Was I wrong?

Kenya
August 5, 2021 8:16am CST
I had a male friend we used to interact ,he opened up to looking for a life partner . I said no and he blocked me . Was I wrong for being honest?
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@m_audrey6788 (58472)
• Germany
5 Aug 21
You did the right thing. It is better to be honest than allowing that person to disturb you, when you don`t like it
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• Germany
5 Aug 21
@sjvg1976 but I think he said it directly to her that he wanted a life partner
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 21
Being a friend doesn't mean that a person can be a life partner.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 21
@m_audrey6788 he said what he felt. But he should have the courage to hear NO from her too.
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• United States
5 Aug 21
Nope. You were right to be honest and apparently you made the right choice to say no.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 21
Not necessarily he is not a right choice. It might have been upsetting for him that she denied him.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 21
@Vikingswest1 I said he may not be wrong but he did wrong to block her. Maybe he should be bit mature to accept things , it's not essential that things go on like he thinks
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• United States
5 Aug 21
@sjvg1976 If his knee jerk reaction was to block her after being upset, what would this persons reaction be to conflict in the future? If he acts childish every time she upsets him, where will that lead? I understand that it's a normal reaction to be hurt or upset but if he considered her a possible life partner one moment and then blocks her from his life in the next moment, he has some growing up to do. She doesn't want to always worry what he will do the next time he's upset. No. She made the right choice to say no.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
5 Aug 21
No you were not wrong but that person was immature.
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
I guess so too am he's a big 42 year olds lol!
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
6 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto sometimes people don't grow up with the age
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@sjvg1976 and that is something am observing
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Aug 21
Of course it's your choice. Don't be bothered being blocked.
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@florelway (23286)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto true, ignore them.
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@florelway exactly
• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Yea sometimes we meet very strange people
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@nzlz123 (6473)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 21
no you did right, but did he directly ask you the be his life partner?
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Yes he wanted to marry me just that way and we barely know each other
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@nzlz123 imagine I think he doesn't know the dating story or something of that sort
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@nzlz123 (6473)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto oh wow, he should've said "can i court you?" first instead of ask you to marry him
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@Andini (3211)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 21
You was not wrong for being honest but maybe u should make your sentence more soft for deny him. Like " I'm sorry i can't". Maybe his heart hurted after you said no . So he block u
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
I tried everything I could but I think he just made up his mind
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@Andini yea that's what I did
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@Andini (3211)
• Indonesia
6 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto ohh its ok friend. Forget him
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@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 21
No, you're not wrong. You're entitled to what you're feeling. If he couldn't accept it, then it's his problem, not yours.
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• Kenya
13 Aug 21
Yes I knew my feelings hurt him but that's what makes me happy and I can't ruin that just for the sake of it!
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
5 Aug 21
Different people have different reactions to rejection, I would not think much about him if I were you.
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@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
5 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto it's him that has not learned to accept rejection. Why say awful things just because a girl does not like you.
• Kenya
5 Aug 21
He said awful things to me too but I have learned to accept
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
5 Aug 21
This shows he is not a matured man ..better you did not accept..you are not wrong..
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Okay thanks alot I think too he's immature
@LadyDuck (471601)
• Switzerland
5 Aug 21
You were right to be honest, if you do not want a life partner.
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@LadyDuck (471601)
• Switzerland
6 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto I can very well understand, I would do the same as you did.
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Yea I cannot commit to someone I barely know
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@LadyDuck yea some people just decide to put us in touch situations
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@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
5 Aug 21
what an insane man. Better he blocked you so he can't anymore destruct you. Block him too.
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@cacay1 (83505)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
6 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto , he's just so hot and assuming all that he wants will be easy to achieve.
• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Yes I feel he's immature and very stubborn plus I guess he's kind a manipulative person
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
5 Aug 21
My answer to this, maybe you should have added, the reasons why you're not ready to make a commitment. How could you possibly approve of this, without knowing him personally?
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@kobesbuddy (78882)
• East Tawas, Michigan
5 Aug 21
@Laurakemunto If it's a real friendship, then there's no need to rush things.
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
@kobesbuddy I surely agree with you on that
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• Kenya
5 Aug 21
Imagine it was hard we were only getting to know each other but he was to rushly
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@Nevena83 (65277)
• Serbia
6 Aug 21
You are not wrong, it is important to be honest, especially in such important topics.
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
Yes honesty is the best policy which I uphold
@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
Ohhhh.... He shouldn't have done like that.... 'Yes and noes' are part of life
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
And we are supposed to be prepared for any answer
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
@S4mmyboy (3266)
• Mumbai, India
6 Aug 21
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@Koningjoy (181)
• Imphal, India
6 Aug 21
No. Honesty is the best policy.
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
Very true I agree with you
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6 Aug 21
Hey babe, definitely not! You said no because you don't see him as a potential life partner, and if he doesnt respect that, then it's good that you guys are not talking now? But also, he could be embarrassed cos it probably took him a long time to muster that courage to come forth to you. Give it a little time and see how things go. Of course, if things starts to get creepy again, ABORT AT ALL COSTS.
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21
Thanks so much for the wonderful advice!
6 Aug 21
No dear you're not
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• Kenya
6 Aug 21