The Thing I Kept Telling Myself
By Irsan29
@Irsan29 (45)
March 18, 2022 12:09am CST
Good day Mylot.
You know there are times when you see other people's achievement and you feel so intimidated? People at the same age as you, I mean. Well it happens to me sometimes.
Social media made it worse, since now we all can see how other people live, how they gain success and everything. I am not a jealous type, meaning, I usually don't get bothered by other people's things.
However, insecurities sometimes attack me and when that happened, I kept telling myself, that "I am doing fine, I also have this and that, I have achieved this and that."
Sometimes it worked, some other times it didn't.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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22 Mar 22
I am not insecure with others' achievements at all. When I see successful peers or unknown people around me, I feel happy for them. And I guess it is a formidable trait to have in general for some when you are a happy person. However, I guess normal humans do have feelings of insecurity and etc though.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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25 Mar 22
@Irsan29 Healthy thoughts of comparisons are good to motivate you to do better.
@sharonelton (29273)
• Lichfield, England
21 Mar 22
Well, even worse, when you see someone you knew as a baby getting married before you do!
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@sharonelton (29273)
• Lichfield, England
25 Mar 22
@Irsan29 Your alright. I've seen several people I knew as babies get married before me!
@zhangxueying (3339)
• China
18 Mar 22
It seems that the heart of comparison is really tiring
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
21 Mar 22
The trouble with social media is that it can give a false impression - things can be staged and framed to look a certain way when they are not what you think they are.
Years ago, people would see beautiful, glamorous stars and become dissatisfied with their own work a day lives. These days, anyone can capture a series of moments in their lives, but because that's all you see, what about the other hundreds of moments that led up to that moment, or the many moments after that one?
What we see in the media is an image, often designed to sell us something - so probably we should be more than a little wary.
Ever seen the army of make up artists that keep the star looking perfect until the next shot is over? same idea.
Found this helpful little article, hope you like it.
https://www.jw.org/en/bible-teachings/teenagers/ask/online-popularity/
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
22 Mar 22
Well... 2 things:
1. What other people post may not necessarily be truthful. I mean, it might look nice, but behind the scenes, it might not be so nice. So, perhaps don't let it affect you so much. Perhaps it's not something to be jealous of, after all...
2. I'm pretty sure, somewhere out there, there is someone else who has it worse than you and me. So, it's probably just better that we be thankful for what we have. 
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@RebeccasFarm (90294)
• Arvada, Colorado
18 Mar 22
You know you are so right.
The social media exposes us to other's possessions and achievements.
I understand.
It can be distressing when you have so little, but one thing you have is awareness to realize that you are doing fine. One step and day at a time.
One step and day at a time.1 person likes this
