronik I also do not like when some relatives will ask for some help, but they impose me that my help should be a minimum of a certain amount. 
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
21 Jan 21
@Raine38 same feelings I don't really like being force or push that much. At times just because of that it lessens me the feeling that I want to help.
@Deepizzaguy (102707)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
16 Jan 21
The best way to be happy according to self help speaker Wayne Dyer is to serve others with love and then the money rewards will come in due time.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
16 Jan 21
Serve it with sincerity too and because the person cares for it. Not for the sake of acknowledgement or how will people think of that person.
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@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Jan 21
They have ways on how they want to help their parents.
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@mysimplelot (1347)
• Calcutta, India
16 Jan 21
Truely being grateful is good enough. And it will help your soul too.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
17 Jan 21
There are too many ways on how to be grateful and it should not always value on how you give money
@porwest (90286)
• United States
17 Jan 21
Gosh. If this doesn't explain the woes of welfare programs (in our country) I don't know what else does. When you breed a culture of someone else taking care of your basic needs...
You don't work hard to take care of your own basic needs.
Glad my culture here is not like that. Aside from the welfare folks. lol
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
21 Jan 21
I don't understand much what you are trying to imply. Well we work hard for us and for our own family. We can help others as long as you are not suffering. If we have extra we can help.
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@porwest (90286)
• United States
23 Jan 21
@Metatronik My point is that the fact that someone needs help after working so hard means they have done something wrong, and giving them something for nothing doesn't solve the reason they need help at all, at any time in their lives.
