How Do You Handle Grief?
@ihasaquestion (8275)
March 31, 2022 8:28pm CST
Hello to all,
How are you doing in your part of the world? Hope you guys are feeling okay and enjoying doing whatever you like.
For today's discussion, I would like to talk about grief. I was perusing the Internet pages and I came across a somewhat interesting discussion that made me think of what could possibly be the answers of different people from all walks of life.
How do you guys handle grief? Some would talk it out with close friends and families while others may choose to bottle it up.
If it has ever happened to you, how do you handle it and if you have not gone through the ordeal at all before, what kind of suggestions you may give to uplift the situation in which you may be in.
Thanks in advance for all your answers and till we meet again on another topic. Ciao for now.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
1 Apr 22
When my son passed away last year I was quiet. I grieved by myself and still do. When my mate passed away in September I still grieved alone. Nobody saw me cry. I’m a very self contained person. I’ve shared more of my grief on Mylot than anywhere.
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@RubyHawk (99405)
• Atlanta, Georgia
2 Apr 22
@ihasaquestion Thanks, Sometimes I think it’s better to scream and cry but we each grieve in our way. How do you grieve? Or have you ever lost a loved one?
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
You are a strong lady and I admire your courage for that.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
@RubyHawk Yes, when I lost my grandpa I felt like a lost sense of direction. It felt like my world crashed. But a kind soul helped me went through it all. In times of technology and all, to have a human touch means a lot for sure.
I'm not hard up to get in touch with my emotions but I guess you're right; different people deal with it differently.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
Yes grief can remain for as long as we allow for it to sit with us. With sadness, comes happiness just like yin and yang. Take care, my friend.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
2 Apr 22
@ihasaquestion Sometimes happiness comes.
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@shaggin (72183)
• United States
2 Apr 22
@ihasaquestion some people had issues with me doing it and gave me a hard time or unfriended me. Oh well.
@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
@shaggin That's Facebook life for you, innit. Just do you.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
1 Apr 22
I lost my husband recently. I was in distress and wanted to die myself. Time healed my wound gradually. When one is in deep distress no consolation works. My sons were close to me but that didn't lessen my loneliness. Time is the best healer.
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@aninditasen (16505)
• Raurkela, India
2 Apr 22
@ihasaquestion Presently I am alone, but I am slowly getting over my grief.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
You are lucky to have your children with you. Sorry for your loss, you'll certainly pull through, dear friend.
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@arunima25 (87855)
• Bangalore, India
1 Apr 22
I prefer not to bottle up but rather talk to someone. And definitely giving ourselves time to get over it. Time is the best healer. I also like to do things that help me stay distracted and give me mental peace.
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@arunima25 (87855)
• Bangalore, India
2 Apr 22
@ihasaquestion No matter how much we try, some grief and hurt are too deep. It never goes. We learn to cope and live with it.
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2 Apr 22
Your way of dealing with it is certainly well and good. Time is the essence, yes.
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@TerribleMan (579)
• India
11 Jul 22
For much time, I had grief because I was a bad person in the past and I had regrets. I had been bad to many and I was sad about it, though I was punished severely and beaten up many times for what I did. Later, I somehow moved on and stopped feeling grief.
@ihasaquestion (8275)
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12 Jul 22
@TerribleMan Did you have a psychology problem before for why you mistreated women that way? I hope you are better now, and get the help you deserve. One day, you won't feel and do terrible things anymore. Just do it...you can.
@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
1 Apr 22
I don´t have an answer for that. It so depends on the who, what, when. But many times I wish I could howl.
@ihasaquestion (8275)
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1 Apr 22
Yes, if only we could howl but that won't be healthy if done too often.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
@marguicha Well, crying helps. It shows you are a human not devoid of emotions. Then talk about it with your love ones. I guess so, if that's how you can deal with it better.
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@kaylachan (71519)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
1 Apr 22
For me it depends. Each loss I've suffered I've reacted very differently. When I'velost my pets, most of the time it resulted in a lot of crying jags. In other times I was just numb. Grief, like any emotion, I allow my emotions to run their course. It's all I can really do. All you can really expect from anyone, really. I've never bottled things, but I don't force them either.
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@ihasaquestion (8275)
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1 Apr 22
I really like your answer. It's very real and spot-on. If you don't mind me asking, how many pets have you lost so far? I can only imagine the attachment feelings you must have felt. I guess you're right; the best answer is to let those emotions run its course.
@Babino (5759)
• Morocco
2 Apr 22
I think the best way to handle grief is to feel it, to acknowledge your emotions. If you try to ignore it you won't get over it. The quicker you deal with it the quicker you get over it. Take your time to grief. Cry a river, then build a bridge and get over it.
Tho I never really get over it. We just get used to life without them.
@ihasaquestion (8275)
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2 Apr 22
I think you are right. The only way is to survive the grief. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger.
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