#3 - My brother's friends mock my mental health....I need help please. :(

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Thank you kindly for reading everything so far. Before I tell this story, I do beg of you, please always be honest with me but please no judgemental "get over it" type of messages. It's rare but it's happened and I'm honestly saying, I can't handle it. I can't handle having my concerns (there are way more than I'm telling you) to be swept under the rug as if it's nothing. The chances are slim here on MyLot but in case you feel the need, I dealt with that before and right now I cannot mentally deal with it. I can't understand or handle this treatment when I help, help and help only to be disrespected back. Especially by family. Andrew goes out. Charlie is in the lounge room with me and lately he has been on medication for his irregular heartbeat and laboured breathing. For some reason really recently Charlie has been dry retching. Like doing a weird loud coughing yet trying to vomit and breathe type of sound and it's been scaring me. Long story short, I did message Andrew on Facebook and was going nuts asking him again to please book him in the vet OR at least email or call a vet to ask if this is normal. He read all those messages but didn't respond to which that annoyed me because Andrew is known for making excuses on not taking HIS dog to the vet as he needs money for buying games, movies, fast food, movie streaming services, you know all the entertainment things that don't have a heartbeat like his dog. I got annoyed and sent him a message telling him "Don't worry I will book an appointment for your dog." I get a reply back. "Hi Danielle this is Jackie, you have no idea what you're asking about, I do know so stop interfering with Andrews dog. When you become a vet (not) maybe you'll realise you have no idea so back off." So one of Andrew's friends typed this to me. Jackie is the mother of Andrew's friends. I rang Andrew immediately and asked to speak to her. Not to yell or be rude but I simply told her that I do not wish to fight but due to Andrew being a compulsive liar, he will tell you how he looks after Charlie but he really isn't the best. Long story short, Andrew eventually got on the phone to me and his tone changed. When just less than 3 weeks ago he admitted (again) that he needs to do better for Charlie, the story altered. "I do, I play with him often, I've never forgotten his medication" blah blah and I was like "Andrew the reason you're telling me this is because you don't want to ruin the illusion you've created for your friends but how dare you make me out to be a cow when all I've done is try to help your dog because you suck at it. And how dare you lie to me yet again when you know I can't take the lies anymore. Please as my brother, for me, please just speak the truth!" Anyway....in the background from Andrew's friends: "You don't know anything about life. Andrew has a full time job unlike you." I said "Excuse me that has nothing to do with Andrew's lack of compassion for his dog and it's my personal reasons why I don't have a job right now which include severe depression. But I'm trying!" Reply: "I have depression and I have a full time job so that's no excuse." Then I hear two people laughing at me and saying "She has no life Andrew." The flipping ignorance of this person! And what the hell has me not working got to do with Andrew not looking after HIS dog correctly. Whether I am working or not, Andrew having a full time job is irrelevant. You ALWAYS do the right thing EVERY day whether it's a work day or weekend. Anyway again I hear his friends: "Leave Andrew alone it's his dog, get a life. He actually works unlike you. You don't know anything about life." I told Andrew to put me on speaker and EVENTUALLY Andrew admitted how he has discussed with me about being a better pet owner. But by this point I was hurt. Andrew allows his friends to talk to me in a cruel manner, and doesn't defend me? And even after that piece of scum for a brother admits to things I hear them again: "Andrew hang up on her she's manipulating you." How? I was speaking truth. I felt so alone, abandoned and like I was in a Twilight Zone episode. How did these people who I like, become so cruel towards my life over me trying to help Charlie? From all these comments to Andrew telling lies, spinning the story, making me look like a nagging nuisance....I was in tears. "How can you let these people speak to me like that when you're my brother, I do so much for you, I've defended you a lot when people were doing you wrong and you know my history of depression and all I've been through and less than 3 weeks ago you admitted to me again that you could do better, you treat me like this instead of just telling your friends the truth and you don't simply tell you friends to stop talking to me like that?" Just because someone is your friend, doesn't mean they are flawless. He has his friends wrapped around his lying little finger and hurt me so much. Lies and more lies and making me sound like a lunatic and allowing these people to say horrible things when all of this was about Charlie. I even got my dad to speak for his buddies to hear. Did it make a difference? Probably not. Though Andrew sucks at looking after his dog, he sure knows how to pull out his puppy dog eyes and lies between his teeth when backed in a corner. When he walked in last night, he said hello. I said nothing. But I am owed an apology. But to be honest, I no longer even want to speak with him. Angry? Yes of course but I actually well and truly feel like what's the point me trying when this sort of thing has happened. You can't go back from this. Such deceit and not defending me....how can I feel ok now?