Do you dream to have kids or do you have it already?

Portugal
March 28, 2021 12:48pm CST
I don't have kids yet but I want to have at least one kid. I love children I just don't like the pressure that people put on women mostly asking them why they don't have kids yet. Everyone should mind their own business and avoid those kind of questions so we don't put anyone in an uncomfortable position. Some women don't even want to have kids and we should respect that.
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@porwest (92404)
• United States
28 Mar 21
Our ship has sailed on this one. I am 47 and the wife is 53. She had two miscarriages and didn't want to try a third time. We will not have kids any time soon. But we did want them at one time.
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
I am very sorry about that Jim. Thank you so much for sharing that with me.
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@porwest (92404)
• United States
28 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve It's life, you know. Not the best outcome, but it is our outcome. I hate to reduce a circumstance such as this down to "it is what it is." But it IS what it is, and we just have to go on and be thankful and happy that we had the chance even if we don't have the pitter patter of tiny feet.
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@porwest (92404)
• United States
30 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve Thank you.
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@aureategloom (11088)
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
28 Mar 21
i'm still not sure what to think about this. i kinda want to be a foster parent, but not like adopting a child, there are programs where you can take care of a child for one year and then you can take care of another one. my boyfriend is absolutely against this idea tho
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
That sounds like a lovely idea for me That way you give the chance to a lot of children to experience a good environment for at least 1 year. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't like that idea because he might be afraid of getting too attached to the child and after 1 year let him go. And then know a different child, get attached and let him go once again. I'm sure with time you and your boyfriend will come to a good decision together either doing foster parenting, adopting or even have your own child together
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
@aureategloom Yes sure you are still young and that is a very nice idea that you want to take care of kids that didn't have a chance to live in a warm environment. it shows that you are a good person
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
28 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve i think it would be nice to have my own child, but i just like the idea of taking care of the kids who didn't have a chance to be in a warm and supporting environment. we'll see what life brings, we're still young.
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@marlina (154131)
• Canada
28 Mar 21
It is not anybody business
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
True we should respect everyone and avoid to make uncomfortable questions
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
28 Mar 21
Times are changing and it’s okay to have or not have children. I always wanted them and had two sons. Kids are wonderful, but they cost a fortune to raise properly.
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
That is great that you got two sons Yes for sure they cost a fortune to raise properly. My idea is to have at least a more stable life before I try to have it
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@DianneN (247186)
• United States
28 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve Thanks. We made sure our life was stable before having kids. It’s the smart thing to do.
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@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
29 Mar 21
Rightly said. It's society norms and it's there everywhere. Good to know. I too want kids but have to marry first
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
That is a great plan that you want to get married first have a good day
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@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
1 Apr 21
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
28 Mar 21
I agree with people whould mind their own business. I have a daughter and I'm happy with that.
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
That is great that you have a daughter have a lovely day
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@popciclecold (39461)
• United States
28 Mar 21
I have 3 sons. I agree with you. Times have changed. They use to ask that a lot in past time. Didn't know they still asked. Take care.
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
Thank you for agreeing with me Sadly people still ask that. Along with do you have a boyfriend? And if you don't have then they will say: Ohh why not? You need to find one. You are getting older. Things like that. Older people ask that to younger people mostly when they are between 25 and 30 years old.Take care too
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
29 Mar 21
I want to adopt a son. Maybe I will one day.
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
That is a great plan
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@sjvg1976 (41289)
• Delhi, India
29 Mar 21
I already have two kids but I remember people used to ask such questions from my wife till she had no kids after the marriage.
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
Yes people sometimes can be really harsh asking those kind of questions and putting pressure on people that sometimes they don't even know properly to start a family and having kids. I am happy that you are married and have two kids already that's great
@just4him (317250)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
29 Mar 21
I hope you have them one day. I have three children, six grandchildren, and two great-grandchildren. That will change come summer.
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
Thank you so much That is so nice that you have a big family
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@just4him (317250)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
31 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve Thank you. They're all scattered to the wind. I'm pretty much alone now.
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• Portugal
1 Apr 21
@just4him do they live near you?
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
29 Mar 21
I wanted to have even just one, i am getting older and still single, it worries me more lately
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
Oh don't worry. You know I also got worried when I was like 27, 28 years old and I was still single. I was thinking that I would never get a boyfriend and would be single forever and then suddenly I started to see a friend in a different way and now he is my boyfriend. I am sure that you will meet someone when you least expect it and you will for sure become a mother don't be stressed about it. have a good day
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• Portugal
1 Apr 21
@Lucky15 You can still become a mother. I just read the other day that Cameron Diaz became a mother at 46 years old. I am sure that your dream will come true
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@Lucky15 (37374)
• Philippines
31 Mar 21
@sweetloveforeve i have turned 40, lol
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@arunima25 (87855)
• Bangalore, India
28 Mar 21
Having kids is a big joy and a big responsibility too. So people don't need to judge someone for that or not fall in pressure to have one. You should have it when you feel you are ready for it. I have two daughters 17 and 14
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• Portugal
28 Mar 21
Exactly we should have it when we feel ready for it You have two daughters that is great Do you still want to have more children?
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@youfiq (2565)
• United States
29 Mar 21
I am a boy, but I think it must be happy to have a little angel born from your womb who will call you mother. take it easy, baby is God's gift, he will give it to you at the right time and when you are ready
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
I am not in a rush to have a baby. I want to have it when the right time comes. Thank you for your comment and have a good day
@youfiq (2565)
• United States
29 Mar 21
I dreamed of having a child born from the womb of the woman I love
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
That is a very nice dream. I am sure it will come true
@shaggin (72183)
• United States
1 Apr 21
I have friends who don’t want children and I think that’s fine. I gave two kids, one stepchild and one baby on the way.
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@shaggin (72183)
• United States
2 Apr 21
@sweetloveforeve thank you!
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• Portugal
2 Apr 21
@shaggin You're welcome have a great day
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• Portugal
1 Apr 21
Yes sure it is fine. That is great that your family is growing up congratulations for your pregnancy
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• Philippines
29 Mar 21
Don't mind them - I know it is not easy - but learn to focus and enjoy your moments. I have friends who just conceived and gave birth during pandemic after waiting for 10 years and more, so don't get pressure, God knows when to schedule you to have a baby soon, but if you are still single, I think you need to ask God for a godly man who will put you second in his life - second to God, and equally to his own life. God bless.
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
Thank you so much for your kind words I have a boyfriend but we are dating since just a few time so we are not planning to have a kid right now but in the future I want to have at least one kid god bless you too. have a nice day
@jaboUK (64354)
• United Kingdom
29 Mar 21
As you say, it's no-one's business but yours and your family. Fortunately in these days we can safely put off having children until we are properly prepared for them. However, having children is a wonderful thing.
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• Portugal
31 Mar 21
Yes I am sure it is a wonderful thing
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