Married?
By sheraldea
@sheraldea (263)
Philippines
4 responses
@wynna1 (1291)
•
30 Nov 06
Yes im married and we're going to celebrate our first year this coming Dec. Its been a big adjustment for me cos i came from a country which is 8,000 miles away from my hubbys country which means its a culture shock for me, not only that, i have to adjust as well to the weather, and of course the best one is the adjustment i have to make from being single to being married. I think its going to take a long process of adjustment not only when you are newly married but for the lifetime, there's always new changes and there's a need to adjust with that as well. I think the best thing to do is learn the give and take situation. Bonding is not spending a lot of time with each other but doing things like cooking, doing simple things for the house together is a great way to bond with each other.Be supportive with each other and everything gonna be alright.
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@sheraldea (263)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
Happy 1st year anniversary.
It is a total adjustment for you. That must have been tough. You made me realize mine is not as tough and I can do this. That adjustments are lifetime. It would be a disillusion to wait for it to end.
I tend to interpret bonding with togetherness. I now have a new perspective. Instead of wanting, I need to cherish every moment we have, no matter how little the time is and no matter how trivial what we're sharing is.
I am grateful.
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@kakuemmom (859)
• Canada
30 Nov 06
I have been married almost 20 years, It takes time to work out living together. You will have rocky times and great times. In the end its so worth it, Just understand that each of you are used to only yourselfs and you have to respect the others space and feelings. One of the things that have keep my husband and I together for all these years is that we take time to listen to each other. Just because we don't agree with each other does not mean either one of us is right. Good luck in the future with you husband
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@sheraldea (263)
• Philippines
2 Dec 06
Congratulations with your married life.
Getting used to living with someone is really a challenge. There are just some things we're used to doing that annoys us but still, I, particularly, kept on doing. I don't intend to do it. It's just a habit. I'm trying, though.
We do experience a lot of discussion. I am enlighted with your comment on not agreeing with each other doesn't mean one of you is right. I'm a little bit sensitive with being wrong. Now, I know better.
I appreciate this.
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@sheraldea (263)
• Philippines
30 Nov 06
That was tough. It was such a long time to be away from each other.
Yes, I will try giving it some time.
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