Why would someone deliberately cheat?

@MadFit (29)
April 3, 2021 12:38pm CST
I'm curious to know, boys and girls, that choose to cheat even if they are committed to someone else, saying things like " it's over between us, but it's complicated" and so on... I mean, i would never fall for that, but what are the reasons driving them?
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@Marge4U (21)
3 Apr 21
Most probably they have no intention to cheat. They just want to know who is really the one for them. I believe that when you found that someone, you do not mind the rest even they flirt with you.
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@MadFit (29)
3 Apr 21
That's the thing, I think they do have that intention, is like, keeping your official girlfriend or wife to have some stability, and looking for something else somewhere else? I would never understand this, I could understand if it happened to fall in love with someone while in a relationship, but not the other way around
@Shiva49 (26776)
• Singapore
3 Apr 21
Relationships are never easy and cheating is hurtful.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
3 Apr 21
In a word, 'boredom'. Plus the chance for some excitement in doing something clandestinely with someone usually younger and more adventurous than one's existing partner. It's rarely thought of as 'cheating'. That's the name that other people give to it.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
3 Apr 21
@MadFit The 'cheater' doesn't usually think of it as cheating. They would usually see an affair as a separate part of their lives which doesn't belong to the part which is their relationship with their 'legitimate' partner (i.e. husband, wife or accepted 'other').
@MadFit (29)
3 Apr 21
Ok, I get your point, so because it's clandestinely or forbidden (we'll, sort of) makes you want it more.. And about the wording.. I thought everyone would call that cheating, including the cheater, haha :))
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@MadFit (29)
3 Apr 21
@owlwings interesting...
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@wiLLmaH (8802)
• Singapore, Singapore
5 Apr 21
Some people will tell you that it is unintentional and can’t resist the temptation but they still love the first man/woman and yet do not have the guts to break the heart of the their “lover”.
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@Rashnag (30592)
• Surat, India
4 Apr 21
No idea. Everyone is different and would be having their own reasons. Take care dear
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@ladyhero (3846)
• Indonesia
6 Apr 21
maybe because they are bored with their partner, or because their partner is too cool, it could also be because they are comfortable with colleagues who meet each other every day to share stories and problems
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@kaylachan (71768)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3 Apr 21
You would have to ask that person. But, it can be a different factor, such as what you mentioned. Often, the feelings a person might have for another person might be only on surface level. Once that feeling fades, they realize they made a mistake. Rather than admit the mistake, they go for the next person who captures their attention.
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@adnileb (5276)
• Philippines
6 Jun 21
I cannot say. I cannot even understand why would a committed person still do that kind of thing. My father, for example... has a first family other than us. I don't know what went wrong to their family. Then, with us, he still chose to cheat. Yet another cheat.. 3 times more while having us. Without us knowing. Well, we have known it late and because i signed in to his messenger that's why we knew. Once a cheater, always a cheater.. Regardless of how good the family that someone have, if they want to cheat, they will cheat. That is life. We just have to steer away from those kind of people.
@kanuck1 (4434)
3 Apr 21
People cheat because they are cheaters, get tired of someone or have found someone that suits their needs better. Those who are not cheaters, don't cheat.
@MadFit (29)
3 Apr 21
So, that's my point, if they got tired and found someone else, why not break up first, and then be with someone else? Why cheat on purpose?
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@kanuck1 (4434)
3 Apr 21
@MadFit Because those kind of people are cheaters and care little for other people. They are selfish and greedy. Eventually those kind of people will end up sad and disappointed.
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@Janet357 (75646)
3 Apr 21
no contentment. selfish.
• Kingston, Jamaica
4 Apr 21
Well I can't really speak for others I believe everybody cheats for a reason in their own way well it doesn't have to have a reason to cheat some men or women are just greedy
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@Mayabee21 (326)
18 Aug 21
It's not necessary to hurt people