I'm Quite Glad With the Outcome
By YoghurtGal
@flapiz (23152)
United Kingdom
February 13, 2022 12:36pm CST
So I spoken to my boyfriend today. And I flat out asked him if he still loves me and not just pitied me and he said yes. I asked him if he's unattracted to me and he said no. I asked him if there's someone else and he said no. He just said that he really does not know what's going on he feels like something is wrong but he can't pin point it. And he said to be honest when I left on Friday he was glad. And he doesn't know why. He says maybe there's something wrong with him. He needed more time to really think about it. I told him if he wants to break up I'd be okay. I love him and if letting him go will make him happier I'm sort of at peace with it already. He just can't decide yet. He's saying he doesn't want to say anything until he's thought about it as he did not want to regret it.
So although I did not get an answer yet I am at least less bothered by stuff. And not too resentful about him. I think my mum's advise made me realise that no matter what I will thrive on and be okay.
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@RebeccasFarm (90474)
• Arvada, Colorado
13 Feb 22
I am so sorry to hear this is happening.
I hope it turns out for the best for you.
And yes either way, you are definitely a survivor, but at the same time, this is sad.
I hope things turn around for you both.
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@RebeccasFarm (90474)
• Arvada, Colorado
13 Feb 22
@flapiz Yes it is a blow alright, I can understand.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 22
@RebeccasFarm I do appreciate how honest he's been with me.
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@mildredtabitha (16147)
• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Feb 22
It will be good to give him space to think. It would have been better if he were committed to you before you lived together as husband and wife.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
15 Feb 22
@mildredtabitha Were not married we are just boyfriend and girlfriend but I was thinking we would someday but not after this.
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@mildredtabitha (16147)
• Nairobi, Kenya
15 Feb 22
@flapiz Marriage is the best commitment but people still do go through divorce. So I can't state which would be better for you to follow. You can always work things out in your relationship. There are always ups and downs. But you can't force anyone to stay if they want to leave. I wish you all the best.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 22
I do feel a lot better now as those questions were poisoning my mind and making me feel worthless. Anyhow I am trying to be understanding towards him as I can really see and hear from his voice that he doesn't understand himself. No matter what he decides I'd be okay. I've realised my value. And if he can't see that then I deserve someone who will. I did make a promise to him before couple of months ago he asked me "please don't let me push you away". I'm trying to keep that promise but not at the expense of my mental health and my self worth.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 22
I am giving him his space. I really just needed to ask him those questions above as it was making me feel bad about myself. At this point I'm on self preservation mode and I'm starting to just feel like I need to think more of myself and let him be. If I don't make him happy I'd graciously let go.
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@flapiz (23152)
• United Kingdom
14 Feb 22
@JudyEv Thank you. I feel genuinely lighter now. It's nice to be reminded of my self worth. My mum made me thought about it when she said " I know you love him but can you handle him treating you like this everytime he encounters a problem. It looks easy now but you will burn out and get exhausted and feel no more."
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