Abuse
By jprostang12
@jprostang12 (1)
Jamaica
November 30, 2006 9:17am CST
To whom this may concern.
I need to know what to do. My girlfriend and her brother are living with her parents. Shes 19 and hes 15. There have been several occasions where there mom and dad physically hit, kick and punch them. They cant fight back because there dad is bigger and stronger. There parents just find ways to put there kids down. Then when they start to verbaly fight it often gets in physical stuff. I really need to know what to do !! I can't stand hearing about this form both my girlfriend and her brother. They also have no phone and they wont let them go out to use a pay phone for help.
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131 responses
@dalilac1 (862)
• United States
30 Nov 06
Call the authorities for them. If you honestly believe that this is going on report it immediately! There is no excuse for a parent to abuse their child physically or mentally. You may feel that you are going to cause more harm then good, but in the end your girlfriend and her brother will be better off.
Please do what is right for them.
Let me know that things are alright:)
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@blackdove (390)
• United States
30 Nov 06
I think your friend need to go report this is the police. I know she may feel bad because they're her parents, but parents are suppose to protect their kids, not abuse them.
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@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
1 Dec 06
yes i agree with you, something needs to be done about this, as something bad could happen to any of them. even if you can talk to like teacher or your own parents for advice or even ring up a counsellor and talk about options
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@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
30 Nov 06
ok what you need to do is get help immediately. if you know this is going on, call the police. nobody should have to go through physical abuse..and parents shouldnt think they have the right to abuse their children. if your girlfriend and her brother can't get out of the situation, then you can help them get out of it. please help them as soon as possible.
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@giveson (113)
• Philippines
1 Dec 06
Yeah I agree with that and if you know it your also accounted and responsible in reporting such problem. If no one will help them this will continue so why wait? Act now and report them to authorities.
@odinandred (84)
• United States
1 Dec 06
take pictures too if you see bruises or cuts
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@beautifulceiling (1300)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Yes, I meant to say this too and I forgot. Since the parents will accuse the kids of lying, the abuse needs to be documented with pictures! And if possible witnesses and anything else that can be used for evidence.
@trish32 (1471)
• United States
7 Dec 06
This situation needs to be reported immediately. If you can get your girlfriend and her brother out of the house for an afternoon or evening you could then take them to the police station where they could file a complaint and it would be investigated, especially if they have bruises or other injuries consistent with abuse. If you can't get them out of the house you can report this on your own, give as many details as possible and the circumstances they're living in. Something needs to be done before it's too late.
@duifje1969 (94)
• Netherlands
7 Dec 06
I think somebody (you maybe?) has to report this to the police or childcare (don't know how you call it, but I mean an organisation which takes care of children who are abused by their parents).
It's obviously a big problem at your friend's house and that needs to be solved!
Can't your friend and her brother turn to a family member and tell their story? Grandma or somebody like that?
Hope something can be done for the two of them.
@rakinitin (685)
• Canada
1 Dec 06
This sounds like a terrible situation for these kids. I say get out! They could band together and get a place of their own. The kids seem more mature and responsible than the parents. There are serious issues the parents seem to have and they probably have nothing to do with the kids. The kids could talk to someone and see what they're options are to bring peace to the home, although I'm not sure the parents would go for a any kind of intervention nor will they likely embrace constructive criticism due to the fact they sound unable to communicate with or even reach on the level needed. I only hope things work out. The kids should not have to experience that kind of abuse, treatment, or level of stress. The Bible says to honor thy mother and father but I believe that ONLY if they ARE honorable. Why is that some people treat family worse than they do strangers and then follow they're behavior with a statement like "well they are family". So does that mean that it's OK to treat strangers with respect but not our family?
@soldenski (2503)
• United States
2 Dec 06
Why can't you call the authorities? Do they go to school? They can tell a teacher, counselor, janitor, doctor anyone. I believe and I don't know if it true in all place's but if you hook up a phone in a wall jack, even if you don't have service, you are able to call 911. So if they don't have a phone, lend her one, if she does not go to school, you call the police. Don't let it grow bigger, it could get deadly.
@freecreative2 (46)
• United States
1 Dec 06
Your girl friend's brother is 15 and a technically achild . They dont have to report it if they dont have a way .. you can do it for them. In mosts states suspicion of abuse and more specifically child abuse is all that is necessary to file a report.
This site gives you various resources
http://www2.webmagic.com/abuse.com/
This is only one such site and there are a multiple such sites available on the internet. You should look at sites specific to your state
@freecreative2 (46)
• United States
7 Dec 06
You can do something. You can make an anonymous phone call to the Family Services in your area and report it. When the 15 year old goes to school, he can tell someone at school, perhaps a counselor and the counselor can make the call. Please be supportive of them both, sounds like you care a great deal, and they will need that. Hang in there!
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
this situation is really painful. if you can help then with your girl friend's consent you may report to police about this whole situation. i think it might work.
@forfein (2507)
•
1 Dec 06
Hi
The first thing I did was to look where abouts you live...
If it was England or the USA it would be easy....
We have authorities that deal with things like this!!
However......
Jamaica ......
How reliable is your Police Force?????
If you can trust them, go to the Police and tell them what you know.
You need to be very careful, because the Police really do not like getting into "Family Issues"
It is a "Minefield" for them. And very often, difficult to prove.
Have you discussed it with your Girlfriend???
@scorpius (1792)
• India
1 Dec 06
this is heinous.i thnk that you should go to the authorities right away!i have goven some links below for your persual,please read through them and take your decision!
in every family parents have to discipline thier children but this seems just outrageous.punching-i think that the father should be jailed.at the least the children should no longerr be alowed to remain there.have you thought of a suitable alternative for them.either way please contact the authorities concerned so that they can take the necesary actions.
children are like flowers,they have to be protected not abused like this.
so please report this to the authorities.also when you approach the authorities concerned,you may also want to take some photos as additional proof!
so act now least you regret not having acted at all!
abuse in whatever form shoould not be allowed and should be firmly quashed!
http://www.abuse.net/
http://www.kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/families/family_abuse.html
http://www.rainn.org/
@AngelicSouls (228)
• United States
1 Dec 06
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
A lot of people don't realize it, but every day in the United States thousands of kids are abused and neglected. That adds up to millions of kids each year.
Often children and teens are abused or neglected by the people who are closest to them like family, friends, sitters, neighbors and sometimes even teachers and coaches. These are the very people that children should feel the safest with.
If you need help or have questions about child abuse or child neglect, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor.
The Hotline counselors are there 365 days a year to help kids, and adults who are worried about kids they suspect are being abused or neglected. You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.
The call is free and anonymous. (The Hotline counselors don't know who you are and you don't have to tell them.) There won't be a charge for the call on your telephone bill if you use a regular phone or a pay phone. If you use a mobile phone or cell phone, there may be a charge and it may show up on the telephone bill. Don't use a mobile or cell phone if you want to be sure your call is a secret. But please...do not make prank calls to the Hotline. This will tie up the phones and keep us from talking to someone who really needs help right away.