Should i tell who the mother is?

i think jimmy has the right to know who his mother is. If not then okay, hes okay a kid so far but ull be sorry when he finds out when hes older.. hes gona cry when hes like 20 year old.. makes him look like a pu$$y.. jus let him cry about it at 8 years old.. by 20 hell get over it.. try this and it doesnt work then its all chills i think.. jus dont tell him no1 needs to kno anyway.. what u think about this issue.. i think its wierrd and looks the same as another issue of a friend of a friend of mine

Yes, he has a right to know who his bio-mother is. I would not tell Jimmy now, he is not old enough or mature enough to handle the rejection from Bio. Let Amanda become comfortable with being the adopted Mother until Jimmy is 16 or older. Danielle will be more comfortable with it also, because she will be the one sealed in his heart as his Mother and not Amanda. He will then choose if he wants to seek Amanda out and develop a relationship with her on his terms instead of her, which will make a difference.

well you should tell him.

Go tell him the truth before its too late for him to get out of it.

is he asking?? i think you should only tell them when they themselves are old enough to understand. the one raising him is his mother, and unless he asks who his real mom is then you should wait till he's older. parent are the ones who raise us and love us and if the real mom has nothing to do with him, then it shouldn't be that big of a deal. he'll always know who his mom is...

I think you should tell him in as soon as he is old enough to understand. He will still think of Danielle as his mother but if he finds out later on his own he will feel betrayed, and its almost bound to happen.

Ask this question. Do you think being a mother is all about creating and pushing out a baby? and thats it? Or do you believe what makes a mother is the love, protection, caring, and help you give a child. A mother is someone who will give her live for her child with absolutely no hesitation. Take all the bullets rather than let one come near her baby. And smile if successful.(you know what I mean) This is a mother. If your wonderful woman wants to be in this role and is willing to feel this way about your little boy. Then she is his real mother and there is no reason to provide him info about his biological mother until he is mature enough, intelligent enough, and practical enough to draw his own conclusions, Im thinking University age. Which ever one of you is of the belief that he should know the truth now. Dont, you are only trying to satisfy your own emotional concerns.

no ,i think he is still to young to know .

I am sorry but are you stealing other peoples discussions i replied to a discussion just like this one but just with names changed a few days ago! Strange!

It is better that you should tell him than to have someone else tell him later. Surprises like that really disturb children. That does not mean to bash the biological mother, just state the fact, " When you were born your mother and I felt like I would do better at raising you. Danielle loved us both so much that she married me, and adopted you so we would be a whole family" If you treat this as common, not exceptional your child will feel peaceful about it.It is almost normal to have multiple dads and moms anymore. I feel pretty adamant that even if Amanda was the worst person to ever walk the earth, you do not say that to the child, because they take it as an extension of themselves. (You hated my mother, you must, therefore, hate me) Just remember, if you do the revealing of past history, you control when and how Jimmy learns it. If you do not do it yourself at the best time, you have lost all control

I think you should tell him, but you should wait until he is a little older so that he will be able to really understand what you are telling him. I'm not sure if at 4 y/o he will be able to grasp the reality of having 2 mothers

yeh tell

yeh u should tell the truth

Tell him.

My opinion is that he should grow up knowing that he is adopted and he should be told that he is adopted before he even understands what that means. However, I don't think you necessarily need to tell him who his mother is. He might ask or might not ask who his bio mother is. If he asks, you can decide then whether to tell him who she is or not. I don't think I would volunteer the information about her.

As soon as your son is old enough to really know what the meaning of Adoption is, then you should tell him. Explain to him that Danielle loved him so much that she wanted to Adopt him. I am adopted by both parents. I was given up when I was first born. My parents got me when I was 2 days old. They told me when I was old enough to understand what it all meant. They never kept anything from me. It would have killed me to go through life and find out on my own that I was adopted because it would mean that the people I loved and trusted most in the world lied to me. I think I was around 8 yrs old when I was told that I was adopted. I know that I was a young kid. My parents sat down with me and told me how much that they love me. They explained that my birth parents were not ready for a child and could not handle the responsibilities that come with being a parent. They told me that they wanted a child really bad and after several failed attempts, they knew that they could still love a child even though it didn't come from them. A Mother and Father don't have to come from the same blood to be the mother and father. If you don't tell him,... and he finds out,,,, it could not only make him hate the both of you... It could hurt him very badley and scare him for any relationships that he has in life.... especially with the trust factor. Good Luck.

Well if the biological mother does not want to do nothing with him, so I do not see any need to tell the boy, those who bring the child nicely are the real parents that is what I feel.So love him so much that this question does not arise.

hey its better not to tell him anything.even though he now it when he is elder he dont feel that much bcoz he will b totally filled with ur love and affection right .so their's no necessary to tell him now

I think that he is much too young for you to even talk to him about it yet. I think that i would not stress it and when he gets a bit older then deal with then!