Do you think friends should go dutch when they dined out ? / myLot

Shenzhen, China

September 3, 2021 12:21am CST

Hi,dear my lotters,do you think friends should go dutch at every dinner.I had a friend before,I often treat him dinner,but he seldom treat me back.after a while,i felt uncomfortable and delete him from contacts.However I think i made a mistake at first,if i insist on going dutch at the begining,if we always went dutch, perhaps we can keep relationship ongoing.I am also responsible for the broken relationship.From that matter on,i think friends should go dutch at every dinner,it's better for sustain friendship,and it is really fair to everyone,nobody will feel uncomfortable.What do you think,dear mylotters?

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@allknowing (135926)

• India

3 Sep 21

It is always good to decide before the bill arrives. I had a friend who thought I was footing the bill and went on ordering. I made her pay for whatever she ordered and I paid for mine.

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

4 Sep 21

I can say you are absolutely wise and smart,i should behave like you,that's correct.

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@allknowing (135926)

• India

4 Sep 21

@jefferson126 When a situation is exploited that should not be encouraged and let me tell you I am normally a generous person but this is something I could not tolerate.

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

4 Sep 21

@allknowing ,it made a lot of sense.

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Porcospino

@Porcospino (31366)

• Denmark

3 Sep 21

Most of the time I pay for my food and my friends pay for their food. If one of us is celebrating our birthday or celebrating something else that person usually pays the bill. If one of my friends doesn't have much money at the moment I pay for their food, but most of the time we split the bill

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

4 Sep 21

Now i realized friends should split bill when they gathered for dinner.However if one of them have a celebration for sth,then treating others is acceptable.It depends.but mostly people should go dutch.

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Bojel

@jobelbojel (35461)

• Philippines

23 Sep 21

You should not take responsibility of paying at all times. You have a point when you say you made mistake. I would say, it is better to be in contact with your friend instead of delete his contact.

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Erly Maglangit

@cacay1 (83394)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

4 Sep 21

You should have not deleted someone nice to you. That kind of friendship is a treasure, unless that person committed something that destroys a feeling. He might wonder the wrong he did to you.

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

6 Sep 21

@cacay1,I hope he overlooked return of favor because of carelessness,but i found he refused returrn intentionally,plus,he spitefully introduce me something bad to me,so i delete him.

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DianneN

@DianneN (247186)

• United States

24 Sep 21

We usually split the bill when we go out with friends. Otherwise, we pick up the tab if they drive long distances. It’s only fair.

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

26 Sep 21

you did a right thing,it's really fair to everyone.unfortunately,i realized it too late so that losing a friend.

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Angelito Villegas

@angelitovillegas (1342)

• Angeles City, Philippines

3 Sep 21

Do you really treat them as or your true friends? Do you really consider them as your friends? Friendship has a very broad meaning, unexplainable sometime. If you are really a friend or true friend, you don't count your acts. Just because your the one always paying everytime you go out with them, that will be the basis of you who will become your friends or not? Friendship in an uncondional love.

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Mr.Yang

@jefferson126 (3262)

• Shenzhen, China

4 Sep 21

at the begining,i consider him as true friend.but he don't think so.

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Notlilie

@prinzcy (32305)

• Malaysia

11 Sep 21

I think we should decide. I don't usually go out to eat with my friends. So whenever we would meet and eat, we would usually treat each other. Sometimes we would go dutch. I don't mind much whether she or I would pay.

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