I don't want to be friends.
By Amber
@AmbiePam (94529)
United States
April 17, 2021 2:29pm CST
So there is a guy in my apartment complex who has threatened other people (he physically assaulted a guy once) and is my neighbor. He's always been nice to me, but I tried to steer clear of him. He's just not quite all there. He just knocked on my door, out of the blue, to ask if we could be friends. He wanted to come inside my apartment, but I told him my place was too messy to have company (that's absolutely true).
How do I get out of this situation?
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13 responses
@ScribbledAdNauseum (104628)
• United States
17 Apr 21
I wish I could give you advice on this. There doesn't appear to be any real easy way to do it. You could pretend not to be home for awhile and see if that deters him, but if he's violent well.. It could easily rile him up.
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@Hannihar (130213)
• Israel
19 Apr 21
@ScribbledAdNauseum
If I ignore him he still causes us grief. Nothing can be done except someone to make sure he never bothers us or anyone again. Talking is not the answer and that is all one wants to do. He lies and makes up things and plays like he is the victim even though he is doing all of it and I cannot do anything so stuck for now and not happy about it.
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@LindaOHio (183044)
• United States
18 Apr 21
That's a tough one. Tell him you can't let him in with no one home? Tell him you don't know him well enough to be friends? Sorry. That's really hard.
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@snowy22315 (182795)
• United States
17 Apr 21
I guess just ignore him and hope he goes away. I mean you don't want him to think you are too good for him (although I am sure you are) that might make him mad, but other than coming right out and saying something like you have enough friends at the moment, but thank you very much for the offer is all you can do.
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@akalinus (43448)
• United States
17 Apr 21
Tell him that you would rather not be friends. Don't let him in your house. You do not have to let him in and he could make all kinds of trouble for you. If you see him, just say hi or wave and don't engage in conversation or do anything to make him think you are friends.
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@YrNemo (20255)
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21 Apr 21
ouch, hope you will find a way. (Don't ever let that guy get inside your apartment.) - Do you have any male relatives/friends living around? If yes, asking them to come visit you more.
