Do I fall back in line?
By Jo Hill
@Carpathian (582)
United States
March 13, 2022 12:35pm CST
It's my 11 years anniversary and I am so sad! My husband has a crush on a new co-worker and I don't know how to feel about it. I discovered that he was texting, sexting and spending time with her after work fixing her truck. He say's he has not had any physical contact with her other then her leaning her head on his shoulder. But, that is not what is bothering me. I think it is the fact that he does admit that he has more in common with her and can open up with her more then me. What would you do if you were me? He has said sorry and that he won't sex her again. He also got her truck out of our shop. But, they still text and work together. Do I fall back in line as the good little wife or leave? I am 53years old. He is 50years old and the co-worker is 31 years old. I am over weight some but not obese. She has a rock hard body do to working on cars. They are both mechanics.
*Make your life happy*
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
13 Mar 22
@Carpathian I am so sorry and sad to be reading this. If I was in that position....easier said than done but I feel I would want to leave. I personally would be too worried every single time he was on the phone and what goes on at work. It would be too much stress for me. But really lovie, this is your decision. I would be asking him why he does this and if he still has feelings for you. And ask him what he can offer you to make sure this never happens again or simply tell him you don't want to be with someone who makes you feel unloved or a second priority to some other woman. Give him a strict choice. "Me or her? If you don't know, then that's not good enough for me. Goodbye."
Again easier said than done. I am speaking for myself as I too have had horrible experiences of being played. I would rather be with someone who makes me feel special and like I'm his only girl.
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@Carpathian (582)
• United States
15 Mar 22
I had a long talk we are both going to see where it goes. But, 1 mistake is all he gets. Next time, I'm gone no warnings.
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
15 Mar 22
@Carpathian Hey! I was wondering how you were going. I was worried about my response as I was sort of coming from a place of experience with being screwed around. I don't even know you but your story made me feel both sad and angry to which I do any time I hear of stories like this.
All I can say is, I truly hope things work out for the best. And if it does happen to turn sour, I hope you find the strength to just end it. (I hate how that sounds). Only because I believe it will just be way too much if his behaviour was to continue while you stuck around. I hope I'm making sense.
*sending hugs*
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@VivaLaDani13 (60794)
• Perth, Australia
22 Mar 22
@Carpathian I can understand the worries. I am glad you're also thinking very thoroughly about it. I wish you the best. Happiness is something you deserve to have and hope it's what you still end up getting however this plays out. 
@RebeccasFarm (90474)
• Arvada, Colorado
14 Mar 22
I would boot him out the door.
Sorry this is happening to you.
Or you can just live with it.
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@Carpathian (582)
• United States
15 Mar 22
He has one chance and only because it was not physical. If he messes up even close to this again I am out!
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
15 Mar 22
The mind wonders, the mouth flirts, but if it all stops there, I won't make it a big deal. The sexting, though, is more than casual flirting to me - but this is your marriage so it's for you to decide.
@kaylachan (71768)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
13 Mar 22
You have to ask yourself how you feel about him. What would you lose if you left him? Could you and be okay? Sure, love fades or can over time. Being jealous of a younger person, that's normal. However, can you picture your life without him? Can you start over? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself.
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@Carpathian (582)
• United States
15 Mar 22
Yes, I can and if he does anything even close to that again I will be out the door. Thank you for your advice.
*Make your life Happy*
