I think I've lost a friendship
By maggie Sun
@maggiesunjuan (554)
China
January 12, 2023 8:57am CST
I am now uneasy and anxious beause I think I lost a friendship.
She was not actually a real good friend of mine, but she helped me and gave me some advice when I needed help. And we talked a lot at that time, shared our thoughts, and she was really nice to me. I was gratitude and happy at that time. But these two years we seldom talked and I don't think she trusts me as the same as before. She never likes me on social media any more.
I remember I read a line saying, if you lost a friendship, let it be.
Have you had such experience as I did?
What would you do when you think you've lost a friendship?
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@MarieCoyle (38998)
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13 Jan 23
I had a school friend decide we shouldn't be friends anymore. She confronted me and said ''I heard you had a date with a black man'' and it really made me angry. I met him and his wife for lunch, he got there first, then me, we waited on his wife who was running late. I've known them since college years, but my (ex) friend didn't know them. I told her there was nothing wrong with going out with a black man if I wanted to (yes, I have before). She said that was just wrong and if I did go out with one I was going to go to Hell. She isn't my friend anymore. Nope.
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@maggiesunjuan (554)
• China
13 Jan 23
Oh my. Sorry to hear this.I don't think friends should order each other what to do and what not to do, even the closest ones. Everybody has his own choices, every soul needs to be respected. There should not be any measurements on being a friend.
Hope you have a happy day!
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@maggiesunjuan (554)
• China
16 Jan 23
I remember there is a song called Love is Color Blind. People should not judge others by color. Everyone deserves to be respected. I'm glad that you assist what you think is right.
@MarieCoyle (38998)
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13 Jan 23
@maggiesunjuan
I am simply glad that I do not pick my friends by the color of their skin. She evidently does. That's her loss.
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@maggiesunjuan (554)
• China
13 Jan 23
Thanks, Judy, I've talked with her this morning. I think we are still friends now. You are right, friendship needs to be nurtured.
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@JudyEv (342448)
• Rockingham, Australia
13 Jan 23
@maggiesunjuan That's good that you've talked to her. Good for you.
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@snowy22315 (182671)
• United States
12 Jan 23
I guess my thought would be how much did she mean to you? Is she worth having in your life, if so...I would reach out and see how she is feeling. If she won't respond to you, best to let it go.
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@maggiesunjuan (554)
• China
12 Jan 23
We work in a same building but not the same department. We're real friends not virtual ones. Maybe I think too much. Maybe she's just busy.
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@LadyDuck (472222)
• Switzerland
13 Jan 23
@maggiesunjuan In this case I think there is nothing wrong, as you say, may be she is just busy.
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@MrDenata (12295)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 23
Are you sure you lost it, Maggie? The older we get, we have to realize that we cant always see or talk with our friend anymore, not like we used to when we were young.
And you said " she never likes you on your social media anymore". Thats not a sign you lost them, people busy with their own life and as a friend we have to understand it. Maybe after this try to make appointment with her to meet up at some place and talk, even for an hour or less.
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@maggiesunjuan (554)
• China
13 Jan 23
Thanks Ric, I thought of this for a while, never getting likes on my social media is not a sign, I've talked with her this morning, I think we're ok. At times I think too much of something, and I'm sure it's not a symptom left after covid
maybe I was just born with it in my genes.
maybe I was just born with it in my genes.1 person likes this
@MrDenata (12295)
• Indonesia
13 Jan 23
@maggiesunjuan i never talk to my best friend on social media, it doesnt mean we are not care for each other anymore. I am not type of person who always talk or message my friend through social media but we always have each others back. Thats what friend are for.
Do you remember back then, when we have no phone (smartphone) or social media but we still maintaine to keep our relationship with our friends, right?
