Boyfriends and broken hearts
@sprite1950 (30452)
Corsham, England
October 16, 2021 6:22am CST
No not me. My granddaughter is having problems with her first love. I remember how painful it can be when things start to go wrong and I want to protect her, take her aching heart gently in my hands and tell that this awful pain she is feeling will eventually go away in time even if it doesn't feel like it now.
I feel that her boyfriend is messing her around but she can't see it yet and every time he calls her after breaking up with her she goes running back. Thinking back on my own first love, I was so naive and thought he was perfect, that our love was perfect. What a long time ago that was and I've certainly learned a lot since then.
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
16 Oct 21
Kids always believe the first love is the only one they'll ever have. I hated seeing Pretty go through that and, like you, wished I could do something to help her... The only thing we can really do is just be there for them and console them, if they'll let us.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
Yes a few months ago they were planning their house and how many kids they would have. She's been seeing him for more than a year so I know it will be painful when it ends although she's gone running back to him today.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
@DaddyEvil Is that a man thing? 
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@DaddyEvil (137257)
• United States
16 Oct 21
@sprite1950 *sigh* He likes knowing he can snap his fingers and she'll jump... Until she sees that, he's going to keep doing it.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
We can talk but when I say I think he's messing you around she disagrees but I'm here to pick up the pieces.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
@LadyDuck That's the trouble with teens. They think they know it all but she does cry and hug me when things go wrong.
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@LadyDuck (471324)
• Switzerland
16 Oct 21
@sprite1950 I am glad you can talk. I got mad with my Mom and I stopped talking. I still remember thinking "no matter what she says, for me it will be different". I think we also thought the same.
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@snowy22315 (180452)
• United States
16 Oct 21
Your poor granddaughter. So painful, unfortunately, some of us are like the old PA Dutch expression.."Too soon old, too late smart."
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
She's very young to have a boyfriend but they have been going out for more than a year bu that expression is very apt.
@RebeccasFarm (89831)
• Arvada, Colorado
16 Oct 21
Yeah we know better from years of experience but you cant tell the youth
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
@RebeccasFarm They think they know it all!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
@RebeccasFarm Wait till she has her own kids, she'll get paid back!
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
18 Oct 21
Yes I remember mine. I was devastated when I found he was cheating on me and it took me a long time to get over him.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
19 Oct 21
@Julie555 I think we always believe that first one is going to be forever and sometimes it is but for most of us we have to kiss a few frogs before we find our prince!
@Julie555 (4155)
• Russian Federation
19 Oct 21
@sprite1950 Oh, that is really frustrating, as teenagers tend to dramatize events of their life, thinking they never find true love after experiencing first break up.
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@Luli_hope (246)
• Romania
16 Oct 21
Well, if I look back I am happy for every time my hart broked. Those were real moments, real feelings, the love and the breakdowns created magnificant memories and made me who I am today.
I believe you can just stand by her and let her deal in silence with the feeling.
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@sprite1950 (30452)
• Corsham, England
16 Oct 21
That's what I'm doing and she knows I am here for her if she needs me.
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