Is this decision correct?

Indonesia
March 21, 2022 9:37pm CST
2 days ago, I got a call for an interview for a job and the result I was accepted. However, my parents did not allow me to work in the company because the work was not easy for a woman. I've been waiting for this for a long time though. My parents said there would be a better job. However, I have to respect my parents' decision. Hopefully there will be a better job in the future.
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marguicha
@marguicha (223028)
• Chile
22 Mar 22
This depends on your culture I believe.
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Sharon Elton
@sharonelton (28862)
• Lichfield, England
22 Mar 22
You should know yourself if you're capable of doing the job! Don't let your parents stop you from doing something that you want to do!
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
thanks for the advice. Next time I will consider it
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Sharon Elton
@sharonelton (28862)
• Lichfield, England
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Good. I'm glad you'll consider it. Have a nice day.
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youless
@youless (112497)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Mar 22
I don't know. It depends on. If you like this job or it offers a good paid, why not have a try? You can still quit it anytime after you work for a while.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
when it's signed, you can't leave the company as you please. If you leave the company, you have to pay
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youless
@youless (112497)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Is there a trial time?
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 22
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
22 Mar 22
You have not mentioned what job it is. Still, you should go with what you like, don't think of others.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
next time i will do it. Thank u
Anindita Sengupta
@aninditasen (16395)
• Raurkela, India
22 Mar 22
I think you could have tried the job for some experience. Though I don't know in what way it was unsuitable for you.
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Anindita Sengupta
@aninditasen (16395)
• Raurkela, India
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Anyway keep trying and you will surely succeed.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
it should have been, but it was too late. I will keep trying to find another job. Thanks for the advice
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ihasaquestion
@ihasaquestion (8276)
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22 Mar 22
May I know what position was that, or rather, what job were you applying for?
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ihasaquestion
@ihasaquestion (8276)
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22 Mar 22
Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Actually I applied for an administrative position according to my background but was given an account officer position. One of the recruitment staff explained that my position was on duty outside the office and had to be on target
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sulynsi
@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
22 Mar 22
Why do your parents feel the work was not 'easy for a woman'? Do they feel you would be in danger? As a parent, I would be unlikely to discourage my child from working. I would encourage them to build independence and experience. If I did not want my daughter to take a job, it would have to be for a very good reason. Her safety is of greatest concern to me, as I'm sure your health and safety is to yours. You have not given us much information - but your parents' concern is a red flag. Are you still living with them? Their concerns and opinions have greater weight if you are dependent upon them. With life experience, they may see reasons for concern that a youthful person may dismiss.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 22
I still live with my parents. Yes, maybe you are right that my parents are worried and thinking about things that I don't think of. I can't explain everything to you
Anna
@LadyDuck (471541)
• Switzerland
23 Mar 22
Impossible to say if the decision of your parents is correct, it depends by your culture and I would say also from your age. If you are underage is different, if you are an adult, you should be allowed to take your decisions.
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George B Vieto
@Deepizzaguy (102876)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
22 Mar 22
That is usually the case when one job you wanted you did not get due to your parents being concerned.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
I also think the same as you
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Shiva
@Shiva49 (26684)
• Singapore
22 Mar 22
I can understand but better to be employed and then look for another job you like.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Should be but I hope I can find a better job in the future. Thank youu
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Simone
@Janet357 (75646)
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22 Mar 22
Are there many opportunities in your country?
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
I can't say many chances or not. However, I believe that every human being has their own time
Eric Tsuma
@erictsuma (9726)
• Mombasa, Kenya
22 Mar 22
I think you did the right thing because your parents always wants the best for you
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Oh thank u :)
Nurfadillah
@Bubba90 (1755)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
I hope there will be a better job. I always wish the best for you. cheers to you you are a great person and I believe in that.
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
I am very grateful to you :))
Nocturn Person
@amelied (117)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Well, I know Indonesian culture is always like that, cause I'm Indonesian itself. However, I think it depends on you, do you know what do you actually want to do?, and yeah we need to respect our parents' decisions, and we need to think about our future too. So, think about it it deeply, do research about what kind of job do you want to do. And yeah we have our own time for grow and found our job. LOL I'm sorry if you can't understand what I'm saying, but keep it up, friend! I hope you'll find a great job in the future
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Nocturn Person
@amelied (117)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Keep it up friend!
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
Hai :) I really understand what you mean and I thank you for your advice. I will continue to do my best and keep trying. I also hope that I can get a good job in the future
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (160677)
• United States
23 Mar 22
I would say it depends on how old you are, and what your back ground is.
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moirai
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
22 Mar 22
Hmm... I'm curious what type of job it was? Why would your parents say it's "not easy for a woman"?
moirai
@moirai (2853)
• Philippines
23 Mar 22
@nurulaz Hmm... so it's not office work but more "on the field" type. Do they think women should only be or could only work in an office? What sort of field work would it be? Would you need to move around a lot? (Travel, commute, drive...) Or do you just stay in one place, but not an office? Is it out in the sun most of the time, or are you at least in the shade of buildings and stuff? Do you think it would have been a job you could handle?
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
22 Mar 22
my position was on duty outside the office and had to be on target
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Azimatus
@nurulaz (26)
• Indonesia
23 Mar 22
@moirai Maybe..because I haven't tried this job yet Yes, so I have to do field work, do socialization, interact from one person to another and have to ride (motorcycle) too. Of course it will be in the sun hahaha. Indeed I want to work and try. but after i told my parents i was not allowed. I've asked permission several times but still not allowed and told to try to find another better job. In the end I didn't take the job. Hopefully there will be a better job for me in the future
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sarika bhatia
@sarik1 (7234)
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22 Mar 22
Right. we should respect parents.
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Jim Bauer
@porwest (90917)
• United States
23 Mar 22
If you are an adult your parents should not be able to make decisions for you. They can guide, advise, and assist. But it's your decision and not theirs to make.