I Got Hurt By Wrong Beliefs
By Arya
@yoalldudes (35037)
Philippines
January 30, 2021 6:31am CST
From reading psychology books and self help books, Ive come across how daughters need their fathers and they will not grow up fine without a father figure. I'm scared that if I enter into a relationship with another man, he might sexually abuse her. So those are my biggest fears.
I weathered the hard times, and I was so happy how it turned out. We were a simple family and we both now have jobs. I am starting to like the family life. My daughter grew up into an awesome girl.
And then all of a sudden, her father get entangled with another woman. Oh well so much for my happy ending.
Now I feel like an undesirable, old hag. Like a rag thrown away. Good thing I found this peace and joy inside of me about enjoying the simple things in life like reading books, surprisingly cooking, and gardening. I will try crocheting with my mother. Oh and thankfully, the internet.
I am also thinking if i could learn to drive that would give me immense joy, roadtrips and nature trips. But I am so horrible at navigation and visual estimation. I dont know if I will ever learn to drive without killing myself or another living being.
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6 responses
@rakski (122903)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
@yoalldudes no one wants her/his life to be out on the public. We can only do so much and we have our shares of mistakes. People just to be judgemental and see mistakes of others first. As long as you do what is right and sincere to you, they do not have a say in what you do
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
I hope so. Thankw. These things are not so easy especially life as a woman is like a pageant and I'm not suited for that 
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
@rakski Oh yes they do have power. My former boss wants to fire me if I dont get married.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
30 Jan 21
We have different kinds of problems that we will encounter in this life. We just need to be strong to face all these issues. Yes, learning new things will certainly help. If you won't start, you will never know that driving is a great experience.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
Oh thank you for your encouragement. I guess I will try. I'm excited. I hope its just like learning how to ride a bike.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
31 Jan 21
@yoalldudes start slowly. At least you'll learn how to before escalate the speed.
@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
Wow really? I love your fighting spirit. I am also thinking seriously about learning to drive. Maybe I can go slowly in the beginning. It won't do harm at 30 kph.
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@eileenleyva (27560)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
Why would you feel like an old hag when you have an awesome daughter, and a simple life reading books and cooking and gardening? Do not allow the father of your daughter affect you. You are you and you alone can dictate your own happiness.
Try to eradicate the ugly thoughts like not learning to drive because you are afraid you'd kill your self.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
31 Jan 21
My partner makes me feel horrible about myself. Thank you for your support.
@TitiaG (251)
• Netherlands
30 Jan 21
You've had a nasty experience, but mind you, not all man are bad. Seems to me you are doing great living by yourself and your daughter. Daughters can grow up very well without a father. Better no father than a bad father. Don't think too low on yourself, you've managed fine sofar. So if you want to learn to drive a car, then go for it. Take some lessons, I'm sure you will do fine.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
I suck at character judgment. So theres that. Thank you for your sisterly advice. I appreciate it and badly need them
@Gguusia (398)
• Poland
30 Jan 21
These situations are very difficult, and I'm sorry you had to go through it. I think it is worth developing and self-improvement, getting to know the world and debating your fears. Try this car. I used to think that I would not be able to manage the wheel, and this time I drive a car and it's ok.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
30 Jan 21
Really? I have horrible navigation skills. I hope like you I can be able to manage to drive my own.
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@Gguusia (398)
• Poland
30 Jan 21
@yoalldudes
In fact, I think driving has helped me solidify the pages I'm going on.
