Living with your parents or in-laws..
By sublime03
@sublime03 (2339)
Philippines
October 11, 2022 8:43am CST
I understand the reasons of many who chooses to stay with their parents or in-laws after they get married. Some because of financial reasons, for some its because their parents are by themselves or for some parents they want their child with them.
But no matter how nice your parents or in-laws are, down the line some things are bound to happen. It may work for some but the majority it doesn’t. Not necessarily because they hate each other but because we all have our differences. We all want to do certain things a certain way.
I’m just wondering how many are still living with their parents or in-laws even after they got married. And how is it not being able to do things your way because you don’t own the house? Especially nowadays the economy isn’t that great for many so some opt to go back to live with their parents to lessen the bills they have to pay.
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@Dreamerby (3650)
• Calcutta, India
11 Oct 22
In India, marriages are seen as a communion between two families. In earlier decades, it was pressing for the girl to live with her in-laws. Things have changed in most parts of the country in the coming years...
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@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
11 Oct 22
it is interesting how it is so different in your part of the world. Is it not expensive to get your own place there? It is costly here to get your own place and to skip paying too expensive rent others tend to choose to live with their parents until such time they can pay gor their own.
@MALUSE (69373)
• Germany
11 Oct 22
@sublime03 I'm not an expert on the topic but I know that there are financial schemes which help young people acquire property even if they have only little money. They can get a loan from a bank and then pay the money back for many years.
Besides, a young couple doesn't have to own the place where the live right from the start. They can rent a place, can't they?
@RebeccasFarm (89457)
• Arvada, Colorado
11 Oct 22
I have a disabled son who lives with me for reasons. It is fine.
I have in the past lived with in laws and it was also fine but in the end better to live as a couple in own house.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
11 Oct 22
I understand the circumastances others have for living with their parents. But true that a couple should have their own home to build together.
@jobelbojel (35191)
• Philippines
13 Oct 22
I moved out when I was 21. Since then I lived independently. Though some years I lived with my sister and brothers in the apartment. And moved to Manila alone. My youngest brother went to school in Manila so he needed to stay with me. And now he is living alone.
We all moved out - but we kinda miss living with my father.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
13 Oct 22
Wow that’s brave of you to move out at 21. How I wish I was that brave to venture out on my own that young. It isn’t the norm for us here but I know many wants to do it early but afraid that their parents will not let them.
@aninditasen (16320)
• Raurkela, India
11 Oct 22
In India women usually stay with their in-laws after marriage. My mother-in-law stayed with us for sometimes after our marriage and my husband ran the family. We stayed in the government quarter allotted to him by the government.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
11 Oct 22
Oh I wasn’t aware of that. Traditions are very important so I understand how it is for other countries.
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@aninditasen (16320)
• Raurkela, India
12 Oct 22
@sublime03 In India when two people marry there's union between two families.
