Writing my Will for Indians to inherit

@vandana7 (100297)
India
March 10, 2021 10:56pm CST
I took that COVID vaccination. So I could die.. Given my precarious situation, I thought it befitting to leave my fellow Indians some inheritance. Basically, it is just a thought. So when a woman becomes a widow, how is it easy to wipe out all love that she bestowed on us? How do we become insensitive to her pain and loss? I believe in ancient times, there may have been a widow, who may have gone into a massive shock following the demise of her husband. To bring her out from that shocked state in which she refused to accept the reality, our ancestors may have resorted to cruel techniques. But not every widow goes through that. Why must we wipe out her vermillion on her face with palm - who gives us the right to touch her? Why must we break her bangles? Why must we periodically remind her at every marriage or function that she is a widow, whether she was widowed in twenties or in seventies? Are we "thinking" women? Are we sensitive women? Can that fate not befall us? What values do we pass down to next generations? Be capable of switching off your emotions? For those who still do not understand what the state of shock is, please read "Home they brought her warrior dead" by Tennyson. There are plenty of YouTube links on it. If you can, next time, please stand up against that cruelty. It is, after all, your mother, your sister, your daughter, or wife who goes through such social stigma. We cannot be this cruel. Does not become us.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
11 Mar 21
What caught my attention was the statement that you took the Covid vaccine, so you could die. I took it so I could live and not die. So did I miss something here?
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
Nah... I was kidding there. LOL
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
@jstory07 You know me! LOL
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@jstory07 (139743)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 I am glad you were kidding.
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@Deepizzaguy (102887)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Mar 21
It is always nice to a person who is suffering through a loss.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
All the more reason to be nice. If a person suffers an accident do we not sympathize and move in to help? Why widows are singled out?
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@Deepizzaguy (102887)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 That is a good question.
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@jstory07 (139743)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Mar 21
There will be change but it will take time.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
Wonder why the issue gets scant attention out here.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
@jstory07 Do you face similar prejudices in your world Judy?
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@jstory07 (139743)
• Roseburg, Oregon
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 Something everyone wants to ignore.
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@LadyDuck (471547)
• Switzerland
11 Mar 21
I hope that one day your country will learn to respect women. A widow needs sympathy, it's hard enough to lose someone you loved, you do not need this kind of cruelty.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
@LadyDuck As if she has been disloyal to him. Yeah...weird.
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@LadyDuck (471547)
• Switzerland
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 Poor women, they have a long way to go in your country.
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@Fleura (30402)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 21
Such traditions are cruel, yet they existed in many societies for hundreds of years and still do in some places. I wonder why they originated?
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
We only recognize physical cruelty. Why is it that we do not give recognition to mental cruelty and punish for it?
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
@Fleura It is a pathetic culture or tradition. It reduces a human being into ridiculing species. Better than thou. As if they know their spouses are not gonna die before them. Nothing holy about it. I cannot understand a culture that used to treat every other woman other than wife, young and old, as Mother..irrespective of whether she was or not, can come to this stage where women are raped, and where women are ridiculed when they are already in pain. How can god forgive such folks?
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@Fleura (30402)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 In situations like this, often because it is considered 'culture' and 'tradition' and therefore should be protected!
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
11 Mar 21
I will look for that van, i wanted to know more
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
Do you all ostracize widows in your country?
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
11 Mar 21
@Lucky15 Time we Indians and Hindus in particular understood we are not treating our womenfolk well.
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
11 Mar 21
@vandana7 not here, we treat them as the same manner when their husbands are alive
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Mar 21
No woman should go through what you described as a widow. It's losing her dignity as a woman.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
13 Mar 21
I knew you would understand this Valerie. When human rights activists fight for the right of few prisoners they forget that there are several women going through this torture regularly.
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@just4him (317089)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
13 Mar 21
@vandana7 It's shameful.
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@LindaOHio (178806)
• United States
11 Mar 21
I hope you are fine after your shot. Widows are not ostracized in our country. They are treated with respect.
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@vandana7 (100297)
• India
12 Mar 21
Unfortunately, they are in our world. :(
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@LindaOHio (178806)
• United States
12 Mar 21
@vandana7 That's sad.
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