Old culture in my country
By Risma Melati
@Pitopa (13)
December 17, 2021 12:45pm CST
Today I want to share how my country treats women, I speak here because I am sad to see my mother suffer, so in my country women are still treated low, Why do I say that, because here women are considered as someone who must always obey and serve their husbands, a husband will never be taught to help his wife with Homework, but a wife has to do housework as it is her duty, and the wife has to take care of her husband, children, and household, so that many men in the My country can't do housework, such as sweeping, cooking, washing dishes, washing clothes, etc., because they are never taught, only women are taught to do that. Once upon a time the clothesline in our house which was made of wood broke, finally my mother fixed it with a hammer and nails, and my mother was injured because the hammer hit her hand,Until his thumb was bleeding, I was sad to see that, like in this house there is no man who wants to help to do that, even though my father and younger brother are at home, until now I'm still struggling to change this principle in my country
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11 responses
@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
18 Dec 21
I see patterns like that in my country as well !! You should never accept that, if you can't change it, teach your male children to change it !!
Women are much smarter than men, but we are sensitive, I think that's what got is into this bad position.
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@Pitopa (13)
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19 Dec 21
They only think that their responsibility is to make money, and that the responsibility of women is at home, even though there are also many women here who work to help their husbands, but husbands don't work.Doesn't care about helping his wife with housework
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@RebeccasFarm (89831)
• Arvada, Colorado
17 Dec 21
What is your country of origin then if you do not mind me asking?
It is not listed on your profile.
I hope things will change.
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@RebeccasFarm (89831)
• Arvada, Colorado
17 Dec 21
@Pitopa You never answered me which country..my goodness you must be in fear of your life then
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@LadyDuck (471294)
• Switzerland
18 Dec 21
Hello and welcome to myLot @Pitopa. I am sorry men do not help in your country.
From your surname I can guess what country is your, but I will not mention as it seems you do not want.
There are other users from your countries and their husbands and brothers help, so I think that your father and brother should start to be less selfish.
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@LadyDuck (471294)
• Switzerland
19 Dec 21
@JimBo452020 I know and it is not only in her country.
Just to make an example, Italian men do not help woman in household chores, but we do not feel oppressed or discriminated. They do their jobs, we do our jobs. Using a hammer is considered a man job, but I can do this without hitting my fingers.
@sharonelton (28726)
• Lichfield, England
18 Dec 21
That's horrible! What country to you live in?
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@aninditasen (16377)
• Raurkela, India
19 Dec 21
If you are talking of India I don't think so as I have two sons who can do everything. My husband earlier was not able to do anything but slowly he learned a lot. He cooked for me when I was sick. I miss him as he has left for his heavenly abode.
@Pitopa (13)
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17 Dec 21
hello thanks for your apologies, this is not anyone's fault this is just the mindset of my country which is still too old-fashioned, and for my own country I can't really mention it specifically, the most important thing is that it is part of an Asian country
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@Fa_Maverick (9487)
• Australia
20 Dec 21
No countrywide oppression here thankfully did have an ex that said he would "help" with the housework. If I wanted "help" with the housework and kids I would hire a maid or nanny. Do housework as required, if something is messy clean it, if the kid is crying comfort them doesn't need to be all on the woman. He seemed to get a bit funny because the job I want to do would require me to be on call pretty much 24/7 and I would have been earning more than him lol insecurities.
Hope things get better for you among other women
@elmer0421 (432)
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23 Dec 21
This pandemic I was trying to learn to cook so that I can learn to prepare my own food.I feel like more male children in your country should be trained doing housework.Any member of one's family can be of help in his or her own little way doing the housework.
@garfieldlee (159)
• China
23 Dec 21
I think a new culture is taking shape, a women friendly world needs men to know themsleves again. No more gender discrimination and domestic violence. It is harmful to both sides
@Pitopa (13)
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23 Dec 21
In developed countries like in some parts of Europe, I see men's minds are more open, they are very romantic and kind in treating their wives, and they know how to How to take care of their home and children