Ghost for Our Daughter

@Faster16 (3181)

Indonesia

February 24, 2022 8:00am CST

We have a serious problem. Our child is addicted to playing cellphones. It started when my sister-in-law stayed overnight. She who gives children's YouTube shows. Finally our daughter is addicted to playing HP. All methods have been done. We've given up. So take the extreme way, namely by installing a ghost photo as a cellphone wallpaper. It worked very well. Our children are afraid to hold a cellphones. Are there any bad effects?

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@MarieCoyle (38702)

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25 Feb 22

My grandsons have Ipads, They have many things not available to them as their parents put a parental guard on the devices. They can have them in the evenings but only after homework, dinner, clean up and showers. Dad limits their time and they are not allowed to be on them for hours. This has worked well, they have learned to love sports, ride their bikes, play ball with friends. They read books, too. There is a boy that lives next door to them who is addicted to his Ipad, he rarely goes outside to play. He just eats junk and plays games. He has very few friends. So I am glad my grandsons are not permitted to just have access all the time. Set limits on all things.

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@MarieCoyle (38702)

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1 Mar 22

@Faster16 I hope you can set your boundaries and work it out. It won't be fun and you won't be popular for a bit, but in the end, you will be doing the right thing. Moderation in all things is the best way.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

2 Mar 22

@MarieCoyle thank you very much for your suggestion, we will try our best

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

thank you for sharing the information, it will mean a lot to us

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@ShyBear88 (59347)

• Sterling, Virginia

24 Feb 22

Yeah as parent I wouldn’t have do that. Scaring them nope a lot easier to let the battery drain or just take it away and put it up. My three kids have iPod they are allowed to use when asked. I can collect them and places back where I have them at any time. It’s when you allows them to keep doing so. You allows it by letting your child have it don’t blame another person for an adult decision you choice to keep going and then decide hey let’s scare the child to teach them a lesson.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

24 Feb 22

My daughter is lazy to study because she often watches youtube, her eyes are also red. We were really confused, so we had to make this tough decision

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

24 Feb 22

Don't your kids cry when their cell phone is taken away?

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@wolfgirl569 (108126)

• Marion, Ohio

24 Feb 22

@Faster16 They will get over it. If they dont follow the rules they dont need the toys.

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@shaggin (72234)

• United States

25 Feb 22

I wouldn’t have thought of that nor would I have done that. Just take the phone away so she can’t have it if you don’t want her using it.

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@shaggin (72234)

• United States

1 Mar 22

@Faster16 they are all different what works for one doesn’t always work for the next.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

thank you for sharing the advice, we have done that, it didn't work for our child's condition which is slightly different from other children

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

2 Mar 22

@shaggin that's right, thank you

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@sol_cee (38219)

• Philippines

25 Feb 22

How old is your daughter?

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@MissNikki (5237)

• Maple Ridge, British Columbia

26 Feb 22

@Faster16 yeah, take the phone away. I understand d you dont like the crying but you are creating a monster. She will get over it. Provide her with more things to do and leave her to do them. Coloring pictures, drawing, reading, building with blocks, playing outside, playing with dolls, planting a garden, maybe sometimes TV.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

she is 5 years old

@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

@MissNikki thank you, we are also doing this method, keeping her busy with other fun activities

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@cacay1 (83577)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

27 Feb 22

There might be psychological effects, why not her own photo or photo of nature or parents.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

if i use photos like parents or nature, they won't scare our daughters

. we scared her to hold the cellphone

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@cacay1 (83577)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

1 Mar 22

Amen.

@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

24 Feb 22

Taking the phone away might be what is needed.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

25 Feb 22

@Faster16 I wish you the best.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

if taken immediately, my daughter will rebel while crying. so installing ghost images is our last solution

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

@CarolDM thank you

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

28 Feb 22

I'm sad to admit that my grandkids are also addicted to computer and cell phone games. We just let them be as long as they do their homework. When they don't, the PC and the CP are off-limits, until they do. And it works, like a miracle.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

thank you for sharing your story, it seems that rules need to be made

@RebeccasFarm (90464)

• Arvada, Colorado

24 Feb 22

Really? haha if it works okay

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@RebeccasFarm (90464)

• Arvada, Colorado

26 Feb 22

@Faster16 Then good

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

Yes, this is our last attempt, and it's proven to work

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@jstory07 (139974)

• Roseburg, Oregon

25 Feb 22

I would just limit the time they can be on the cell phone and than take it away.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

thank you for sharing your experience, we are trying to implement rules that our daughter can accept

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@jaboUK (64354)

• United Kingdom

25 Feb 22

Like others have said - just take the phone away.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

thank you for sharing the advice, we have done that, it didn't work for our child's condition which is slightly different from other children. our child can cry until late at night

@wolfgirl569 (108126)

• Marion, Ohio

24 Feb 22

I would just take the phone away

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

she will cry very long, strong until the night

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@wolfgirl569 (108126)

• Marion, Ohio

25 Feb 22

@Faster16 Monster tries that when she dont get her way. It gets better each time. Now she seldom argues. She knows I set the rules.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

@wolfgirl569 thank you for sharing the information, I will try to do better

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@MarshaMusselman (38865)

• Midland, Michigan

24 Feb 22

How old is the child that won't give up the cell phone?

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@MarshaMusselman (38865)

• Midland, Michigan

4 Mar 22

@Faster16 that's too young to let her get her own way.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

she is 5 years old

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

4 Mar 22

@MarshaMusselman That's right, we try our best for our daughter

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@MissNikki (5237)

• Maple Ridge, British Columbia

26 Feb 22

No, I would not do this. That is very scary. Just use your authority as their parent and do not let them use a phone, or place limits. No phones can be used until housework and school work are complete, etc.

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

thank you for sharing your opinion, but it seems we are weak as parents, can't bear to see children cry. Moreover, our daughter can bear to cry until late at night

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@FayeHazel (40243)

• United States

25 Feb 22

Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. That was brilliant to put a scary wallpaper

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

thank you for supporting

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@snowy22315 (182175)

• United States

24 Feb 22

Hey whatever works!

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@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

yes this is proven to work, looks like it will last a long time

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@just4him (317241)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

24 Feb 22

You need to set ground rules, not scare them.

@Faster16 (3181)

• Indonesia

25 Feb 22

have tried many times, but our child is hard to understand, we seem to have lost our minds

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@ihasaquestion (8275)

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3 Mar 22

Oh gosh, hope she's not scarred by that experience. I would explain nicely or not charge the phone so she could play like a few hours only.

@sinari (4997)

• Indonesia

1 Mar 22

Wow, you are also creative by installing a ghost image on your cellphone wallpaper. But I'm afraid that your daughter will be afraid to go to the kitchen or to the toilet, because she might imagine a lot of ghost faces on your cellphone.