Are you a taker or a giver?
By Reine25
@Lucky15 (37374)
Philippines
March 4, 2021 4:10pm CST
Give and take.
The pandemic helped me see who is the giver and the taker among my friends and who can be both.
I don't count what I have given, I just came to realize that some seems to remember you when they needed you and didn't even bother to say thank you. THANK YOU, is all I need. And if they cannot say it, I am expecting them to be nice and helpful to others too, just what I did. PAY IT FORWARD
But...
Yes, it is frustrating or maybe I expected too much from them. Either way, they should have the HEART too.
Now, out of 10 friends, I only get in touch to close to 3.. Lesser can be better, some times, right?
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12 responses
@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
4 Mar 21
I am usually the giver and feel awkward being the receiver.
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@sunrisefan (28524)
• Philippines
4 Mar 21
@Lucky15 When you receive a jab, give more
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@much2say (55969)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Mar 21
For me it wasn't about "things" given or taken, but about reaching out to friends. I tried to get a hold of a lot of friends to make sure everything was ok throughout this pandemic . . . and checked up on them . . . so I was a bit disappointed to not hear from some of them unless I reached out first. One even went on about themselves and did not ask a single time how we were doing.
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@much2say (55969)
• Los Angeles, California
5 Mar 21
@Lucky15 It is a similar issue anyway. That being said, it is a difficult time for everyone . . . everyone has their fears and worries . . . and maybe their reaction to it is to just keep to themselves. I don't know, but this pandemic sure made true colors come out.
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@DaddyEvil (137581)
• United States
4 Mar 21
Yeah, the pandemic has whittled away at those who were friends. *shrug* If it ever gets over, I guess we can look again for life-long friends.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
4 Mar 21
@DaddyEvil why do i feel like...our friendship is like, crowley and aziraphael?
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
6 Mar 21
Right. Some friends can be toxic or bring you down and shouldn't only be takers. I'm both. I've borrowed from my mom and sister but I've repaid them too. I'm a giver because I have employees that often make more than I do.
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@mnglsp (3615)
• Philippines
5 Mar 21
Indeed that this pandemic taught us a lot.
I have this friend of mine, well, I thought that she sees me as her friend too but it turns out she is mad at me. This pandemic helped me to see her true colors. She asked my boyfriend out without me knowing. They even had a relationship..
I realized that not all we consider our friends really are friends.
1 or 2 is enough as long as they are trustworthy.
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@Harikrishnan084 (13)
• India
6 Mar 21
Nowdays don't expect anything from anyone..that's our biggest mistake...we might have given a big space for that person in our heart.but they don't even care about wat v feel for them..it's hard to find genuine ppl nowadays most of them look into the money in our hands ....so take time to find good friendship..those who correct u for your mistakes,those who care for u,n those who loves u from heart..n give a perfect space in ur heart..they will always remain close to you
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