Steadfast
By Darcy Nemo
@YrNemo (20255)
January 2, 2023 7:41pm CST
I first met this couple a decade ago at a 3-4YO kid's birthday party, they were in their 50s at the time, very happy, very down to earth, quite well off with a number of investment properties and remained in love/best friends to each other. The wife laughingly told me, 'we have been with each other since high school.'
I bumped into them often afterwards since one of her grandchildren and one of my young charges, happened to do ballet with each other. The couple remained steadfast to each other to my admiration.
A few years ago, their granddaughter quit ballet just before Covid19 happening.
I bumped into her suddenly half a year ago, walking towards a place some streets away to ours. I happily greeted her, 'hey, long time no see. You don't live around here! Where are you going?'
She gave me a sad look, 'We broke up! I am going back to my mom's house.'
The reason was this simple: returning home from work, she got mad seeing her husband just sat there watching TV and left things in a mess for almost a week (he got his own handyman business). He disappeared soon afterwards.
By the time she located him some days later, he sent her a text message with something similar to this, 'This lady customer of mine has been very obliging as a bed partner and cook. Tell you what, I will keep both of you.'
She shrugged her shoulders, told me yesterday, 'I successfully made him divide our properties. I just bought a new place close to all amenities. I am now having a new partner who has been working with me for 2 decades.' (She has always been the stronger - being older - among the two.)
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I feel sad seeing another stable marriage gone. This lady, luckily, has successfully moved on, with her finance all secured.
I hope the divorce rate in your area is less than where I am, which is almost 50/50
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@LadyDuck (472074)
• Switzerland
3 Jan 23
Divorced couples in Europe are around 30%, I think even lower in the area where I live. I met my husband when I was 18, we married when I was 20 and we are still together after 53 years.
Among my cousins there have been 2 divorces and 18 successful marriages.
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@much2say (56053)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Jan 23
It's really sad to hear of couples splitting up after being together for so long . . . but well, they have their reasons. I have often found these things out through Facebook . . . it was shocking because they found new partners, and I had not known they had broken up.
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@FourWalls (69008)
• United States
3 Jan 23
Good for the lady! And if he could just find a new “bed partner and cook” in a matter of days then it wasn’t as stable as you think.
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@YrNemo (20255)
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3 Jan 23
the photo? I took it, no clue who that fisherman was. I was more interested in the duck!
Hey, long time no see! How are you? How is life? How are your kids now ? (Thinking of you VERY often...)
@YrNemo (20255)
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3 Jan 23
@RubyHawk I admire her. I admire people who dare trying again and again. One of my in-laws tried 8 times. She got lucky the last time. (THAT didn't include all the boyfriends.) - Both are in their 80s now, don't think they have any energy to go find a family lawyer. (But the new husband kept mumbling complaining about his bad luck!)
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
3 Jan 23
She needs you all the more now. You can blame that other woman for this mess I suppose.
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@allknowing (137781)
• India
4 Jan 23
@YrNemo Finally one cannot clap hands with one hand.
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@YrNemo (20255)
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4 Jan 23
I heard more cases these days in which people married (both genders) agan and again about 3-4 times.
@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
5 Jan 23
Oh wow. That's too bad. I mean, true, life is too short to spend with someone you're not happy with or meant for or, if there is any abuse happening. I just wish the divorce rate weren't so high. Here I think it's slightly higher than 50 50
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@FayeHazel (40243)
• United States
12 Jan 23
@YrNemo Ha ha, oh dear it sounds like they really have it all planned out. They should be ware - a lot of less than scrupulous American men lie about how much they make and allow some of these foreign ladies to believe they are wealthy American men, when... they really aren't.
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@YrNemo (20255)
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5 Jan 23
I met younger girls (overseas students) in their early 20s. Quite a few told me that they planned to find someone in their 30s to marry (so that they can get their green cards easily.). Not only that, those guys should also have a stable income and plenty of saving, so that after one year of marriage, if the marriage break down, at least they could walk away with half of their partner's saving & asset etc.
Smart planning heh? No wonder the divorce rate keeps going up 
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
12 Jan 23
No divorce on our country. Only marriage annulment and it's only the rich could avail of it.
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@Nakitakona (56486)
• Philippines
14 Jan 23
@YrNemo Now you know. That's how unique our country as far as marriage is concerned.
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