Left me a response and waiting for a reply?
By Marsha
@MarshaMusselman (38865)
Midland, Michigan
March 9, 2021 9:03am CST
Back before the internet came to be and all we had was snail mail a friend and I would send each other letters. We were in agreement that just because we received a letter didn't mean we had to drop everything and immediately write them back. I always felt if I did that we'd be sending letters back and forth more than weekly and who has time for that.
I will say that on here sometimes when it seems slower on the site and I'm caught up with notifs I'll leave a few responses and I'm surprised when they seem to be ignored for a while. But if we are behind in notifications and mainly spend time with those in the site at present then we may never catch up or those with letters waiting the longest will have to wait even longer.
A lot depends on how much time I have to be in the site in a given day. If I plan on being here a lot then I might visit right away and catch up later but if my time here is limited then I might work more from the bottom up. Some days the bottom starts from yesterday while other days it goes back almost the whole week.
The other option is that were here a bit and then working on chores.
I've been working on keeping threads going as long as possible but I still would like to get around and visit with more people so all I can say is it's a learning process and I rarely work here the same way each day.
Do you feel it's a bit rude when you're talking back and forth with someone and all of a sudden they disappear?
Do you like it when your responses are acknowledged sooner than they often are? Taking into consideration the different time zones.
I got my desktop almost cleared off for moving and discovered it might be connected directly to the internet. So now I have to figure that out before I go further. :(
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
9 Mar 21
NO, I do not think it is rude at all. We have a life and it happens that we have to stop working at our computer to do something different. Often I have to stop to prepare dinner and in your country when it's 8 pm here is still early afternoon.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
I don't think it's rude either. I just didn't know if others felt that way or not.
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@LadyDuck (471969)
• Switzerland
10 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman I feel that it is rude to continue to write new posts ignoring all the comments received on previous posts. This is rude.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
@LadyDuck yes that is rude and unkind too.
I'll write something new and then go back and go through my notifs. That way if a person I visit wanted to visit a new post there's be something there. Sometimes I'll visit an older post of there's to try to get a thread started but it usually goes no where.
I don't get the short posts that are written at the place of ten or more every minute.
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@snowy22315 (181942)
• United States
9 Mar 21
I don't think it is rude when someone disappears after all we don't know what is going on in their "real life" at the time. Well yeah we all like to be acknowledged but it isn't always possible right away. Good luck with the desktop and have a great day.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
If people do feel it's rude we all have a lot of changes to make. Most of us are here when we can be but we don't always know when it's time to move on.
Your have a great day too enjoying your sunshine or nice weather.
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@May2k8 (18389)
• Indonesia
10 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman I get what you mean, like talking to a wall.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
@May2k8 exactly and also they make something from what we say but we make nothing in return on their pages.
When I see that I don't visit with them much.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
That seems to be the consensus that it's not rude other than for those that keep writing new discussions without acknowledging the responses on old ones that might be what's considered rude here.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
That's good. The same is for me too. I'm too busy here or at home to think someone is rude in that way.
@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
9 Mar 21
People do what they feel like doing. I don't worry about it as long as they don't disappear forever.
I start responding to my notifications from the bottom up but after a few, I'll check to see if someone has responded to me. If they have, I respond back. While waiting for them to respond again, I'll go back to the bottom of my notifications and just check for new responses every little bit. It doesn't take too long to have everything caught back up again.
Don't tell anyone but sometimes I'm reading my book or watching YouTube while waiting for them to respond back. When that happens it might take me several minutes to remember to check for new responses. 
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@DaddyEvil (137461)
• United States
9 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman Pretty and I left and just got home again. We have a PO Box for our mail so have to check that if we think something important might be coming in and then went to return a half gallon of milk that was bad. (It made me sick yesterday. I thought my rolled oats yesterday tasted funny, so when Pretty woke up I asked her to smell it. She said it smelled funny, so we took it back.)
I'm fairly sure they do.
What do you watch while waiting for replies?
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
@DaddyEvil I play games online on Facebook. A new puzzle should be coming out soon.
What I should do though is clean and organize.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
I won't tell anyone because I think a lot of mylotters do the same thing while waiting.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
Sometimes I go back and forth between old and new notifs but that's not always the case. It all depends on what kind of time we have here.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
11 Mar 21
@thelme55 it looks like I need to spend more time here after my meeting later because I've only made mine cents so far today.
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@thelme55 (77168)
• Germany
11 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman Just the way I do. Yes, it depends how long we can Mylot.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
11 Mar 21
That's what others feel to.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
I do notifications and visit with the person at their place while doing so it shortly thereafter. Like now, I'm replying to everyone that left me a response here and then I'll go check a discussion for all of them before working on the next notif.
We all have different ways of working the site I think.
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@BelleStarr (61102)
• United States
9 Mar 21
I never consider it rude, I figure they are busy and will get back to me when they can.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
It appears that most of the people I know here feel the same way.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
9 Mar 21
Nothing bothers me with my notifications. I get to them when I can. MyLot is not my life, and I can’t be a slave to it. I respond to every single notification I get as soon as humanly possible.
People really should end a conversation here with at least a like. It’s like saying goodbye on a phone call.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
@DianneN if that headache is still hanging on it sounds like you need a short mylot break.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
That's why I thought some might think it's rude.
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
10 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman I hear ya. Sometimes one can get overwhelmed on here. I feel that way right now and it’s not helping my headache much.
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@Dena91 (16692)
• United States
9 Mar 21
I don't think that it is rude if someone "disappears" after awhile. We all have other things to tend to in our daily routine of life.
As far as people responding to my responses it doesn't matter to me how quickly they get to it. I'm just as happy with a like as much as an actual written response. 
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@Dena91 (16692)
• United States
9 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman I understand what your point of view is, it makes sense to me.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
10 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman
I wrote a response to this post and then did not go through because my router was not working right. That happens at times. I am not always here so cannot respond to posts and right now have so much going on so cannot always be here to answer. I am sorry if I have not responded to you. I find that people may be here different times because we are not all in the same time zone. I am never here on Saturdays because it is our Jewish Sabbath and either go on the computer after it is over or the next morning and certain Jewish Holidays am not here so cannot answer. So sorry if I disappear. There are times I have had a very bad day or exhausted and just relax by watching TV instead of working on the computer.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
10 Mar 21
I'm not necessarily referring to those that don't reply to my responses but more wondering whether they wonder why I'm not replying to what they said.
You do just fine as most of my friends here do. And we all have to clean the house or take care of animals or work in it outside the home. Other times we just want to enjoy nature or girl up with a book or watch Netflix.
None of us are here non stop.
Have a nice day. I'm up early as I was yesterday and might snooze again here in a bit before getting up for good.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
10 Mar 21
@MarshaMusselman
Now I get it what you were saying. You are right there are days that we just want to relax and not be on the computer. I hope you have a nice day too.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
I was thinking of when people hang up on a phone call but it's totally different in the online works we now live in.
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@MarshaMusselman (38865)
• Midland, Michigan
9 Mar 21
But when more than one person fitness the same older post it can be difficult to fitness each of them on it.
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