You are fat!

@toniganzon (72533)

Philippines

April 26, 2022 6:06pm CST

My son pointed at my belly and told me that I am fat. I just laughed and said, it's normal for a mom to have excess belly fat. Then he went on and said, "Have you seen those girls at the criterium race and how skinny they were?" Told him that those girls were young and said, "Have you seen all the mothers at the criterium race and how big they were?" He replied, "Well, you don't dress like a mother!" Now I don't know if I should be flattered being compared to the young girls instead of the moms my age, or get mad at him for insisting that I am fat!

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@moffittjc (121714)

• Gainesville, Florida

27 Apr 22

The worst thing any man can say to a woman is that she’s fat or looks fat. It’s an unwritten rule that you just don’t talk about that. Ever. Your son is still young, and still learning though, so don’t be too hard on him.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

Oh no no no! And being called fat is something that would never ever offend me. It took ages for me to gain weight and I'd rather be called fat than skinny coz I've been extremely skinny my entire life.

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@moffittjc (121714)

• Gainesville, Florida

28 Apr 22

@toniganzon Well, in your case that makes a lot of sense.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

@moffittjc Sure does. I had been a size 0 until Craig was 2 years old. Even when I was pregnant I was just 45kg. Now I'm 55kg at 5 foot 4. I've been trying to maintain that weight for years. Sometimes it would drop to 50kg or 52. I promised myself I'd never go below 50kg coz then it would be too difficult to gain my weight back again.

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@LadyDuck (472074)

• Switzerland

27 Apr 22

I would be flattered, he did not even think to compare you with the moms.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

28 Apr 22

@LadyDuck I think we all stop at one particular age in our life. I still see myself in my 30s.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

yes that's the good thing about it. It never entered his mind that I those girls he was comparing me too could already be my daughters.

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@LadyDuck (472074)

• Switzerland

28 Apr 22

I noticed that my husband usually compares me with women in their early 40s... he cannot set his mind on the fact that I am 71. I cannot either.

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@averygirl72 (37845)

• Philippines

28 Apr 22

Really? My problem too is my belly fat. I'm just medium built but my belly is big too

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

I actually don't have a fat belly. It's flat. And I'm still a size small in all my clothes. Sometimes XS. Never medium. My pants is between size 23-25.

@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

@averygirl72 You just need to exercise and eat the right kind of food.

@averygirl72 (37845)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

@toniganzon I see. My waistline is 32 so I'm really bothered

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@RasmaSandra (80736)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

27 Apr 22

How old is he? Kids usually pretty much see things as black and white, I have never considered if the clothes I wear are young or old I just wear what I like and what is comfortable for me,

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

He's 18.

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@RasmaSandra (80736)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

27 Apr 22

@toniganzon Then he should not compare his mom to young girls and if his mom dresses younger he should like that she is up to date,

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

@RasmaSandra Oh he likes the fact that I don't dress old. In fact we share shirts. And when he was younger, I pointed at one mom who dressed really quite old and shabby and asked him if it was ok with him that I'd look like that in the future. He said no. he's happy with the way I look. I never take offense every time he tells me I'm fat because we both know I am not.

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@sinari (4997)

• Indonesia

27 Apr 22

Hahaha...sometimes our children like to tease their mother. Because the nature of children like to be critical. But in my opinion, the children are still innocent. So they like to tell the truth.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

he's no child anymore. He's 18 and he's telling the truth. But I am never offended by such. I know my body well and I am not even close to being fat.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

@sinari flirting?! That's an awful thing to say. And I know he wasn't really serious. It was a joke.

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@sinari (4997)

• Indonesia

27 Apr 22

@toniganzon Yes, then your child is joking, and teasing you. If your body is far from fat, or if your body is currently slim, then I think your son is flirting with you.

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@58lordstreet (1668)

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28 Apr 22

to be honest its normal for most people to have a bit of fat, its the washboard stomachs that are not normal

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

28 Apr 22

I don't really care much about that. I struggled for years to gain weight. And I am happy with my ideal weight now.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

@58lordstreet I am actually skinny. Even when I was pregnant I was just 45kg.

@58lordstreet (1668)

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28 Apr 22

@toniganzon same here , everyone always says Im too thin but I do have fat lol, I just have long arms and legs

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@rakski (126043)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

my son just compared me and my sister-in-law with some women he saw who are way heavier than us

he said we are not fat, those girls are bigger but we are middle-aged women.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

My son never compares me to heavy women.

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@rakski (126043)

• Philippines

29 Apr 22

@toniganzon same here

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@JudyEv (342088)

• Rockingham, Australia

27 Apr 22

Over here, we would call that a bit of a back-handed compliment.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

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@LindaOHio (181721)

• United States

27 Apr 22

I hope he was just joking.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

Oh he was. He knew for a fact that I am far from being fat.

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@yoalldudes (35037)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

LOL this is funny. Your son is funny.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

He truly is. He got his humor from me.

@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

27 Apr 22

I don't like the word fat. But many are ok with it. Kids are too funny sometimes.

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

I don't like the word skinny. The only time I was finally able to reach my ideal weight was when Craig was already 2 years old. I had been really skinny and I hated it back then every time people pointed out how skinny I was. So when I finally gained weight and saw my friends, they were all shocked and hardly recognized me and all they could say was I was fat and I took it as a compliment. But they really didn't mean fat fat. But they were just so used seeing me too skinny.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

28 Apr 22

@toniganzon I understand.

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@58lordstreet (1668)

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27 Apr 22

I used to call my mothers elbows goatskin , I had no idea it could be offensive at the time and now I have the same elbows lol

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@toniganzon (72533)

• Philippines

27 Apr 22

i am never offended by what my son say about me being fat.