How do people even make friends when they're out of school?
By Oneironaut
@_sketch_ (5742)
United States
February 12, 2021 6:21am CST
It is really difficult to make friends with people. People seem willing only to date or hookup with people, but nobody seems to have platonic intention. Do you also have the same problem? How do you meet new people to just socialize with? What are the best ways to interact with people who aren't looking for a romantic partner?
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15 responses
@L_i_zz_y (78)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 21
Yeah, it's kinda hard. I don't go out looking for friends anymore. It seems like my friendship has always been centered around being in the same vicinity with a person.
So if I ever just go somewhere where I spend quite a lot of time, like school or maybe a week-long seminar, I would usually intensely communicate with people I feel a connection with. But when I leave school or the seminar, I also leave the friendship or connection.
I'd love to buy people coffee, but online it doesn't mean the same thing, right? To buy someone coffee online just means you give that person some money and that's it.
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@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
13 Feb 21
There is social media so that is one good way of making friends and connecting with others.
@allen0187 (58582)
• Philippines
15 Mar 21
@_sketch_ I agree with you but with what is happening, social media is a viable option.
@peachpurple (13961)
• Malaysia
12 Feb 21
when you started to work in a new environment, you will meet different people. Some who are willing to coach you or indirectly put you into hot soup. Hence as you communicate with people , you start to socialize with different levels of people
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
12 Feb 21
What do you mean that some are willing to coach you? Coach you in what?
@pumpkinjam (8773)
• United Kingdom
12 Feb 21
I've never been great at making (or keeping) friends. I just seem to make friends at random. I suppose you could join a class or a hobby so you're meeting people you know have something in common. Then friendships might form naturally. Honestly, I don't think there is a 'how to make friends 101' or anything like that!
@_sketch_ (5742)
• United States
12 Feb 21
I have tried this approach, but just being around people isn't enough to develop a friendship- acquaintances, yes, but friends?
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
15 Feb 21
I think aftet school and university, I would suggest through the working environment. It is true that some people are looking for romantic relationships but also true friendships can start from there. Also another good idea is to start a hobby and start going to meetings related with your interests.
@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
13 Feb 21
It's difficult but not impossible. If you find someone sharing same wavelength as yours, you can ask them for being friends. Take care
@Carson20t (12)
• Lusaka, Zambia
14 Feb 21
Well this new generation is really something because we are influenced by what the world is telling us as compared to what is really right.
In my opinion wether it is virtually or in person,meet up with people who have common or similar interests with you.ALOT of people do see profiles but only end at looking at the face.The bio and some posts can really tell, you about a person's character.
They will help you establish the basis of your conversations.But because we want to focus on just the face we get it all wrong in the the long fan.
@Bubba90 (1755)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 21
I understand how you feel, they are always looking for opportunities for it. it happened to me before, when I realized that there was something strange about people like that I chose to ignore them
@itsangel (114)
• Medan, Indonesia
17 Feb 21
I know how it feels, because I'm an introvert. The number of my friends can be counted on the fingers and not many. If I wanted to be friends, maybe I'll get closer first and if they show dislike, maybe I'll give up and not become friends with them.
@allknowing (137961)
• India
13 Feb 21
There are so many opportunities - neighbours, family members, office colleagues and even classmates.