Your culture my culture

@vandana7 (100526)
India
February 15, 2021 10:57am CST
Ok this is kinda funny part... A traditional Indian would want the guest to eat till he belched. (Irrespective of whether you relished the food or not). In western culture that would be sort of gluttony? Evil Grin. Belching would definitely be frowned upon in your world. So kinda ..how do the two cultures blend when they have to. For example at the hotel.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Feb 21
We're probably sitting at different tables, so nobody knows what's happening with the other guests. If somebody belches at my table, it wouldn't mean anything, I'd simply ignore it. Different people would react differently, of course.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
15 Feb 21
It is offensive. But it is involuntary. Traditionally people traveled on bullock carts and horses. There were no eating places for long distances. So the best method was to feed or overfeed them so that all they had to do was carry their luggage and water. Food anyway would get spoiled. The logic behind that was nice, but in contemporary world it is unnecessary.
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
15 Feb 21
I would feel disgusted if someone belched at my table, I should respect should I visit a country where they have this habit, but I would not accept something like that in a local restaurant, very rude!
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Feb 21
@LadyDuck In my cultural beliefs, belching loudly is offensive behavior.
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@much2say (55901)
• Los Angeles, California
15 Feb 21
I guess it depends on who I'm with and where I am . . . I'd respect the "other" culture where possible. But I don't think it's within me to belch in front of people . But it's like slurping . . . my dad has always said in Japan if you slurp (noodles, soup, etc), it is a compliment to the chef. But here to make food noises is bad manners.
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
16 Feb 21
Vanny , things are changing in India because I see even at wedding feasts ,unlike before dishes especially rice is served carefully and in small portions . I feel that we need to hold on to what benefits and modify what doesn't ..
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@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
16 Feb 21
@vandana7 I totally agree, we have to make changes depending on today's reality ..but , like I said even in temple feasts I see a change for the better
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Feb 21
I used to be fussy as a kid. I didn't enjoy food as much. So to teach me to eat proper this aunt had to try a trick. I used to point at the vegetable or thing that is least on the table so that larger helping would not be given to me. LOL. This aunt placed a pungent pickle there. Naturally, I pointed towards that. It was served on the plate of 6 years old. You know what can happen. So from the next time, I started behaving myself and eating till I belched. LOL But I can understand. The person who cooks would like some appreciation. Cooking is the only job where special increments do not exist for excellent cooking.
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
15 Feb 21
I try to respect the other cultures, but I am not going to eat until being sick. Also the others must respect my culture. That said everyone does according to their culture and we are all happy.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Feb 21
What if they do not know what is your culture Anna? You would be surprised how many Indians don't know that.
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
15 Feb 21
@kobesbuddy I think that we must respect but also be respected.
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@kobesbuddy (78871)
• East Tawas, Michigan
15 Feb 21
Very well put, Anna! We shouldn't try to force our own cultural beliefs onto others.
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@Fleura (30539)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 21
I guess people just have to take into account that things are different in different cultures. But probably the best advice is 'When in Rome, do as the Romans do'.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
15 Feb 21
Have you ever been to any eatery where people of different culture are eating? And are they conforming to western culture or continue to be Indian or whatever?
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@Fleura (30539)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 21
@vandana7 Sometimes - I mean if you go to a good Chinese restaurant for example, there will often be Chinese people eating there and they will be doing things their way!
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@Fleura (30539)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 21
@vandana7 My problem would be that I guess I would be considered impolite in traditional Indian culture because I never belch. Even if I wanted to I wouldn't be able to. I don't know how to!
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@Dena91 (16692)
• United States
15 Feb 21
I respect other cultures but I would probably pass on belching at the table as I was taught it was bad manners.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Feb 21
What if the person apologized? Would you still think of that involuntary thing as bad manners?
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@Dena91 (16692)
• United States
16 Feb 21
@vandana7 I would accept anyone's apology
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Feb 21
We all seem to figure it out while around other cultures. Doing our own thing.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
15 Feb 21
Hmm.. would you find it more offensive if an American did it, or if an Indian did it?
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
15 Feb 21
@vandana7 Neither one.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
15 Feb 21
@CarolDM Aw... that is so sweet.
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@May2k8 (18389)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 21
belched cannot be said to be polite, if there are people like that I should stay away.
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@May2k8 (18389)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 21
@vandana7 we will definitely forgive with give them one chance while explaining about our culture.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
17 Feb 21
I see. What if it happens accidentally and they apologize and excuse themselves?
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@jstory07 (139782)
• Roseburg, Oregon
15 Feb 21
Belching at a table is just wrong.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Feb 21
I agree. But at times it is involuntary. I have this cousin. She comes from the US. She is flooded with dinner invites when she arrives. It seems wrong to refuse any invite. Everyone makes special food for her. Picking on food would kinda be insult after the effort. She does dread those invites. But she has to eat something at every place. So yeah..I can understand her predicament.
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 21
Over-eating doesn't always make you belch, does it? I only belch if something goes down the wrong way. It's not a habit I would like to hear in public, but as you say, we're different cultures.
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@DaddyEvil (137460)
• United States
16 Feb 21
Things like that only matter if you know there is a difference... In a hotel, running into someone from a different culture, you wouldn't know so wouldn't think about the differences. (Okay, you would see the different style of dress and hear the differences in speech, but that wouldn't tell you not to belch or not to overeat in front of that other person, right?) You certainly wouldn't know about things until those things caused a problem, even if only a minor problem, between you. Then you could work together to fix or ease the problem. (How was I to know you would find my world too cold for your comfort? I've never experienced the type of heat you have there and you've never known the kind of weather we have here. Right?)
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
16 Feb 21
I think apology indicates respect. Sneezing farting and belching are involuntary. The person faces situation like how often should I go to restroom breaking the conversation. So yeah, saying sorry or asking to be excused is saying...yes, I know you find it offensive, but I am sorry.
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@DaddyEvil (137460)
• United States
16 Feb 21
@vandana7 When you were a kid, did you apologize at the table after belching? We did, after giggling about it, at least. I agree with you.
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• Midland, Michigan
18 Feb 21
Bending too some would be considered to be rude but not everyone can hold on their belches so it happens when in out world sometimes. Usually when were in public we try to be more reserved and proper.
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@paigea (36316)
• Canada
17 Feb 21
Loud belching us rude. Quietly behind a napkin is polite.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
17 Feb 21
I am fine with that. I would rather the guest apologize or say excuse me. That makes it ok for me.
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@paigea (36316)
• Canada
19 Feb 21
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@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
15 Feb 21
It is frowned upon here in Germany as what I have known. If that happened near me in the restaurant or a party, I just ignore it.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
17 Feb 21
I think most people ignore it. Those who do feel sorry and mutter an apology. It seems ok because nobody does it deliberately.
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@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
17 Feb 21
@vandana7 That’s true. I agree with you.
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@LindaOHio (181197)
• United States
16 Feb 21
I would respect other cultures; but in our culture, it's rude to belch in public.
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@vandana7 (100526)
• India
17 Feb 21
Would excusing self like one does when one sneezes make it forgivable? After all, belching is as involuntary as sneezing.
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@LindaOHio (181197)
• United States
17 Feb 21
@vandana7 Yes, you must apologize when you belch.
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• Pamplona, Spain
17 Feb 21
I guess there are times when food can upset you and you cannot help but to feel air come up. I don´t feel its rude in that case only when its a forced belch kind of gross then. But if you don´t do i ton purpose its mainly because you are nervous usually. After all said and done we all most all of us had excess gas patted out of us on our backs.
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