Are you fond of tough love? / myLot

February 4, 2021 11:31am CST

My family is not a fan of encouraging each other in kind words/ways (maybe one of the reasons why I'm not an expressive person as well). I personally do not like tough love. If a person is going through a hard time, I prefer to give him/her gentle words of wisdom and time to reflect on her situation. How about you?

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Ma. Lourdes Macaya

@macayada (1497)

• Cavite City, Philippines

4 Feb 21

Of course you need to be gentle and kind so as to be heard. When you yell as you express yourself, instead of being heard there is already resistance on what is being said, delivered, or explained. It is like when you express love it is whispered to your ear and so is heard and felt but when you're angry there is distance because the words hurt the ear.

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Mikmath

@Mikmath (103)

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4 Feb 21

I really appreciate your reply. This needs to be seen by more people.

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Ma. Lourdes Macaya

@macayada (1497)

• Cavite City, Philippines

4 Feb 21

@Mikmath Because I have children like you.

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The Horse

@TheHorse (214031)

• Walnut Creek, California

5 Feb 21

I am only into tough love when someone is REALLY screwing up.

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Mikmath

@Mikmath (103)

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5 Feb 21

Like when? But I understand you.

musicman6

@musicman6 (2407)

• United States

5 Feb 21

tough love doesn't mean yelling or being angry at a person, the definition of tough love is, promotion of a person's welfare, by enforcing certain constraints on them, or requiring them to take responsibility for their actions , it doesn't mean not encouraging them nor giving them words of wisdom !

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What'sUp_Cel

@rheicel (7065)

• Philippines

6 Feb 21

If you prefer being gentle, so be it. It is good to be yourself than pretending someone else.