How much do you miss your 80 plus parents?

You will miss their company as you will have nothing to do then. Sometimes when our elders live with us, it's like a blessing. My father is 77 years now and we always take his advice when we are stuck somewhere because he has more practical experiences in life.

Life is getting too long, lately. I have decided to be more with people around my own age than with my daughters. They love me, but they are not much interested in what I have to say anymore. And maybe it happens to me too.

Be thankful you still have them. I lost both of mine in their mid 70's to cancers.

You will miss every moment that you spent with your near and dear ones. That's something natural and we all have faced the situation.

as time passes you must miss him more than that.

Time goes by so fast without us even realizing it. get through it all with strength. someday, maybe you will miss them

Over Christmas, due to some stresses I was having, I really missed both of my parents. I was not their caregiver, and they were not together. Mom has been gone over 20 years, dad only two, or three maybe. My elderly sister is seriously ill and I am a caregiver for her part time. I am not ready to let her go.

You will miss them. Only now you can't see it. My mom was lived with me. After I missed a lot of things. Like cooking for her. Her attacks on me. You have to be without it before you know.

You can't know that until they're gone. What you should do, enjoy them while they're here.

I don't regret taking care of my parents but I don't miss that part. I miss sitting down talking to my mom and watching my dad work in the yard and garden. I miss the good stuff.

Bless you for caring for them. Its an important and not often praised job that you are doing. My Mom lived to be 97. Her last years were sad and hard on the family emotionally.

Oh my, hugs to you Vanny

You might have some regrets; but it's hard not getting annoyed when you deal with someone who is senile. It's human nature. Don't worry!

I do know being a caregiver to anyone for any length of time is just HARD for the most part. If you are related to that person, I think it's even worse, because you love them and it's so hard to see them go downhill. The thing I think that is the hardest is when someone has absolutely no joy, and no quality of life. They are just here, not caring, maybe hurting terribly mentally or physically, and existing. Often times, they want to pass on as they are just tired of fighting. Very difficult for the loved ones and the caregivers. Please try not to worry about regrets you may or may not have in the future. It sounds as if you are doing the very best that you can under the circumstances. What would happen if you just said, I'm done here. Is there a place that they could go, a care facility, or somesuch? Sometimes, a person has to stop. It doesn't make them a bad person, it just means you have to go live your life, and time goes by...sorry you have to go through this for so long.

Both my parents are no more. We took turns looking after them and was not easy as we were working abroad. My mother passed away in 2020 and by that time we were retired. In fact, we took retirement as it was the only way out to spend time with her. I remember them as loving and compassionate and deserved the attention we gave them. My mother used to say in her final years she wanted to go before anything happened to any of us. I am rather relieved that she passed away at the age of 92 as she was laid up and we could not do much to relieve her pain. We did our best and we know they left in peace like I want to when in reasonable health. I remember the good times we had and thanks for the memories. They did their best and we reciprocated too.

The elders are assets of the family. I lost my father when he was 71 years old. Sometimes I feel what else I could have communicated with him during his lifetime. Health of human beings deteriorate without notice. there was no indication that he will leave the world. As long as your father and aunt are breathing you deal with them in the best way you feel.

Both my parents have passed now, and I think of them often and fondly. I miss their support, caring and love. My mom gave us a terrific home life filled with fun memories especially during the holidays which she enjoyed as much as us kids. My dad was a person who always had our best interests at heart, thought of us all the time, and would do anything for us. You never reflect on those things growing up and even into adulthood parents are taken for granted. Oh, you may thank them for their help, but the scope of their love and support can not be measured with just a thank you. .. I miss them all the time!

I know how you feel. But it's normal to feel bad sometimes.

Continue to provide them care so that when they leave the earth you can remember them the good you did to them.