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Dear I've had a horrible past and not the best experiences with men. there's this guy who's willing to do anything for me... if i told him to come over right now...he would call in sick or something just to come... he would get me my pads ..pain killers...put his goals behind if he has to. ..so he could be there for me. he claims he loves me a lot....and sometimes I believe him but there are times i really question "is this love?" I realize that before someone says something about me he's quick to believe it.. He might say otherwise but it’s the way he goes about the situation leads me to this thinking. Dear his, someone I can depend on to show up when needed… But his so protective that it kills me…. Growing up my family were very protective of me and I could barely leave the house… I’m not trying to be in this situation again...i’m an adult and wouldn’t like to be treated like a child. His not comfortable with me around men or friends of mine who are guys… He recently expected me to bring him along when i went to meet a guy friend to do some voice recording ...THIS CREATED A HUGE ISSUE FOR US Dear a lot of the things he does leads me back to depression.. He has a lot of trust issues and when i believe he trusts me ...he gives me a reason to realize he doesn't… Most of the time he sends a lot of hurtful words towards me like i’m playing victim, i’m a hypocrite, i’m acting like a child and a few others. There are times i do try to send the words back at him so he would see it bothers me. My mom doesn’t like this boy because of a situation i told her about when i was extremely depressed and crying…. Me and this guy were having a discussion about whose birthday an event took place at and since we both had different answers and were both frustrated we decided to call my ex… We figured out that i was the one who had the wrong information ….but then he told my ex how i was an ass and another name that i don’t remember ...this really bothered me and it bothered my mom as well … if u with me then y would you want someone else to look at me this low ...especially my ex…. My mom told me that “if i’m with someone and his treating me so for my ex to see...then His showing my ex ….the way he treated me was okay also…” My aunt said the same thing but in different words. He has screenshot sexual convos we had and sent it to a female friend of mine.. He has brought other friends into our personal problems ..in other to prove him right.. I hate it when he changes things so that it can seem so horrible when it’s not… Whenever he change the sentence around i get the idea his trying to screenshot the conversation so his putting it this way… Dear if one of his friends or family say something bad about me ..he would never stand up for me… I believe when i come online he wants to be the only one that am speaking to...i only get the impression that speaking to other people is okay.. If those other people are family.. My sister does not like him because she said the way he always wants to know ...where i am and what am doing so often is a bit to obsessive.. I complain about things ..he says sorry but nothing changes ...he does the exact thing or something similar… Then he complains and cries because he said i’m not changing… It’s like he wants me to leave my bubble and jump into his… He pressures me to do stuff i don’t want to …. He says he wants me to be comfortable but does things that make me uncomfortable even after i’ve said no… I get this feeling that he expects sum in return when he does certain stuff for me… And i rmr a year ago this really troubled me… Dear i need advice..what am i supposed to do?? Recently someone told me that he was asking my ex questions about me……………….. I don’t know what to do but am crying because i want to put my all to someone and trust someone but it’s hard…-and i don’t really no what love feels like since i haven’t received it from my parents or anyone …. Dear i use to be okay with telling him personal things and some time ago i told him something Personal about my life and he threw it back in my face to hurt me...after that i just wasn’t able to ever speak to him the same ...i tell him personal stuff but when i do now...i always expect the worse or think his plotting and waiting for an opportunity to use it.. There are alot of things he does and it’s exactly what i want in a guy but i don’t think i can hold on much longer...dear is this guy good for me and i’m i to blind to see it Or am i fooling myself ?