Spending time with the children / myLot

Cooma, Australia

November 2, 2022 7:55pm CST

I have an empty nest. I live 1.5 hrs drive away from my kids. I went to visit them last weekend, spending a night with the daughter and a couple of nights with the son. They were both working while I was there. While they were away, I did motherly activities like tidy up, wash clothes, cook, do errands like waiting for their orders online to arrive. It’s good to feel like a mother again, they treat me as such too and are very generous now with their time and money. Sometimes they give me pocket money or they give me food or plants to take home. I think that we have a better relationship now that they live away from me and just see me at our convenient time. Adult kids will be our best friends, if you treat them as such and respect their space and decision. I just support and advice when they ask for it. Do you have adult kids? Are they your best friends? Photo is a dish I cooked for the son.

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Archie0

@Archie0 (5652)

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7 Nov 22

You are such a good mother. You respect your children’s privacy and you love them and they love you back. And I am happy that you meet them, live with them and feel good to help them out. I am happy they also take care of you. And I am sure you must be getting little something from Mylot to complete small needs.

pumpkinjam

@pumpkinjam (8770)

• United Kingdom

4 Nov 22

I have 4 children (2 boys of my own, and 2 step-daughters). The youngest is 17 but the other 3 are in their 20s. I've always been close to my older son. He lives about a 2 hour drive away but, as we don't have a car, it's about a 4 hour train journey. I don't visit him often but he comes home for summers and Christmas. If I visit him, we usually go out as he lives in a shared house. My daughters live in the opposite direction. It's about a 4 or 5 hour drive to them. If we visit, we'll make a holiday out of it and hire a car as it could take all day on the train! It's also cheaper, perhaps surprisingly, to hire a car for a week than to take the train. With the girls, the youngest calls me her step-mum. The eldest, which was an adult when I first met her, I think sees me more as a friend. I'm not particularly motherly with them but there for them in whatever way they need. My 17 year old is quite different altogether. Maybe because he's the youngest, maybe because he's the one still at home, maybe because he's a teenager or maybe it's just him! He still sees me as nagging and annoying, I think! We don't have a bad relationship but I do think it is likely to improve as he gets older.

Pitstop

@pitstop (14083)

• Australia

3 Nov 22

That looks like a nice time you had. Hope the bond stays on. Do they live alone?

Anna

@LadyDuck (472114)

• Switzerland

3 Nov 22

We had no kids, my Mom lived 1 and half hour for me, I went to visit her once a month. I dyed and cut her hair, we invited her out for lunch and in summer and during the holidays we brought her here to spend some days with us.

solxee

@sol_cee (38219)

• Philippines

3 Nov 22

I think my mom and I are in that stage

Judy Evans

@JudyEv (342077)

• Rockingham, Australia

3 Nov 22

There isn't much chance of us overstaying our welcome with our children. We will be staying a month in Ireland with our son but not living in his house. We haven't seen him and his wife for over two years so a month isn't really excessive. lol

Judy Story

@jstory07 (139965)

• Roseburg, Oregon

3 Nov 22

I am a good friend with all six of my adult children. I am glad you are a friend with yours to..