Bouquet of Daisies
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (45224)
Staten Island, New York
November 11, 2022 5:03pm CST
Went to the store today to buy half-n-half and a few other things and spotted a bouquet of daisies. These are my favorite flowers so I decided to get them. They seem to brighten my day and thought they would do the same today.
Didn’t really happen. Maybe because it is gloomy and raining. Or perhaps because yesterday was half a year since my dad passed away.
I actually wanted to visit his grave yesterday but my mom’s friend said I shouldn’t do that. Something about disturbing his soul, if I understood her correctly. Wish I hadn’t listened to her and just went. Cried a lot yesterday.
Walking home in the rain was no fun. I had to carry two shopping bags and the bouquet of daisies while holdIng an umbrella at the same time. My arms and hands kept getting tired and I had to stop many times to rest. The walk home seemed to take forever...
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Nov 22
Not the best pic but flowers are really nice. Wish it was a fuller bouquet though.
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@CarolDM (203422)
• Nashville, Tennessee
11 Nov 22
@lovebuglena Looks very nice. Less is more sometimes.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Nov 22
@CarolDM I wanted to cut the stems even more but hubby said not to do it.
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@LadyDuck (472430)
• Switzerland
14 Nov 22
@lovebuglena It happens, I had one of those yesterday.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Nov 22
Sometimes we have those days where nothing brightens it or lifts our mood. Guess it was one of those.
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@popciclecold (39746)
• United States
11 Nov 22
I am sorry your day wasn't so good. Hate you had to walk with two bags in the rain. Take care of yourself.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
11 Nov 22
Very uncomfortable carrying bags while also holding an umbrella. And add a bouquet of flowers to that and it’s even worse.
@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Nov 22
They do, though I wish it was a fuller bouquet.
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@MarieCoyle (40300)
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14 Nov 22
My Dad's birthday was a few days ago, right before Veteran's day. It's always a bittersweet day for me. He passed away long ago, and I still miss him a lot. I do go to his grave sometimes, but not often as I don't live where he is buried. But I know he isn't really there, just his body, not his spirit, and that helps somehow. I try to remember his laugh and his love of me and my family, that helps, too. I know it's hard.
I love daisies, they are my favorite as well. So sweet and cheerful.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Nov 22
I hope it gets easier with time...
The cemetery where my dad is buried, along with three of my grandparents and other relatives, is by my house. I can see it if I stand on the street next to mine. However, the entrance is all the way on the other side, while the graves are closer to my house. I don't go there much though because for someone reason I don't feel comfortable going there alone. Perhaps that is a good thing but I've not visited anyone's grave, not counting my dad's, in a long time. I should ask hubby to take me there.
@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
15 Nov 22
If the cemetery is far away then it'd be difficult to go there often. Do you drive? I don't, though I have a license.
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@MarieCoyle (40300)
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16 Nov 22
@lovebuglena Yes, I own a car and I drive all the time. There are a few places I refuse to drive, though. I can navigate cities just fine, but there are a few that are nightmares to get around in, so I usually try to leave those to someone else if possible. I was born in Chicago. I absolutely refuse to drive there. I will drive as far as the suburbs, then someone else can drive.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
26 Nov 22
They are still standing. 
One of the reasons I love daisies. They last a while.
One of the reasons I love daisies. They last a while.1 person likes this
@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
26 Nov 22
He left us too soon. I did not expect that. He was only 70, passing away less than two months short of his birthday.
My mom finally called AT&T and got rid of his line from our account. I guess that means I should delete his contact from my phone. There is no one to call anyway. 
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@DaddyEvil (140422)
• United States
12 Nov 22
I'm sorry... I think you should have ignored the lady and gone to visit his grave. You can always believe your dad would have been happy you came to visit him.
@DaddyEvil (140422)
• United States
13 Nov 22
@lovebuglena If you go, I'm sure you'll be happy you did.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Nov 22
@DaddyEvil It will also be sad but I think I will feel better as well. My grandparents (his side and my mom's dad) are buried there. I'd want to visit their graves as well. And my paternal grandma's half-sister is buried in a cemetery next to this one.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Nov 22
I still want to do that. Maybe I will go today.
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@LindaOHio (183822)
• United States
12 Nov 22
I'm sorry you couldn't visit your Dad. Is it one of those Jewish traditions where you can't visit the grave after a certain number of days?
@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
13 Nov 22
When you bury someone you can visit on the 7th day and on the 30th day after the burial. I am not sure when you can visit after that. Maybe it really is a year that you have to wait.
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@lovebuglena (45224)
• Staten Island, New York
14 Nov 22
@LindaOHio Not sure what sheloshim is. But based on this I guess you shouldn't visit until a year passes. Then again, each person follows what they want to follow. No one says you must do what it says, right?
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@LindaOHio (183822)
• United States
15 Nov 22
@lovebuglena That's right. I say if you want to visit his grave, go ahead....but then I"m not Jewish so I don't know how strict "the rules" are.
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