My mom and my son

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Sometimes I swear my son has my mom wrapped around her finger. My mom didn't get to be present for my son's birth. She was in the nursing home for recovery after a major surgery. She got to be there for my other sisters but not for me and I remember how worried she was and my sisters were supposed to keep her updated and didn't. My one sister told me to call mom after I gave birth because she was so worried and she had already sent my mom a picture of my son that she had taken so my mom got to see a picture at least but it wasn't the same thing. I remember having just given birth and about five minutes later I'm on the phone with my mom reassuring her that both me and my son were fine. My mom couldn't even hold my son due to weight restrictions for several months but somehow she found a bond with him. She told me she loved him from the second she got to see a picture of him. I stopped by the nursing home on my way home from the hospital so she could see him in person. She played with his little hands and feet and talked to him. It was upsetting for her I know but she loved him. My son is my mom's pride and joy. Sometimes I think she likes him more than she does me. She has always babied him and pretty much given in when and where she can with him. She has always respected my rules with him but she doesn't always like it. I always found it interesting that my son's birth time is the same as my mom's birth month and year. I always felt that was like God's way of saying that since she couldn't be there physically he was going to give me some sort of sign that she'd be there for him in the years to come in one way or another. To this day he's still super close to my mom but he's still a mommy's boy. My mom has been close to some of my other nieces and nephews over the years but not like him but he is about the only one she sees of her grandchildren and my son is always doing stuff for her and trying to help her so she has really formed a bond with him. She has loved getting to be there for him and watching him grow up and turn into the amazing kid he is. My son doesn't have that sort of connection with his father's parents since they live further away and my husband's mom is closer to his sister's kids and she raised his sister and didn't raise my husband so I guess it makes sense she is closer to them not just physically but emotionally. My dad is closer to my brother's daughters and my mom is closest to my son. My whole family loves him but they have never made much of an effort to get to know him or spend time with him but they all say he's probably the best behaved and most polite out of all of our kids. I had an advantage my siblings didn't though and that's that I got to stay home to raise him and I had more experience with kids than any of them did when they became parents. I used to babysit for a lot of them but not for the two oldest ones since their kids were closer to my age. My mom wasn't as close to the older kids either since my brother and I were still little and she used most of her time and resources on us. She was closer to the younger kids. I kind of like that I was super close to my mom's mom and my son is super close to my mom. The difference I think though is that I was probably more about my grandma than my mom and my son is more about me than my mom but still holds a lot of love for my mom. He probably likes her more some days than his dad.