About love and commitment

@DeeDee05 (60)

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6 Jul 22

and i still dont know how to choose the right one. lol. i always saw it around me, how lovey dovey the couple is at the beginning and then they just breaking up. i guess they are just not mean to be, and it's okay, but if there is children involved it getting hard because they feel the need to stay in relationship.

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@DeeDee05 (60)

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6 Jul 22

@JimBo452020 yeah, it's sound good because you can have person to stand by you and have fun together, IF you get the right one.

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KRISTINE LIMSIACO

@klimsiaco (32)

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6 Jul 22

Marriage is a decision and also it depends on the partner. So you really have to choose the best.

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Sanjeev

@sjvg1976 (41290)

• Delhi, India

6 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 it's just luck by chance

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@DeeDee05 (60)

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6 Jul 22

how do you know that your SO is the right one? people changes, and i always fear that someday they lost interest and what can i do then?

@DeeDee05 (60)

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6 Jul 22

@sjvg1976 guess i'm the unlucky one then

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Judy Story

@jstory07 (139996)

• Roseburg, Oregon

6 Jul 22

You need to find a person with the same interests that you have. When you meet that person you will know that you are in love.

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@DeeDee05 (60)

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6 Jul 22

yeah, maybe. i don't have high standard but it's hard to make me fall in love, i might get interested to someone but it just attraction not love

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Jellybelly

@CookieMonster46 (13454)

• United States

8 Jul 22

When you meet the right person for marriage you will know if right.

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Jellybelly

@CookieMonster46 (13454)

• United States

11 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 I knew I was in love he accepted me as I am. I had health issues then too. My family loved him. He was always between jobs. Unfortunately he left mecin 20011 to find himself just left.so a bad ending. Now that I had a stroke a different nursing homeci have to focus on me these days.

@DeeDee05 (60)

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11 Jul 22

how? what kind of sign did you get when you found the right one?

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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7 Jul 22

If your mom hadn't gotten married, she certainly wouldn't have you and there will be no you asking all these questions right now. I guess there is no direct formula to this. If you are so scared, draw up a marriage contract but that will seem surreal. Being single or attached is a choice. Whichever you choose, just stick with it and make it work.

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ihasaquestion

@ihasaquestion (8275)

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8 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 I like your view on this, DeeDee.

@DeeDee05 (60)

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8 Jul 22

yes, i already have my future planned in my head so eventho i don't have partner or kid i don't suffer. my mother just afraid that i will live and die alone later with no one to take care of me, but for me it better if i live alone than together with someone i can't stand.

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Lotus

@elmer0421 (432)

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8 Jul 22

I have read researches that about making relationships lasting for both heterosexuals and even for those belonging to LGBTQ and I notice there are commonalities in two researches...They are communication, similarities between two people, being supportive to each other and commitment...Truly, being committed to someone is especially important to a lasting relationship. And I understand your feeling that your freedom will be lost.Being an INFP, I feel like I need some freedom and some alone time.People are vastly different and we can find someone similar to us when it comes to our beliefs, spending habits etc.That's why it's also pointed out from the research that getting know the person first is also essential...

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Lotus

@elmer0421 (432)

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11 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 Yes relationship can be tiring....Staying single can be fun and have an advantage that is doing what you want...

@DeeDee05 (60)

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11 Jul 22

the thing is, relationship is tiring me. try to adjust with one people is already hard enough and when i got married i need to get close with the in laws, too, try to maintain a good relationship and all

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simplyme

@m_audrey6788 (58472)

• Germany

6 Jul 22

I just feel it and love to be with my husband all the time. A relationship can last long if you respect and accept each other differences. You have a point somehow, when you get married you can`t decide on your own anymore. It must be decided by the two of you to avoid misunderstandings

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Anna

@LadyDuck (472087)

• Switzerland

6 Jul 22

I am married from 50 years and I never regretted getting married very young. To have a happy marriage you have to be compatible, to have a lot in common, like the same things, enjoy being together and not being selfish.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

7 Jul 22

You should never get married unless you love the person and don’t want to live without them.

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Ruby Hawk

@RubyHawk (99405)

• Atlanta, Georgia

7 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 It’s much better to wait for the one you love with all your heart.

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@DeeDee05 (60)

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7 Jul 22

hmmm.... i can't find someone like that yet. so it's better for me to stay single than married with the wrong person

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Anindita Sengupta

@aninditasen (16501)

• Raurkela, India

9 Jul 22

Chosing a life partner according to attitude towards life works well. If both partners view towards life is the same, marriage will work and both will lead a happy life. Differences in opinion may arise but a solution will definitely come out.

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Rhonda S.

@misunderstood_zombie (8142)

• United States

6 Jul 22

This should be your choice and no one elses.

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Hilda

@Hildasalom (954)

• Nairobi, Kenya

6 Jul 22

I find the idea of getting married as a big deal to me and you have to be sure you want to. I have seen how married couples argue alot especially from my parents and I can't imagine getting married. Another thing is that men think women are supposed to be the ones doing housechores and all that. I just find it absurd!!

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@DeeDee05 (60)

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8 Jul 22

yes, may married friends often told me about their problems and tbh it makes me afraid to get married too

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Sharon Elton

@sharonelton (29334)

• Lichfield, England

6 Jul 22

I'm exactly the opposite. I'm desperate to find a nice husband and get out of my parents house. I want to get a nice house in Cardiff and live there with my nice husband. My mother doesn't seem to think I'll be able to do it for some reason.

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Sharon Elton

@sharonelton (29334)

• Lichfield, England

11 Jul 22

@DeeDee05 Thank you very much. I do hope so.