Is this decision correct?
By Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
Indonesia
March 21, 2022 9:37pm CST
2 days ago, I got a call for an interview for a job and the result I was accepted. However, my parents did not allow me to work in the company because the work was not easy for a woman. I've been waiting for this for a long time though. My parents said there would be a better job. However, I have to respect my parents' decision. Hopefully there will be a better job in the future.
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@sharonelton (29317)
• Lichfield, England
22 Mar 22
You should know yourself if you're capable of doing the job! Don't let your parents stop you from doing something that you want to do!
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@sharonelton (29317)
• Lichfield, England
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Good. I'm glad you'll consider it. Have a nice day.
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@aninditasen (16501)
• Raurkela, India
22 Mar 22
I think you could have tried the job for some experience. Though I don't know in what way it was unsuitable for you.
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@aninditasen (16501)
• Raurkela, India
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Anyway keep trying and you will surely succeed.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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22 Mar 22
May I know what position was that, or rather, what job were you applying for?
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@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
22 Mar 22
Why do your parents feel the work was not 'easy for a woman'?
Do they feel you would be in danger?
As a parent, I would be unlikely to discourage my child from working. I would encourage them to build independence and experience.
If I did not want my daughter to take a job, it would have to be for a very good reason. Her safety is of greatest concern to me, as I'm sure your health and safety is to yours.
You have not given us much information - but your parents' concern is a red flag.
Are you still living with them?
Their concerns and opinions have greater weight if you are dependent upon them.
With life experience, they may see reasons for concern that a youthful person may dismiss.
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@Deepizzaguy (104192)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
22 Mar 22
That is usually the case when one job you wanted you did not get due to your parents being concerned.
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@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
22 Mar 22
I think you did the right thing because your parents always wants the best for you
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@amelied (117)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Well, I know Indonesian culture is always like that, cause I'm Indonesian itself. However, I think it depends on you, do you know what do you actually want to do?, and yeah we need to respect our parents' decisions, and we need to think about our future too. So, think about it it deeply, do research about what kind of job do you want to do. And yeah we have our own time for grow and found our job. LOL I'm sorry if you can't understand what I'm saying, but keep it up, friend! I hope you'll find a great job in the future
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@GardenGerty (160978)
• United States
23 Mar 22
I would say it depends on how old you are, and what your back ground is.
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@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Hmm... so it's not office work but more "on the field" type.
Do they think women should only be or could only work in an office?
What sort of field work would it be? Would you need to move around a lot? (Travel, commute, drive...) Or do you just stay in one place, but not an office? Is it out in the sun most of the time, or are you at least in the shade of buildings and stuff?
Do you think it would have been a job you could handle?
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@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 22
@moirai Maybe..because I haven't tried this job yet
Yes, so I have to do field work, do socialization, interact from one person to another and have to ride (motorcycle) too. Of course it will be in the sun hahaha.
Indeed I want to work and try. but after i told my parents i was not allowed. I've asked permission several times but still not allowed and told to try to find another better job. In the end I didn't take the job. Hopefully there will be a better job for me in the future
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