Old house

It happens a lot. My mother has Alzheimer's and we can't take care of her.

That can happen, but usually when they are much older than 60. When the parents are too old to care for themselves, then they will either move in with some of their adult children who take care of them or they are placed in an old age home. An old age home has professional nurses 24 hours a day plus other people who are there to help the old people cope with living their daily lives.

No, I didn't hear of it. Maybe the people here will enlighten on it.

I won't say that it's a custom. Yes, more and more people do it. I think the same thing is picking pace in Asian countries too with the changing socio economic conditions.

It confused me a bit of what you meant by this.

Never heard of this system in my place. Sounds a bit weird to me. What's common here is when the son or daughter gets married, they may move out and not staying at the same house with the parents.

Hi Zulfaqar, I am so glad that you asked this question. Many people don't ask, they assume and mostly the assumptions are very bad because it leads them to think that people in west don't care about their parents. This is not the case. I must say that people in the western world care more about their parents and that care and love forces them to send their parents to the old age home. Over here the old age homes are very well equipped and maintained by professionals. Leaving parents at old age home is not something that anyone enjoys but, the demanding system forces some of us to take these difficult decisions. Think of it in a way that you and your wife both are working a full time job, your children are under the age of 12 and your parents are very old, so old that they need continuous or even off and on help doing regular self maintenance. What would you do? You would may be turn to a relative/family member or maybe hire someone to take care of your parents. Well life is different in the Wester world, not everyone can afford to hire some to take care of their parents and definitely not everyone has a relative or a friend that can give free services. In western world, everybody works outside of their home, even children start working outside of home as they are moving towards their adulthood. With such limited choices, it's not only safe but also smart to let the parents live with other seniors of their age and where they can get help whenever they need it.

There is no right or wrong about it. Everybody has their reasons, in West both, husband and wife are working and at times they find it better to put their aging parents (especially the ones that need full time attention) in old age homes. Some old age homes are better, while some are not as friendly. It's easier on the people who are working full time and are not able to provide the needed attention. It's upto us how we create our standards.

It doesn't happen all of the time. It depends a lot on the older person's health far more than their age. Sometimes older relatives are very difficult to care for, so that is the reason for old folk's homes.

Many people live at home well past that age. I took care of my parents when their health got too bad for them to take care of themselves. My mom passed without needing a home. The last month of dads life I had to put him in. He was needing 24 hour care and one person cannot provide that. The care giver needs rest. A home provides around the clock care. We all visited him regularly and when he was up to it he enjoyed the activities that they had for the people to do. In the end I wished I had put him in one sooner as he was enjoying it.

It's case to case, 60 years old is still very strong. There's no reason why placed him in an old house or care center. Many retire at age 65 and still healthy.

I've never heard of that , it's my first time. But if that's is true then I n my opinion I think it's not good to keep our parents in old house