Facing My Own Mortality

My husband was cremated and I will be too.

I think the same kinds of morbid thoughts sometimes. Do I want my ashes spread over Glacier Park Montana? Do I want to be buried in Montana in such a way as to nurture pine trees there? I really don't know. Jockey? As a Horse, I admire that. You have to treat us well to be a "winning jockey."

I'm sure you'll be around for number of years still, you always seem to be so healthy. The only thing I would ask is that I am not embalmed and placed in a simple pine box. The idea that I should give back to mother earth does cross my mind and about the only thing I have to give her is my body.

As a genealogist, cemeteries are a big favorite for me. I have a plot but have no headstone yet, my baby son Daniel is already there. Al & I will be cremated but buried. My son in law John will be there too when Kasey feels able to let him go, right now he is at home with her. I never find it morbid, I find it comforting to be able to go and I love reading headstones. Your husband is wonderful by the way, what more could a person ask than to be lovingly remembered.

I felt that way when we bought our plots a few years ago. It’s a natural feeling but comforting knowing we will be side by side.

What a lovely tribute to your husband. I think it wise for us to stop and consider that our time here is limited, just a vapor as the bible says. I'm fairly healthy, just turned 55 so I think I may have another 20 years or so but there are no guarantees I'll live that many more years. I have had a blessed life and I'm thankful. I have told Mike if something happens to me before him have me cremated, it is cheaper.

It is early you are talking about your own mortality ! I have determined to scatter my ashes when my time comes.

Now see I would find that such a comfort to know where I would be when I pass on. It would be great. RIP your dear beloved.

After our discussion together last week, knowing that today was his anniversary you are not alone today, you are in my thoughts. I don't find this morbid. When we visit our little girl's grave, it says her name, her dates and then beloved daughter of Ron & Julia. When our son was young, he was upset after visiting her grave, and he told me that its always Ron, Julia and Jonathon, and he asked why his name wasn't on the stone. I felt sorry, for not having thought of it thru a child's eyes. I explained that the next trip we would show him that when a child goes the parents names are listed, when a husband passes, there is room for his wife, or vise versa. I also explained to him that his sister was watching over him, even as we spoke. I do think that your choice of stone is quite nice. We have different granite stones over here as they appear different. Take good care Janet.

I don't think it's morbid or were all morbid when we think of those that passed before us. I hope we all have many more years before any writing gets place on any of our headstones. I wondered recently how long it's been but didn't realize that two years had gone by already.

Two years already? That was fast. My father and grandfather were buried. Every year, especially on All Soul’s Day, we visit their graves and offer candles and flowers. I also go there on my father’s birthday

It's a lovely headstone. It's good to know the place is taken care of when you face that time.

Both my parents were cremated, by their own choice. We had their remains buried in a burial plot, they purchased many years ago. Jay and I (by choice) will both be cremated. What will be done with my ashes? Only God knows for sure.

It is a morbid thought but sometimes, I think about that time and have goosebumps. I hope you will still live long

I have not worried that far ahead yet. My first husband was cremated and his ashes buried near his grandparents. Current husband wants to be scattered, I think. I do not know about me.

Have you also planned your own epitaph Wil it be a limerick Would you like to pen it here?

I'm not sure yet if I will be buried or cremated.

I can imagine that must feel strange. I do have regrets that I cannot at least go to my husband's grave but then again I know I would feel sadder than when I just know he is around and I sometimes can feel him. I would have no place beside him anyway because he was buried in his family plot where there are his parents and his grandfather.

2 years, time flies, @jaboUK. I must drop in more often, I did not know.

Not morbid at all in my opinion. Just being real. I hope you live many more years my friend.