I need some advice
@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
November 13, 2022 5:10am CST
I haven't been here for several months from now .
I think that this year has been one of the worse year yet! So far (of course aside from pandemic!)
Started the year with my hubby's mom worsening condition, we lost here early in the mid year , we try to get back to track by sending my hubby at school to let him think of other stuff rather than grieve everyday for his lost
and just last 3rd-4th quarter has always been though everyday.
When the school yr start, I have transferred my son (Grade 1) to a better school near me and my hubby's work place. But he always tells us that he hates that's school , and he don't even know a single name of his classmate which is very weird and one month passed till we reached on our decision to send him back to his old school where he started kinder . (For the record my son was the third one to leave on the same school, same grade and teacher)
When we send him back, at the very first day he keeps talking he have a friend named ray.. he's always happy and don't say that he don't like school..
But the problem now is he keeps on running at the field randomly, even throw his frustration unto his classmates and that's what I'm worried about.
His not attending to his lesson cause I guess that he knows the lesson that's why he don't pay attention.
When his at home he obeys what we said..but when it comes to school, teacher thinks that my son only wants an attention from her alone for him to do stuffs at school which cannot be done for the school is public and quite have a lot of kids going in the same class..
What should I do??
I getting helpless
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5 responses
@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Nov 22
Can you do volunteer-work at the school?
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@mythociate (21432)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
13 Nov 22
@Hanbinandaeyo Anything you can have students help you do?
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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16 Nov 22
@mythociate ooohh..on point, maybe can have someone..
Will check it
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
I think I can, I really do want to do such as aiding teacher..the problem was I was in critical time where I cannot take leave for it's about the busiest time of the year
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
13 Nov 22
It is not easy. It seems that your child is in need of some sort of attention. You have to discover why is that. When you changed your son back to his old school, you showed him that he can get what he wants from you. You will have to show him that it is not so and that he has to earn some things. In this case, if he wants to stay in this school, he ha to behave. If not, he goes back to the other one.
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@marguicha (223720)
• Chile
13 Nov 22
@Hanbinandaeyo You might take him to a child psychologist.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
@marguicha we're on schedule to a developmental pedia for evaluation about this matter
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
We actually did that .. but nothing works now..
I send him back because I saw how the teacher was bias against my son, and my head couldn't feel at ease when he was there.
I was now thinking what did I do wrong..
Did I work too early hay..
He always gets attention whenever we're at home and I can't seem to understand why do that at school
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@popciclecold (39475)
• United States
16 Jan 23
My two sons transferred ti anoher school, and younger son would not go. I talked teacher at old school and they went back..Does he have a hard time learning in his class. Find the root problem, my kids were being picked on.
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@popciclecold (39475)
• United States
17 Jan 23
@Hanbinandaeyo I am so glad to hear that not that being bullied is a good thing. Perhaps you all can figure out another solution. Have a nice day.
@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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17 Jan 23
Lesson was not a problem at all for my son.
He gets along with classmates well, but sometimes I got to see some classmate was picking on him, like a typical school scenario.
My son gets easily frustrated on some other stuff
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
13 Nov 22
Hmm... I wonder if you could tell him that if he isn't going to do what his teacher wants, then you'll have to transfer him back to the school near your work and see if that worries him enough to start listening to his teacher. (It's a mean thing to do to him but if he won't listen, then you have to do something... I can't think of anything else that might work.)
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
We did actually did that but nothing happens..
Now my mom actually go to school with him, keeping an eye on him to do school task and avoid running on the field. (Started 3 days ago)
I keep on track with this one..
So far while mom was there he can't just ran randomly cause my mom was just outside the room..
Take note that parents should not be allowed at school (to make students independent)
But for him was an exception..
Principal said it was okay since as her observation, my son isn't prepared for a formal lesson..as long as no accident will occur
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@DaddyEvil (137504)
• United States
13 Nov 22
@Hanbinandaeyo Oh, then maybe something else is wrong? I don't know what, though. This doesn't make a lot of sense.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
@DaddyEvil I know right?
It's getting skeptical..
Although I think this was the cause of lack of socialization for childrens during the years of pandemic..
He really doesn't get out when pandemic hits and have very least socializing with other people for we too are scared for him getting the virus
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@Happy2BeMe (99380)
• Canada
13 Nov 22
Being a parent is very difficult. As a parent you only want to do what is best for your child. They will test you and see what they can get away with. I eou4ld suggest counselling as a family and see if you can solve this issue.
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@Hanbinandaeyo (3301)
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13 Nov 22
Thank you.. I appreciate it..
In the mean time I was waiting for our schedule with a pedia evaluate our concern
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