Addictions Are So Nasty / myLot

Boise, Idaho

January 25, 2023 4:29pm CST

My daughter had an appointment for her meds shot at 3p. It was a few minutes before the driver was scheduled to come and so she goes down to the other end of the complex to find a cigarette butt. The driver of course picks this day to come early and came while she was gone and out of shouting distance. So he drove off. My daughter comes in just as he has gone. Addictions are so nasty. My daughter has been a smoker since she was 13. She can't afford to buy packs enough to appease her nicotine addiction so she scavenges for cigarette butts or gets the occasional one from neighbors. Disgusting but addictions are just that -- demeaning. disgusting and horrific. I do the transportation for both my daughter and my grandson. Why? Because I am better on the phone and it gives me something to do. I am not happy. Anger might be a good descriptive word.

I gave her the word too. I told her that when her addiction starts taking over her life and causing problems for her you need to look at it more seriously. (She has tried to quit in the past and has made several valiant efforts but always comes back to them.) They did set her up. Telehealth for today to talk to her doctor and then she will get her shot on Monday. So it is all worked out. Just drives me up a wall when my kids can't carry out these small things in their lives. What will they do when I am gone? I ask myself that a lot.

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@DaddyEvil (137784)

• United States

25 Jan 23

As soon as you stop helping them, they will figure it out for themselves, in my opinion. But I do the same for Pretty. Pretty refused for years to get help with her agoraphobia. I had to go with her everywhere she wanted to go or she wouldn't go. She's been seeing a psychologist for over a year now and can do our grocery shopping when I am sick and won't get out of the car after driving her to the store. (She can't drive and doesn't want to learn.) One day, I won't be able to drive anymore and she'll have to do that part on her own, too.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (168542)

• Boise, Idaho

25 Jan 23

Sounds like she is coming along nicely. My daughter has a slight learning disability and so she doesn't retain things. Makes life very aggravating for me since I was taught her how to do things when younger and now she doesn't do them. But today was a rare occurrence. This used to happen a lot with my grandson but not with her. I just worry so much that their transportation company is going to stop because they don't get out there when the driver comes. My grandson usually makes them wait for some dumb I am just a person who doesn't want to make anyone wait on me so it makes me nervous when someone is waiting on them. Dysfunction reigns supreme in our household.

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celticeagle

@celticeagle (168542)

• Boise, Idaho

26 Jan 23

@DaddyEvil ........I had bad PTSD after I finally was able to get away from my husband. When someone would knock on the door or ring the bell I would freak and run to the other side of the house. So I can understand Pretty's situation.

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@DaddyEvil (137784)

• United States

25 Jan 23

@celticeagle

I totally understand. Pretty won't answer the door or the phone when we're waiting for someone to show up or call... I told her she will have to start doing that for herself because I'm not going to do it. She told me as long as I'm not sick, I can do it anyway. (She refuses to give anyone her phone number so she doesn't have to answer the phone. It's annoying. I sleep during the daytime and a phone call always wakes me up and then I have trouble going back to sleep. *sigh*) We aren't any better.

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