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@Shiva49 (26776)

Singapore

July 2, 2022 9:06am CST

Our outlook on life is influenced by our upbringing, cultural background, and experiences. I have a conservative approach to life with a view not to rock the boat. At times I have found myself in stormy waters and once I am back in my comfort zone, I not only sigh a breath of relief but also pat myself that I am made of sterner stuff than I had reckoned with. Life has mostly been kind to me with no regrets. I played it primarily safe and that suited my temperament. How about you? How have your decisions gone for you? I know a few are aggressive in their pursuits and others who are more like me going with the flow. Image: Choices from free media site Pixabay.

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@crossbones27 (49721)

• Mojave, California

2 Jul 22

Very cool and people think I am this left wing nut. I lean to the left and can be very conservative, I like to play it safe, until people mess with my livelihood. My downfall has always been my temper where I am learning to become zen like you.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

2 Jul 22

I too want a fair society as opposed to a cutthroat one where one gets ahead by fair means or foul. I keep dreaming all the time but the reality is harsh. I have controlled my temper over the years as I feel guilty when I lose it!

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@crossbones27 (49721)

• Mojave, California

2 Jul 22

@Shiva49 Amen, true words for me, right there. I am listening to these Mexicans at 7 20 in morning just laugh it up and have a good time and they not illegal been here for years but amazing how they get treated and still love this place and how fourth of July week end just makes them celebrate because someone gave them a chance to try to make their life better. Why is that so bad? This country should celebrate that because no where on earth did a country allow people from all over the world come to their country to see how freedom works and why they all came here, why our ancestors came here.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

2 Jul 22

@crossbones27 Yes, we should all pause once in a while and count our blessings. We get away with an entitlement attitude forgetting the sacrifices of earlier generations who had it much tougher than us. When I look around and see some happy but do not know where their next meal is going to come from. And there are those who seem to have everything except contentment.

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

28 Aug 22

It seems that I am very similar to you. I’m not aggressive and prefer not to rock the boat. I’ve been a team player all my life, and mostly because I felt I had to. I enjoy being in my comfort zone, but my husband has always told me that I am stronger than I ever thought I was.

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@DianneN (247184)

• United States

28 Aug 22

@Shiva49 You also had a good head on your shoulders.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

28 Aug 22

Yes, I too have gone through a few baptisms of fire, and how I went through that phase surprised me. It could have gone either way but I had lucky breaks too.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

28 Aug 22

, thanks

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

31 Jul 22

I am almost the same. I don't want to be the one to rock the boat, so I try to be the pacifier at times, even when I was the wronged person. I don't want conflicts because they stress me out. I prefer to settle misunderstandings with the right people so that everything would be peaceful and calm. There were rare times I have exploded but once I expressed myself, I tend to calm down quickly, That's why in the university where I once taught, they are 'afraid' of the kind and sweet prof. because when she explodes it's terrifying.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

31 Jul 22

I want peace and coexistence and would go more than half way. I don't carry grudges and that lightens my load! Yes, some have high tolerance level but when they snap, then sky is the limit like a volcanic eruption. I recall Mount Pinatubo in 1991!

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@Jenaisle (14078)

• Philippines

31 Jul 22

You know about Mt. Pinatubo?

Yes, like that frightening volcan.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

31 Jul 22

@Jenaisle Yes, I recall that day and those that followed. The sunlight disappeared for a few days in Singapore!

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317238)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

18 Aug 22

I'm glad your life is good.

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Valerie J. Routhieaux

@just4him (317238)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

18 Aug 22

@Shiva49 That's good you can.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

18 Aug 22

Yes, I am able to adjust to reality and changed circumstances too from time to time.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

27 Oct 22

Such a special photo.. reminds me so much of my son Dustin. Most of my decisions have gone well in my life. I always question why my son is not here with me. When you do your best, that is all you can do.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

28 Oct 22

I can feel your loss, Carol. Life can be cruel at times and we have no clue why we become the victims. My son was born after fourteen years of our marriage and I cherish every moment that I had with him before he left for higher studies and work. We are in regular touch though.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

28 Oct 22

@CarolDM Thank you.

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@CarolDM (203422)

• Nashville, Tennessee

28 Oct 22

@Shiva49 I know we have talked about this before. The pain never goes away. I wish your son the best.

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Aiana Martins de Almeida Dutra

• Belo Horizonte, Brazil

2 Jul 22

I've always liked things that make me feel safe and I will be until I die. But lately, in addition to questioning the purpose of my existence, I've been missing news. I don't know if you've watched or read The Shack, but except for the bad stuff, I'd like to have a conversation with God.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

2 Jul 22

I can understand where you come from. I have heard of the movie The Shack. I think we have the ability to have a direct link with our creator but we need to tune in to the right frequency with dedication, fervor, and perseverance.

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Aiana Martins de Almeida Dutra

• Belo Horizonte, Brazil

2 Jul 22

@Shiva49 Exactly

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@RebeccasFarm (90474)

• Arvada, Colorado

30 Jul 22

I have seen and done things most people would not believe. I have made bad choices but somehow have come out surviving.

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@RebeccasFarm (90474)

• Arvada, Colorado

31 Jul 22

@Shiva49 You have indeed Shiva. I admire your tenacity.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

31 Jul 22

Yes, we need to pick up the pieces. We all trip but how soon we get up shows our character and resilience. I have also survived some close calls along the way.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

31 Jul 22

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@cacay1 (83577)

• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines

29 Aug 22

Life is sometimes kind to me. There are also times that I just go with the flow. We always have uncertainties in life, but unnoticingly able to surpass all odds. Let us just be happy, at least we have a job to have something on our plates.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

29 Aug 22

Yes Erly, it is said we do not face problems that we cannot handle. We need the challenges to make this life meaningful.

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@innertalks (22093)

• Australia

3 Jul 22

Yes, we should analyse, and examine, our own outlook to see where it comes from, how it was formed, and if it is really serving us in our lives. An outlook must be created from love to be a God involved outlook: all other outlooks come half baked from your mind, and should be pushed aside.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

3 Jul 22

Yes, we need to remind ourselves not to lose track of our goals. I analyse often where I am headed and if I need a course correction if had gone astray. A life lived to benefit society, in general, is love-driven and gives us maximum fulfillment.

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@innertalks (22093)

• Australia

3 Jul 22

@Shiva49 If we do not remind ourselves exactly what our goals are, or if we are too occupied to even think of what they might, and should be, for us, we will kick goals towards any type of a goal post then, and usually, when we do this, we will be kicking goals for another team, other than kicking our own goals in life. We will have stepped away from ourselves into a darker place instead, then.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

4 Jul 22

@innertalks And there are those who move/shift the goal posts if we are not alert! Not forgetting the Hand of God goal (the unseen one), but Maradonna was right up there anyway.

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@thelme55 (77164)

• Germany

13 Jul 22

I have also a conservative outlook in life although I understand how it is in the modern world nowadays. I weight things before I decide what to do. I prefer to be safe and avoid risk.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

14 Jul 22

Over the years I have reduced taking risks as there is not much time left to recover from setbacks unlike when I was younger. Better not to rock the boat as we get older.

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@misunderstood_zombie (8142)

• United States

9 Jul 22

I've made a great many terrible decisions but thank God I survived it all.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

9 Jul 22

Nice to hear that. We need the lucky breaks too.

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@aureategloom (10988)

• Bosnia And Herzegovina

9 Dec

i agree that our outlook on life is influenced with everything you mentioned above. when it comes to decisions - i was always indecisive - which high school, which college, should stay in Bosnia or leave etc. i feel like my decisions have been working out pretty good for me, but i always wonder - what would happen if i decided to do the other thing.

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@Shiva49 (26776)

• Singapore

10 Dec

I wonder, too, if I had made other decisions or met someone who could have changed my whole approach to life. Then again had I been born to different parents, backgrounds, etc? We are dealt some cards and play them as ably as possible rather than feeling deprived.

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