Could I forgive someone who hurt me?

@bettydeng5 if it was a misunderstanding then you should forgive. Perhaps explain to your friend why you were upset.

Thank you so much,I tried to communicate with him today, and I told why I was so upset,now he understanded something now,hope we don't have misunderstanding again.

Thank you for your reply.Actually it was a small thing that I told to him, but he was angry for me, he made a misunderstanding of me, he thought I couldn't do that and couldn't to talk anything with other, he thought I was fool and did wrong thing, however I thought I didn't talk any complex topic, now we destroyed our relationship, I always help him when he had some problems, then I found him who are private, and spoke something to hurt my feelings.Today he sent message to me,I don't want to reply any words,I need he realized I was so angry and don't want to be hurted again.Do you think what I can do?

Thank you Sanjeev, I am sorry I couldn't describe the story which happened, it was so long that I really don't know how to describe it, however I found that I couldn't get the same requirement when I paid more after that, which it made me understand whom person you can treat carefully, whom person you can disregard it.

Thank you,my mood get better now,yes,the experience of life taught us how to be stronger and brave~

@bettydeng5 experiences make us careful next time. It happens, sometimes our eyes open when we are deceived or cheated.

He made some misunderstand something of me, and he talked something to hurt my feelings, now I don't want to explain anything to him, and I don't want to talk any words to him, I am so sad that I did so many things for him, but as a result, all everything I did which lost any meaningful, so I am so sad and disappointment for him, because he didn't understand me and understand my feelings.

@bettydeng5 I don’t understand what really happened only because it’s hard to for you to translate what might have happened. Form what I gathered is you said something to your friend and that friend didn’t understand what you meant. So then they friend said it I’m guessing to some other people that knew you? When someone hurts your feelings or says something that isn’t true you have to tell them. Not telling them is only allowing them to tell there side of the story and not all sides of the story. Not telling someone how you feel because you mad or upset doesn’t fix or solve things. You don’t have to forgive if it’s to hard to forgive but some motherly advise is you should let them know why your mad, what they did wrong? You don’t have to continue being friends but your cutting ties or burning a bridge in a clear way Vs just leaving things as is.

Thank you so much, I made an explain when we made a misunderstanding after that, however it got so complexed when I explained, it was not useful for him, he thought I made a wrong thing.

I was hurted by him for several times, hurt my feeling,which made me lose any interesting and confidence for life, yesterday I was so happy then I received his message which hurted me, I was so upset, and cried and cried for a long time, I was so unhappy at whole nights, and I didn't get a good sleep last night,I considerd and thought for a long time,then I was so upset,I don4 know if I will happy again, I really don't know if I can cheer up again, I don't know what i can do next time.Thank you.

yes,I agree with you, trust is very important for people and friends to establish good and strong friendship each other,when trust lost, the love was gone fast,even though we chose to forgive, however the nice memories would be affected by it.

Thank you Jerry, I am thinking what I spoke with him, I am a simplicity, genuine and honest person for him, however he thought me who are a scheming person, which made me very very angry, yes, Jerry, the wrong thing was that I like to tell everything to him, and it was no secret what I meet him, on contrast, he didn't trust me again, and I don't trust him too, I knew we destroyed the prior friendship and good feelings, sometimes I want to let him into my blacklist on contact, however I couldn't do that, because if I did that, our friendship will never cover, so it is very difficult for me to face it and don't know how to deal with it on right now. Thank you again.

@bettydeng5 I faced the same situation before but now we just talk when we meet..now nothing is like what it was before. We just wish each other birthdays and just that's all. We don't share everything like before. I have already forgiven her and that is why i feel very easy and relaxed. I got some very good new friends and now it doesn't matter if my friend betrayed me or anything. I have forgiven and so she is just a normal person to me. I am thankful to her for being my friend and I don't care anymore if she hurt me. Forgive and donot get bothered anymore