To my children with Values.
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
Maracaibo, Venezuela
July 23, 2021 3:22pm CST
I'm still with the heat waves. I observed that my two boys disorganized the whole house that previously with high heat I had to clean as I usually do. Immediately I could not bear it and I looked for a solution: I put them to clean the floor and the beds and pick up the clothes that they had thrown away.
My mother criticized me and told me that men are not placed in cleaning because they become homosexual.
I said: -What are you saying, mom? So the priests, the military and the firefighters are homosexuals? They have to make their beds, iron and wash their uniforms and in some cases in the army they put them in the kitchen to process thousands of potatoes.
Don't confuse gender with responsibility. The only thing I don't like is that my children do things in the kitchen. It is dangerous. But male children must also assume their responsibilities and order what they have destroyed.
Do you think the same or disagree?
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@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
25 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla I understand that - still at 6 they are very young. When my kids were little, I had them practice with plastic knives. They used the stove, but only when I was there to watch. Cleaning and mixing is always helpful 
. My father never cooked nor washed dishes . . . he told my mother that he was taught that men don't work in the kitchen 
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. My father never cooked nor washed dishes . . . he told my mother that he was taught that men don't work in the kitchen .1 person likes this
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
25 Jul 21
@much2say I tried the same, I gave him a disposable plastic knife of the kind that, if you are in a restaurant and they give you those knives, you will eat the entire steak. And by chance my son cut his finger. I think that brand of disposable knives was of good quality hahaha.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
My oldest son is 6 years old, I ask him to wash his plate and his glass has been eaten. But he scares me with the stove and knives. However, I ask you to help me clean the vegetables or mix food. My mother lives in a time when only the woman took care of the house.
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@Vikingswest1 (6304)
• United States
23 Jul 21
Every person on this planet has a responsibility to learn to cook and clean up after themselves. To take care of their own needs.
Sew a button, wash and fold clothes, prepare and clean up after meals.
Responsibility really has little to do with gender.
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@Vikingswest1 (6304)
• United States
24 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla
Yes. I wish everyone was that way.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
You know? I hate those people who go to restaurants and throw everything away because that's what the waiters are for to pick up. I've been to restaurants and if my children have made the table very dirty, let's clean up a little with napkins. That makes them responsible and not beings who leave their disorders to others.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
@Vikingswest1 We can all create an environment of respect for others.
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@kaylachan (71762)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
23 Jul 21
I'm in complete agreement. Just because a person does for themselves does not make them homosexual. Everyone should follow the same life skills as the rest of us. Women are capable of making money and being breadwinners. What of those men who are stay-at-home dads? They have to cook, clean, raise the children. Everything a woman would do, and sometimes more.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
I am a single mother and I always think that the day I miss them if they know how to defend themselves in life. That is why I want them to learn from childhood things like sweep the leaves and stack them, some gardening and useful things for them.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
23 Jul 21
My husband technically does what people would consider a women’s job because he is a nurse. Honestly learning how to run a home has nothing to do with ones gender or there sexuality just like if a male wears make it doesn’t mean they like boys. If a girl wears boys clothes they like girls. Nope those are just expressions
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
24 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla some people jsut ah e very weird and old expectations. I’d rather my boys know how to do all
Do they just like my daughter because if they every line alone or with room mates then they know how to live with not only themselves others.
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
The worst thing is that my mother who told me that suffers from anxiety and when she took tranquilizers she was all the time lost and groggy, and precisely my father was the one who cleaned the house and prepared me for school, made my lunch and went to work . How ironic that now my mother tells me this.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
24 Jul 21
I do agree with you. Men should work regardless of what ii is. Women can do the work of men. Men should do the same.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
Working at home does not diminish manhood, on the contrary, it prevents them from being completely useless.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
25 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla Work makes everyone appreciate their life as they live.
@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
23 Jul 21
I completely agree with you.
I don't think that doing household chores would turn man gay/homosexual.
In my opinion boys turns out to be gay when they spend most of the life in the company of the only females and with no male company around.
I don't know how far am I correct
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
I have met young friends and they were raised by women, they being the only men in the house and today they are married with children. In my case I am a single mother, I do not think that is why my two sons are going to be gay, if that were the case, they are also my children that does not diminish my respect and love for them.
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@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
24 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla I didn't mean that just raising the kids by women of the house would turn them into gay. It's the company...... if they stay all the time in the company of the ladies, be it at home and outside as well, then there are chances. But if they go to play with their male friends, and be around with male friends then it won't, even if raised by the ladies....
I have five sisters who are all elder to me, and being raised by my sisters and mom but am straight. So just raising doesn't mean they would turn gay
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@Fleura (30541)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 21
@YuleimaVzla in my experience sexuality is something that is always innate, it doesn't develop as a result of any life experiences. Boys I knew at school, for example - we always knew there was something 'different' about them even before they realised it themselves.
Now my daughter has a friend who I am convinced is gay, although I don't know yet if he even realises this himself. I am waiting to see how things turn out. And he has a twin brother who is not the same in this respect.
@Bhurishrava (696)
• India
27 Jul 21
I agree fully. Both genders should be taught and encouraged to do all household work. If not, the man will later have to be dependent on a woman for even the simplest of chores.
To say such and such work is not a man's job is foolishness. Work has no gender whatsoever. It is humanity which makes such distinctions.
@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
27 Jul 21
Know something? I said the same to my mother, I told her that the best chefs in the world were men. The truth is that these are old thoughts and that society no longer exists. The rules change and man must defend himself without losing his essence.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Jul 21
Having had two brothers that never lifted a finger to do anything because my Mom said I had to do it instead.
I have taught them my kids to clean up although they have been very reluctant to do always.
My Mom would even go to my brother´s house to clean up after him something I would not do in my life.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
Well, I think it's well done. Cycles that become intermittent and unhealthy must be cut.
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@BelleStarr (61101)
• United States
24 Jul 21
I totally agree, my sons can both cook and clean
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
Of course, this does not make them less men but stronger in life.
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@Fleura (30541)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 21
That is probably the most ridiculous excuse I have ever heard.
Often (especially in the past) boys were allowed to get away with being lazy at home because 'they had to work harder in the fields' or 'they had to prepare for study' or some other made-up reason but this one really takes the biscuit (as we say). And it just puts extra work on their mothers and sisters and later their wives (if they have any). Of course they may never marry and then if they don't know how to look after a home properly, clean, cook etc they will just be condemned to living in squalor for the rest of their lives.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
I have seen today that men tell their partners that they have to do everything at home because they work on the street for that. I find that comment so possessive and misogynistic. And there are women who still allow them.
@Fleura (30541)
• United Kingdom
24 Jul 21
I laughed when I read this and then shortly after read this post
I suspect the boys who learnt from their mothers will do better!
The owner of the stall in front of my house is a single mother with two boys. She works hard to raise her sons. They're also taught to help at her stall. Just...
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
I am going to save this information and the comments and show them to my mother, so that she can see other points of view of the current man who helps and excels in chores.
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@YuleimaVzla (1505)
• Maracaibo, Venezuela
24 Jul 21
You know, my mom is one of those people who are rooted in the customs of the past. I can't get a way for her to change, but I made it clear to her that only I intervene in the education of my children. Which he did not like at all.
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