Vic Has Died
@Kouponkaren (5503)
United States
August 20, 2021 11:00am CST
Hi Friends!
Back in June, I posted about my friend's husband Vic who was in ICU after having surgery for a tear in an abdominal aortic aneurism.
He stayed in the hospital, in ICU, for 6 weeks, and then developed pneumonia and sepsis and died. He was 68 years old.
I have been trying to support Meg as much as I can. She was not prepared for his death. She was very dependent on Vic and is now having a very hard time with anxiety and depression over his loss. She can't understand why he "left" her.
Please keep my friend Meg in your prayers and if you have any suggestions for me as to how I can best support her through this, I would greatly appreciate it.
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@marguicha (222487)
• Chile
20 Aug 21
Words alone never support. Be there. Hug her if you can.
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@marguicha (222487)
• Chile
27 Aug 21
@Kouponkaren Only time can be a healer in some ways. I know how she feels.
@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Thank you for the reminder. We do hug, and spend time together. I send her funny videos of my dog to make her laugh!
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
She will have to go through the 5 stages of grief but I think she is stuck right now, and not at depression yet. I think she is still in shock.
@FourWalls (67483)
• United States
20 Aug 21
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. 
As for how to support her, the only suggestion I can make is I just “be there” for her. Everyone reacts to the loss of a spouse differently, so what helped someone “get through it” won’t work for someone else. But being there for her is a massive help.
God bless you both.
As for how to support her, the only suggestion I can make is I just “be there” for her. Everyone reacts to the loss of a spouse differently, so what helped someone “get through it” won’t work for someone else. But being there for her is a massive help.
God bless you both.2 people like this
@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Thank you. I am trying to be there for her and to be a good friend.
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@Vikingswest1 (6304)
• United States
20 Aug 21
Just be there to listen.
Let her go through the stages of loss and support her at every turn.
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Those stages...5 if you are talking about the 5 stages of grief, take a long time. But I will be there for her.
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
@CarolDM,
Thanks. I am trying to be.
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@Juliaacv (50907)
• Canada
20 Aug 21
So sorry, I will keep her in my prayers.
Try not to totally abandon her, you've been with her thru all of this, maybe make plans to meet half way on a spur of the moment to have a meal together and brighten her day.
Welcome back, we've missed you.
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
@Juliaacv
Aw, thanks. It is nice to be missed. We actually live on the same street, so meeting halfway means a 2 minute walk for each of us! We do that sometimes with our dogs!
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@wolfgirl569 (105422)
• Marion, Ohio
21 Aug 21
Thinking of the whole family. It will take time. Just be there for her.
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@1creekgirl (41339)
• United States
20 Aug 21
I'm so sorry. I guess just pray for her and help when you can. Words aren't as important as just being there.
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@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Hmmm, thanks. I am doing all of those things. You just reinforced that for me. Thank you!
@Kouponkaren (5503)
• United States
27 Aug 21
Yes, and I think it's going to be a long haul for her.
