is it OK to be JEALOUS?
By shobejen
@shobejen (644)
Philippines
November 30, 2006 9:13am CST
i have a boyfriend and i am super jealous of this girl who happens to be one of our close college friends (we're all part of the same group of friends who hang out together in college)...
he told me a lot of times that she's not his type and i'm the only one for him... but i just can't help it, i have to admit that i'm insecure of her... she's pretty, sexy and has a great appeal plus she's also intelligent, rich and successful...
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38 responses
@fotychic (318)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Do you have any reason to doubt him? If he has never done anything, and they don't flirt with each other or anything, then I don't think that you should be jealous. Sometimes, people are so jealous that they start to drive the other person away, and that is obviously not what you want to do. Even if you are jealous, you should probably keep it to yourself. You don't want your boyfriend to get sick of having to constantly remind you that you are the only one, etc.
@anna11292 (564)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Yeah, that sounds right to me. If your jealous is too too much and your boy friend see that alot, you are only pushing him away.He likes you for you. or he would not be with you. I don't think a person can stay with another unless he really really cares about them, and thats you not her. And I'm sure you got some great things about you that she does not have.Just think about it and you will see. I hope this helps.
@bridgeforyouindia (545)
• India
1 Dec 06
i think its a normal phenomenon to be jealous and to be possessive about your partner,,,,, but be careful and have a good watch on them as any thing can happen
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@fair_lethe (352)
• Romania
1 Dec 06
it's ok to be jealous...i've been through that, and it turned out fine....i really was the only one for him
@sunflowergirl (3064)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Jan 07
i guess yes...even my bf has a friend and i just cant stand it and guess wht he seems to enjoy it every time i get jealous he laughs and feels nice that i am jealous that makes me irriated and he just smils!!!neways i think man like thr gf's geting jealous!mine does...!
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@boneheart69 (693)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
Jealousy is natural, but it must be at the right time and at the right moment. Excessive jealousy is not normal.
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@vicki2006 (127)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I think it's ok to be jealous as long as you don't create a wedge between you and your man because of your actions. I'm sure there's times when he's jealous of a guy being around you. ;) Good luck!
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@edelweiss (1929)
• India
1 Dec 06
I am not going to patronize you sorry! And I am not going to tell you what you should do and what you shouldn't do.
I think in a relationship as long as there is honesty and faith ( faith is not same as trust ), nothing else should matter. And also that both parties neednot keep repeating their oaths again and again. Its got to be in your hearts!
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@rikpallav (1242)
• India
1 Dec 06
Yes it is okay to be jealous sometime as it creats a sense of competetion but not in you case... it will lead you to complexity and ruin your relation some time down the lane
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@Tejass (108)
• India
1 Dec 06
u r jealous coz u r insecure....u first ve to realise that ...many ld be more succesful or pretty or watever than us..but u will always remain VERY spl to da person who loves u...n for ur bf u r the spl one n ll remain to b spl..forever..until n unless u go overpossesive n let the feelings of jealousy and all overshadow ur originality...
good luck!!!
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@tejaswinee (705)
• India
1 Dec 06
come on yaar.. when he says she is not of his type stop being jealous.. atleast not of ur own friends like that
@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
1 Dec 06
there is no need to be jealous...you need to stop looking at all the things you see that she is and start to focus on all the good things about yourself and I'm sure there are many. once you do this what she is will become less and less important and you will know that you are just as desirable as you thought she was.
@alex512 (128)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Jealousy is a natural response to feeling threatened, and it's healthy to some extent. It can serve to be proof that you care about what happens to your relationship. On the other hand, male-female friendships are important, and when irrational jealousy gets in the way of them, it puts a whole lot of stress on your relationship. Be honest about your jealousy, but don't be unfair.
@Noxmorexlies (739)
• United States
1 Dec 06
It is alright, as long as you don't get angry at him unless you believe something is going on. Jealousy is normal and only shows you care.
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@jediwa72 (204)
• United States
1 Dec 06
if there is one thing i have learned over the years it is this...if you are usually not jealous over just any girl but you find yourself jealous over one in particular you probably have good reasoning. if your boyfriend isn't the threat but just the girl then it is important to not aggrivate you guy with the issue. by talking to him about the girl all the time you may only point out things about her that he hadn't noticed before.
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