Support Phone Call From A Friend

@CarolDM (203422)

Nashville, Tennessee

August 4, 2021 12:25pm CST

I have talked about my friend in another state, Dustin's godparents. Her husband has bone cancer. He has been on hospice care a few weeks now, at home. He seems to be doing as well as he can. He eats and can sit up for short periods of time. That is about all he can do. But she is glad he is at home. She called me earlier to talk awhile. I mainly listened as she vented. Family issues. Always seems like there are family issues. Too bad anyone has to deal with drama any time, but especially when your loved one is on hospice. I told her I no longer deal with drama, no matter who are what the situation. She has come to the same conclusion. Their situation is a day to day ordeal. Nurses and aides in and out every day. But they are both thankful he is home. That makes me happy as well. Feels good to feel like you have helped in some small way, even though you are hundreds of miles away.

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@Vikingswest1 (6304)

• United States

4 Aug 21

There is a time to talk and a time to listen. Many times, people listen to respond. A good friend will listen to hear. I'm happy you were there for her.

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@Vikingswest1 (6304)

• United States

4 Aug 21

@CarolDM You know what? I believe you will.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

You are exactly right. I have learned this over the years. There was a time when I had nobody that truly listened. Such a lonely feeling. Many would talk but not listen. Such a difference. I will always be there for her.

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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl

@1creekgirl (41445)

• United States

4 Aug 21

I know your friend feels so blessed to have you to talk with. Prayers for her and her husband.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

Thank you. She told me how much it meant just to be able to talk without judgement. I know that feeling.

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@kaylachan (69824)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

4 Aug 21

Everyone needs that release sometimes. Glad you were able to provide it. Wishing her family the best of luck.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

Yes we do. She is under so much pressure and emotions right now. She knows I am always here for her. Thank you.

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@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

5 Aug 21

i know my wife, one of those people in and out, always makes sure to check on the spouse of the patient. It is hard on the other person when their partner is not going to be around much longer.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

I am sure your wife is a very caring nurse. And I respect her greatly for what she does.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

6 Aug 21

@DocAndersen She is like an angel to her patients and family members.

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@DocAndersen (54402)

• United States

6 Aug 21

@CarolDM she has to work very hard. and I will convey that message to her!

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@S4mmyboy (3266)

• Mumbai, India

4 Aug 21

@CarolDM...you did a great job.... It always good when you lend an ear to those in crisis. I know they are very close to you, but since they are hundreds of miles away, you can do anything better than this. Hope he gets well soon

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

I was being a friend. He will not get well, he is on hospice, which means there is nothing more they can do.

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@S4mmyboy (3266)

• Mumbai, India

4 Aug 21

@CarolDM Ohhhh that would be a sad ending.

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Koningjoy Ngoruh

@Koningjoy (181)

• Imphal, India

4 Aug 21

'Home Sweet Home', is what every creature feels and is comforted and secured.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

I am glad he is home.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

@Koningjoy Time cannot heal this cancer he has.

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@Koningjoy (181)

• Imphal, India

4 Aug 21

@CarolDM let's have faith. Everything will be fine. Time heals.

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@RebeccasFarm (89873)

• Arvada, Colorado

5 Aug 21

Glad you helped Carol. It is so good he is at home in peace.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thank you.

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@RebeccasFarm (89873)

• Arvada, Colorado

6 Aug 21

@CarolDM Welcome

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@Marilynda1225 (82789)

• United States

5 Aug 21

I'm sorry to hear about your friends husband. She must be going through a very difficult time especially with the nurses an aides coming in and out. Sometimes the best things we can do for a friend is listen.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks. She is having difficult time, has been going on a few months now. I am here for her and she knows.

@JudyEv (340216)

• Rockingham, Australia

5 Aug 21

I'm sure it's really helpful that your friend can vent to you. It would be hard enough having a husband in hospice without trying to deal with other issues.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

We have helped each other over the years through everything.

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@JudyEv (340216)

• Rockingham, Australia

6 Aug 21

@CarolDM Such a friend is gold indeed.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

6 Aug 21

@JudyEv Totally agree with you.

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@HazySue (39268)

• Gouverneur, New York

5 Aug 21

I am sad to hear about you friends hubby. She will need all the support you can give her in the upcoming few months. You are a good friend. I am happy to hear he is home where they can spend every moment until the end comes.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks, we have helped each other many times over the years.

@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

5 Aug 21

@CarolDM I am so sorry about the husband but glad he is in his surroundings he is familiar with instead of somewhere he does not know.

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@Hannihar (130218)

• Israel

5 Aug 21

@CarolDM You are welcome.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks.

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@dya80dya (36657)

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5 Aug 21

You are a good friend who knows how to listen. Bone cancer is an awful disease.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

We have been friends for many years.

@Rashnag (30592)

• Surat, India

5 Aug 21

Good to know. I hope he recovers completely soon. Have a good day

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@Rashnag (30592)

• Surat, India

6 Aug 21

@CarolDM oh ok dear

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

He will not recover. But thanks.

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Nevena Zivkovic

@Nevena83 (65277)

• Serbia

6 Aug 21

You are a wonderful person who always supports people in difficult moments.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

6 Aug 21

Thank you, she is a long time friend. Like a mother to me.

@GardenGerty (160696)

• United States

5 Aug 21

Your support for her at this time is very valuable. Keep being the good friend that you are.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

I will as we have been friends many years.

@sjvg1976 (41281)

• Delhi, India

5 Aug 21

Glad to know that he is at home. I can understand it's upsetting when you are not at home for any reason.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks.

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@prashu228 (37524)

• India

5 Aug 21

Glad he is home...can eat and sit for short periods..

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks.

@FourWalls (68084)

• United States

4 Aug 21

The LAST thing someone needs when a loved one is terminally ill is drama from the family. Glad you could provide a shoulder for her.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

4 Aug 21

My thoughts as well. Thank you.

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@wolfgirl569 (106394)

• Marion, Ohio

5 Aug 21

Home is always the best when possible

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Totally agree.

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@LindaOHio (178877)

• United States

5 Aug 21

I'm glad she has a good friend to talk to. So sorry about her husband.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

5 Aug 21

Thanks it is a heartbreaking situation. A helpless feeling.

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