I want my happy place back

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They say that eventually roles switch and kids end up taking care of their parents when they get older. No one told me that meant when the parent no longer wants to be an adult and not when they actually need the help. A little back story: My mom got remarried in May of 2017 to an abusive drunk. Since then, we either had no contact due to her husband or she lived with me various times when the abuse got to be too great and she would leave or he would kick her out. Each time, she would end up going back to him. June 8, 2022 - my mom’s husband kicked her out again and she’s been living with me ever since. When she moved in with me, we were preparing to move out of the house we shared with my stepdad who died in November 2021. His daughter was taking the house so we had to get out. I told my mom that we were going to buy a house and if she came with us then she needed to contribute to the household bills and the mortgage especially if I had to buy a 3 bedroom house now instead of a 2 bedroom one for me and my daughter. She agreed at that time. From June to the end of August 2022, my mom did not give me any money other than what she wanted me to set aside for her so she didn’t spend it. August 27th, we moved into the house that I was buying from my dad. The last place I remember being truly happy. And still, she has not contributed to anything but she has also completely taken over the house. All of her stuff is everywhere. I put up one thing and she had a fit then when I reminded her that this was my house, I got attitude and the “well i don’t have to live here you know” My happy place has become toxic and my mom is what’s making it toxic. There are days when it’s a good day then my mom will start calling me a b***h for no reason or rag on my daughter or the house not being as clean as she thinks it should be. She hates our music and when we are singing along to some of our favorite songs, she says we sound like dying cats. I am starting to wish it was just me, my daughter and our animals. We were so much happier. My mom has a new man now and she’s acting like a child/teenager and doesn’t respect me or my house. She has a fit if I invite people to my house but she can have her man come whenever she wants. I just don’t get it. She is a moocher and a squatter. And I'm tired of it. I know it will hurt my daughter but I am seriously thinking of telling my mom that she needs to leave. Either chip in or get out. It's getting to the point where I don’t even want to come home anymore. I just want my happy place back.